Does physique matter when it comes to flirting? 3 reflections on beauty

Is being attractive more flirtatious? Does looks matter?

The world will end before we stop asking ourselves this question: Does physique matter when it comes to flirting?

It would be an unconsciousness to say that nothat physique doesn't matter at all and that handsome and ugly people flirt equally. We only need to take a look around us to realize that the handsome are more attractive than the ugly and are more successful when it comes to finding a partner.

Is being attractive more flirtatious? Does physique matter?

But what does it mean to be handsome? what is being handsome and what is being ugly? The answer may vary depending on who is answering. Ugly and handsome are often very subjective concepts. We can say that such and such a person is handsome or that such and such a person is ugly. But if we focus on what makes them ugly or what makes them beautiful, things change; it will be more difficult to answer. The same could happen if we show a group of friends a photo of a guy and ask them if they consider him ugly or handsome. Surely a small debate about tastes, opinions and preferences will be created.

• I recommend you to take a break and read this post: "11 things you should never do to try to seduce".

Next, we will expose three reflections about ugliness and beauty that will help you think differently and look at beauty from three different perspectives. Perhaps by the time you finish reading this article, your self-esteem will be starting to rise.

1. Go outside and observe

Let's go for a walk for a while and feel the sun and fresh air on our faces. Let's walk around attentively observing the people on the street. We are sure to see people of every gender, race, age and class. Let's look at each of them and try to determine whether they are handsome or ugly. Let us compare them, first, among themselves. Let's observe their eyes, their mouths, their bodies.... Let's walk around like judges in a beauty contest.

Then, let's change the subject of comparison to ourselves. Let's contrast ourselves with the rest of the people. It may be easier for us to judge if we use our self-concept as a filter. self-concept. According to our self-esteem, there will be more people in the bag of the handsome than in the bag of the ugly and vice versa. Finally, before going home, let's compare the people passing by on the street with the canons of beauty that have been implanted in us by movies and advertising; let's compare all the guys with Brad Pitt. It makes a difference, doesn't it? Surely the bag of the ugly is overflowing.

2. Let's reinterpret genetics

At The Journey to Love, Eduard Punset explained very well what love is and its mechanisms of attraction. In his book he explained something that everyone knows: people are attracted to and, consequently, we see better looking individuals with better genetics.

According to this theory the people with the best physique are the ones who flirt the most.. Therefore, people with better genetics are the most flirtatious. But, what is genetics and what is not? We are used to understand that genetic traits are palpable and observable characteristics: eye color, musculature, height, hair, teeth... but isn't personality observable?

Is not the behavior of people observable according to their actions and their way of being? Is not intelligence, cognitive abilities or humor also genetic? Just as we go to the gym to get the most out of our bodies, can't we train our personality to make it more attractive? How many times have we heard a girl say "that guy was really hot until he opened his mouth"?

3. Darwin could explain a few things to us

Let's think back to our school years. Who was the most flirtatious at that time? The stages of socialization and learning mark us for life and it is in adolescence when we forge many of our beliefs about beauty. If we become evolutionists and remember what we were told about Darwin at school, we can understand why it was always the hooligans, the boys who excelled at sports or the boys who were simply good looking because they had pretty eyes and beautiful hair.

Regarding the reason why 'tough guys' flirt more, I think it is essential to read the article "Why women prefer tough guys?" by psychologist Bertrand Regader, in which he explains the personality profile Dark triad' personality profile that women are so attracted to.

The bad boy attracts, but it's a downward trend....

According to evolutionists, girls are attracted to males who can protect them and give them better offspring. Although this theory is highly debatable, there is some truth to it. If we stick to this hypothesis, we can understand why in high school it was always the same people who were able to pick up the girls they liked. The girls had families that protected them and they didn't need anything else. They didn't need to look at the smart guys. It was enough for them to look at the most handsome boys because their stability did not depend on them, at least not financially. If we think about the previous reflection, for them beauty was reduced to something superficial and banal because their needs at that time were already covered elsewhere. elsewhere.

To sum up, beauty is a subjective factor that has genetic roots.but which we can work on, either physically or intellectually. The canons of beauty are references that we must take into account but, outside the television, there is a real life in which we must live happily. Let's not let the learnings and beliefs we generated in the past torment us and let's learn to understand the world in a new way that protects and improves our self-esteem and self-concept.

More tips to be more attractive (even if you don't think you are)

We have recently published a post that can make you value the subject of physical attractiveness from another perspective. In addition to all that we have already exposed, you should keep in mind that there are some keys to be able to attract other people. Experience and polishing some details can make us much more attractive when it comes to finding someone to share special moments with.

• You can check it out by reading this post: "10 ways to be more attractive (scientifically proven)".