How do you notice chemistry between two people?

A summary of the signs of chemistry between two people interacting with each other.

The human being is a social and gregarious being that throughout history has built bonds with his peers in order to survive. The need to contact others and to relate to them is innate.

But such interactions are not always the same: sometimes we may feel more similar, identified or compatible with one group or person than with others.

Sometimes we meet someone with whom we feel deeply connected, whose presence attracts us and generates well-being, excitement and joy. And although it can sometimes be difficult for us to see, there are a number of elements that can give us clues as to whether or not such chemistry exists. How do you notice chemistry between two people? Let's take a look.

Chemistry in relationships

Before entering to value different indications that can indicate the existence of chemistry or mutual attraction, it can be useful to make a brief mention with respect to the meaning of the concept to which we are making reference.

The consideration of the existence of chemistry between two people is made between both can be observed a series of behavioral and physical/physiological manifestations that show the existence of a deep affinity between them..

These manifestations, visible in the way they interact, are produced unconsciously or semi-consciously. That is, they are not the product of a voluntary manipulation by either of the parties involved. In addition, for chemistry to exist between two, it must be bidirectional.otherwise it would be mere attraction of one towards the other.

The origin of this mutual affinity has been the subject of discussion since antiquity, but among the various explanations that have been offered in this regard we can find both Biological and environmental factors.

For example, some authors propose that chemistry is the product of an identification with the other derived from the observation of personality and behavior patterns which coincide or resemble what we have learned throughout life that generates well-being and happiness.

This coincidence predisposes us positively towards the other person, which in turn can lead to a positive attitude towards the other person.This coincidence predisposes us positively towards the other person, something that in turn can make it easier for the other person to do the same. To this we must add the existence of attraction on an emotional and/or physical level. Several neurotransmitters and brain nuclei participate in this sensation of proximity and interest, highlighting the role of dopamine, phenylethylamine or noradrenaline. The influence of pheromones in this process has also been proposed.

It is worth noting that although this is a concept that is generally is mainly used when talking about couple relationships or affective-sexual attraction, the idea of the existence of chemistry between people is not limited to this area.The idea of the existence of chemistry between people is not limited to this area. In fact we can talk about the existence of chemistry with friends, family or even in the workplace.

Signs of this compatibility between people

Next we will see a series of aspects to take into account that can serve as indications of the existence of attraction and chemistry between two people, or on the part of one of them towards the other. It must be taken into account that we are talking about signs, not a clear and univocal sign of attraction.

Likewise, such attraction does not have to be only or may not even include physical or sexual attraction.

Finally, the signs we are going to refer to are going to be behaviors or physical changes that can be observed regardless of the sex of such persons; they are valid for both men and women.

1. Gaze focused on the other

When there is chemistry between two people, one of the clearest indications of the existing interest can be observed in the gaze of both.

Specifically, in the time spent looking at each other. Generally, when feeling attraction towards another person, one tends to look at that person (not necessarily in the eyes) for a large proportion of time, compared to the attention paid to the other person..

This is relatively easy to observe, especially in group situations.

2. Pupillary dilation

The attraction generates that in an unconscious way our pupils dilate. in such a way that as much light as possible enters the interior of the eye, so that we can observe in more detail the other.

3. Searching for each other

A sign of the existence of chemistry between two people is the fact that they tend to seek each other out, i.e., that even on an unconscious level they seek contact or an encounter with the other person. This is more revealing if there are frequent encounters between two people between two people who live in very different places.

4. Smile and laughter

Another sign can be found in the fact that two people who feel attracted to each other will tend to smile constantly in a natural way, as a reflection of feelings of well-being. reflection of the sensations of well-being that the presence of the other person implies..

It is also common that if there is interest between two people, the sense of humor is higher and there is a tendency to laugh easily at any positive or humorous comment.

5. Searching for shared interests

Among the behavioral signs that reveal the existence of interest and chemistry between two people is the presence and/or pursuit of multiple shared interests. In this sense, there is a mutual interest in knowing each other's opinions and tastes, even without a specific purpose. In addition, if common elements are found, they can be used to can be used to foster interaction..

6. Prolonged conversations

When there is chemistry between two people, it is common that the conversation with the other person can be prolonged indefinitely, and there may even be a feeling of losing track of the other person's feelings. there may even be the sensation of losing track of time..

At this point, however, it should be taken into account that shy people may be afraid of prolonging the conversation and be rather terse, without lacking interest (in fact, it may be more difficult for them).

However, it is possible that it is the topic of conversation and not the person him/herself that arouses interest, so this fact should be taken into account and not jump to hasty conclusions.

7. Physical distance

Another factor that can indicate the presence of attraction or chemistry between two people is the distance that separates them.

It is usual that two people attracted to each other tend to get closer and reduce the distance between them. and reduce the distance between them. In fact, in many cases both people can enter each other's personal space (the distance we usually keep with others and that if someone crosses it can become uncomfortable) without being invasive.

8. Direct physical contact

We live in a society where physical contact is not as frequent as it might seem. In general, except when greeting each other, we do not usually touch other people unless they are very close to us. However, when there is attraction or chemistry it is common that there may be spontaneous physical contact, such as touching or brushingsuch as touching or brushing the arm, face, back or hands.

9. Foot Orientation

Another sign of attraction between two people is found in the orientation of their feet. It is common for us to unconsciously point one or both feet in the direction of the person we are interested in.

10. Body orientation

It is also common that we tend to orient our body in such a way that both people are facing each other, with our shoulders and torso aligned with the other person's. This does not imply a mutual chemistry. This does not imply a mutual chemistry per se since it can happen due to numerous factors, but if both people seek to be facing each other, it could be an indication of a mutual chemistry. could be an indication.

11. Imitation

When there is chemistry between two people they tend to imitate, at an unconscious level, each other's behaviors. We copy or acquire habits or actions, but also aspects such as modulating the tone of voice to adjust it to that of the other, gestures, ways of speaking and even of moving (for example, we imitate the rhythm at which the other walks).

12. Complicity and trust

Another aspect that tells us about the existence of chemistry between two people is the existence of complicity and ease in trusting the other. It is frequent that in front of a person with whom we have chemistry we tend unconsciously to be able to confide more things to him/her than to the rest. In the same way, it is easier for us to feel understood by the other person..

13. Empathy

Deeply linked to the previous point, it is common that when there is mutual interest and chemistry, it is easier to try to understand the thoughts, opinions and emotions of the other, besides being relatively easier to to put oneself in their place and imagine what may be going through his or her mind.

This fact is relevant when comparing the one that exists with that person with the one you normally have with most people.

14. Disposition towards each other

Finally, it is common that between two people who are attracted to each other, the disposition towards each other is also greatly increased. We are more thoughtful and generous and we devote more time and effort to spending time and/or performing acts that please or help the person we are interested in.

Bibliographical references:

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• Carreño, M. (1991). Psychosocial aspects of love relationships. Santiago de Compostela: University of Santiago de Compostela.