The 3 Pillars of Balance in Personal Growth

Several keys have been proposed to guide personal development and change processes.

Throughout history and geography, there are countless psychological, philosophical, sociological and religious currents that have tried to offer answers to the existential questions of life. have tried to offer answers to the existential questions of life that we as individuals endowed with intelligence have that we, as individuals endowed with intelligence, have been able to ask ourselves.

When one immerses oneself in the study of any of the disciplines mentioned above, one is often surprised by examples of thought that, while seeming contemporary to our questions, are in most cases hundreds, if not thousands of years old. For curious minds, devoid of prejudice, it will not be a difficult task to delve into the various sources of wisdom that have tried, with greater or lesser success, to resolve such questions in an effective manner.

By being able to establish associative links between the ultimate foundations of these currents, we can find a series of pillars of wisdom that have tried, more or less successfully, to resolve these questions in an effective manner. a series of pillars of wisdom that have served as a basis for providing answers yesterday and today..

To know oneself, to accept oneself, to overcome oneself

In this effort to find the minimum common divisor of personal balance, we have been able to identify three basic aspects that are repeated over and over again in various techniques and currents that could be summarized in the phrase of St. Augustine: "Know thyself, accept thyself, overcome thyself".

In the conventional cognitive behavioral therapies, we find how a base of beliefs or thoughts, not always conscious for the individual, activate, maintain or direct their behaviors, being necessary for the return to normality, to go through a series of phases of treatment. a series of phases of the treatment which would basically consist of:

1. Evaluation

Identify the causal factors of the behavior through a previous exploration with different types of tools. a previous exploration with different types of assessment tools..

2. Intervention

Use of cognitive and behavioral modification techniquesaimed at the recovery of normal levels of behavior in reference to the general scale.

3. Follow-up

Periodic review of the achievement of the objectives of the intervention and proposals for improvement..

Principles of personal growth from Coaching

In the much reviled and often poorly treated technique of Coaching, according to John Whitmore's CAR modelCAR model, three basic principles are recognized for its operation, which can be summarized in the acronym of said acronym.

1. Consciousness

It would be formed by an objective part, coming from the possibilities offered by our own senses.. What would come to be the personal hardware. And a subjective part, coming from the system of beliefs, values, learning history and other acquired socio-cultural influences, which modify our interpretations of daily reality. It would correspond to the personal "software".

2. Self-belief

As a fundamental basis for the successful development of the technique, it is based on the idea that the individual possesses all the personal all the personal resources necessary to overcome difficulties that are posed to it, understanding that its role in this story is not that of the end itself, but that of the means to achieve it.

3. Responsibility

Once the previous steps of knowledge and acceptance have been internalized, the protagonist of the coaching process assumes the responsibility of action, committing to the execution of new processes that can lead to new solutions. In short, leaving the famous comfort zone and facing the path of self-improvement..

The keys to personal development according to ACT

Finishing this review, we would find the well-known third generation therapies, and specifically the ACT or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. As the name suggests, these types of therapies renounce the old cognitive behavioral efforts to fight against one's own personal nature, finding the key to development and well-being in:

Acceptance

Acceptance, after self-knowledge, can be seen as a necessary tool to overcome deviations from the norm in terms of thoughts, feelings and behaviors. in terms of thoughts, feelings and behaviorsIt incorporates certain nuances of an emotional nature with respect to the previous techniques.

Commitment

Commitment, as a personal will to be the protagonist of the change in accordance with the characteristics and values of our own personal nature..

Finding psychological balance

As can be seen, there are multiple ways of approaching a situation, the same problem, of facing a challenge. But if we make an effort of observation, it is not complicated to find those bases or common pillars that support personal balance.

At UPAD Psychology and Coaching we are aware of this and we like to turn to all kinds of sources of knowledge to implement our work methodology and offer our users all the tools at our disposal for their performance, well-being and personal satisfaction. tools at our disposal for their performance, well-being and personal satisfaction..