Online couples therapy in times of confinement

These are the reasons why online couples therapy is a great help in the face of the pandemic.

At the moment we are in the coronavirus pandemic, psychologists do not want to leave you alone; my psychotherapy clinic does not close, and is at your disposal for whatever you need; we are working online and you can consult us at any time.

Working online is very beneficial for our patients, because we do the therapy from home, in a comfortable and informal way; moreover, in the case of couples therapy, the good thing is that since both members of the couple are at home all day (or most of the day if one of them has to go out to work), it is very easy for both patients and us, the professionals, to make appointments and have a relaxed and unhurried session time.

For all these reasons, I would like to emphasize that now is a very good time to do online couples therapy.. Online work is just as effective as face-to-face work and therefore, if you need it, it is very convenient that you continue with the routines and therapies necessary for your well-being without letting the impossibility of going out to the street be an obstacle for this.

Couple and confinement

In the situation that we live these days it is completely normal that conflicts arise in the pairsSince we are living together much longer, with new routines and within a context of state of alarm. It is normal to face this type of conflicts, and if we do not drag a previous crisis, we can successfully overcome all the frictions or discussions that may arise.

Another different thing is that we are going through a delicate moment in our relationship.. It is here when the confinement is an unfavorable scenario for couples who were already dragging some kind of crisis or a previous unstable situation. Confinement can enhance this type of crisis and lead to a very delicate and unstable situation, which will be greatly aggravated by the fact of having to continue living together in an imperative way.

Therefore, I would like to tell you that if you are in this kind of situation, think that it is the right time to do online couple therapy. We always have to look at the positive side. As I said before, it is an advantage to have more time, to be able to do it from home, and also to have more availability to practice the exercises in the time between sessions with me.

One thing I would like to emphasize is the fact that in China there is a very noticeable increase in China there is a very noticeable increase in the number of divorces due to the confinement. As it happens when returning from summer or Christmas vacations, in our country there is also an increase of divorces after having lived together for several weeks in a more intense way.

In Spain the same thing can happen, that is to say, that after the confinement, there is an increase in the number of divorces, but I would like to emphasize that the separations are not produced by the mere fact of the confinement or an excess of cohabitation, but they are a consequence of crises that have been dragging in the time, of relationships that were already bad before, and that explode or are aggravated during the confinement.

For that reason it is very important to detect if in your relationship there are problems, if there is a crisis in the loving bond, and thus to know if we are ready to take the relationship forward. Confinement can definitively break our relationship, but if we do an online couple therapy it is possible to that not only the crisis is overcome, but also the relationship is strengthened..

Method of online couple therapy

I am going to explain how we do online couples therapy. First of all, it is important to know that the therapy is carried out with both partners, either separately or at the same time.. We use the Skype program, and we must have an Internet connection:

1. Cross interviews

What I usually do at the beginning are cross interviews, one with one person and one with the other person, of about 15 minutes each. The aim is to cross-check data and see that you are really clear about the initial problem..

2. Session together

Then we have a session together in which I give objectives, how many sessions we are going to do, what points we are going to work on, etc.

3. Tasks between sessions

Taking into account the current situation and the availability of each one, I give tasks to do between sessions in order to put into practice all the aspects in order to put into practice all the aspects that arise in the sessions focused on strengthening the weak points of the relationship.

4. Follow-up of progress

In most cases, with an average of 8 to 10 sessions, the problem is solved.

5. The importance of commitment to therapy

A very important aspect before starting the therapy is that that the people I am going to work with are fully motivated and give 100% to solve the problem. and give 100% to solve the problem. If for whatever reason, I detect that it is not your case, or it is not your time, do not worry, we will not start therapy, we will wait or we will look for other ways.

To learn more...

You can watch this video, in which I explain in more detail the working method of couples therapy. As a psychologist, I specialize in couples therapy work and in therapy with women who have emotional dependency or low self-esteem levels.

Remember that in the crisis of the coronavirus we do not leave you alone, we continue with Skype sessions, which are just as effective as in face-to-face mode.. We are also doing live on Instagram every Tuesday at 19h. Contact us for any questions or queries through the contact details on this page. It is also possible to see more tips on this and other topics on my Instagram, and on my Youtube channel.