If you want to get married and avoid divorce, do it at this age.

The age at which you get married could influence the future and prosperity of your marriage.

Nowadays, divorces are the order of the day and marriages seem to be on the decline. According to Eurostat (the European statistics office), in Spain there are fewer and fewer marriages, having fallen by as much as 56% in the last 50 years.. 

These figures have aroused the interest of many psychologists and sociologists. A research claims to have found the ideal age to get married, and in this article we echo this information.

Modern society and the commoditization of relationships

Relationships between people and the bonds established between them evolve over the years, especially in couple relationships. When things go well, relationships grow stronger and the feeling of love grows.The relationship is a partnership, and there is a greater degree of rapport, fidelity and intimacy. However, this is not always the case.

Many relationships or marriages fall by the wayside, especially nowadays. In a society like ours, which tends to individuality, selfishness and individualism often predominate in marital crises. Couples break up more and more as society evolves towards the commercialization of love relationships. Bonds are becoming more and more superficial.

Two divorces for every marriage

The causes of the crises are varied. Some couples break up because one of the parties does not feel loved, there has been an infidelity, there has been an infidelity, one of the parties has been unfaithful.There has been an infidelity, one of the two has unrealistic expectations about the marriage or because of simple monotony. Whatever the cause, the reality is there, and the data does not lie.

As an article in the ABC newspaper states: "for every marriage there are two divorces in Spain". A fact that has attracted a lot of attention and shows the reality of Spanish society.

The crisis and divorce

Crises are not bad in themselves. Sometimes, the conflicts that arise within a relationship can fortify the couple's bonds, making them feel more united. This is because these conflicts, if managed correctly, can serve as a learning experience. To think that couple relationships do not go through bad times is not real.

The causes of this situation have many origins, but, if only a few decades ago it was not so common to hear the word divorce, the alternative of many couples when a marital crisis arrives, is to stop living with their lover and slam the door to the relationship.

• If you want to better understand this phenomenon, you can read our article: "Marriage crisis: 5 keys to understand them".

The best age to get married

So what is the solution to this problem? A team of researchers seems to have found a link between age and divorce rates. This research claims that the ideal age to get married is between 28 and 32 years old. The research was carried out by Nick Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah (USA), and was published in the Institute for Family Studies.

According to the findings of this study, couples who marry in that age range divorce less than those who marry at other ages. For his research, the author of the study conducted an analysis with U.S. statistics, with data grouped into two stagesThe author of the study, for his research, conducted an analysis with U.S. statistics, with data grouped in two stages, from 2006-2010 and 2011-2013, and then compared the former with the latter. The results showed that between the ages of 28 and 32 there were fewer divorces, but that divorces increased for each year that moved further away from the latter figure. In other words, at 42 years of age there is a greater chance of divorce than at 35 years of age.

Some conclusions of the study

If these data are confirmed, what are the causes? The author of the study states that it is very likely that 28 to 32 years of age is the ideal age "because at that age, individuals have already reached a certain degree of maturity."

Many people at that time of their lives are already financially solvent and do not have the same desire to experiment that younger people may have. They have a more or less clear idea of what they want in life. Moreover, unlike at older ages, they still have a more or less clear idea of what they want in life, unlike at older ages, they still have the possibility of changing their habits and adapting to the lifestyle and adapt to the lifestyle and common goals that living with a partner requires.

Mature love, one of the keys

Therefore, maturity is one of the keys to the fact that the best age to get married is between 28 and 32 years old. And the fact is that, throughout our lives, we can fall in love more than once.

But first crushes can become more irrational, and the madness caused by the intensity of these loves can take over us. Over the years, we see relationships differently, coming to understand that couple relationships are a constant negotiation in which both partners have their needs..

These types of mature experiences end up being much more satisfying and, many times, are possible thanks to a past love, which made us see things differently. In a more realistic and mature way.

First loves can be unforgettable.But that does not mean that those first feelings of passion and attraction are enough to keep the flame of love alive forever. To love is also learned and to be in a couple as well. For a relationship to work, you also have to learn how to make it work.

• If you want to know more about this type of love, you can read our article, "Mature love: why is second love better than first love?"