Personal Development: satisfaction, well-being and performance

Here are some psychological keys to achieve a higher level of personal well-being.

If I pronounce the word "psychology" and then pause briefly, more than one person's mind will be filled with a myriad of complications arising from the pathological conception we all have in mind, based on the absence of mental health that is eternally and erroneously linked to the aforementioned field.

In a positive sense, that is to say, in that of the development of mental capacities that favor the adequate functioning of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors, it is common to find that the mental health of the individual is not always linked to the field of mental health.In a positive sense, that is, in the development of mental capacities that favor the proper functioning of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors, other recently coined terms are often used, such as the controversial concept of coaching, as if this technique were not closely related to the fundamental objectives of positive psychology.

The fact is that each of us has a machine, perhaps the most powerful of all, I would dare to say, of which, fortunately or unfortunately, we do not have an instruction manual for its operation. We only start from the basis of an eminently common hardware, whose software we develop throughout life through the acquisition of life experiences and learning that ultimately determine our functional capabilities.

Beliefs: fact or science fiction?

Numerous examples can be drawn from the cinematic context in this regard. Anyone worth his salt can recall how Will Smith helped develop his seduction skills for his clients in the movie "Hitch". Or how Lionel Logue did the same when it came to overcoming the stuttering that caused Duke George of York to speak in public in the film "The King's Speech".

The Peaceful Warrior", based on the autobiographical novel by Dan Milman, in which a mystical Nick Nolte, playing the "master" Socrates, collaborated with Scott Mechiowicz (Dan) to develop "the suspension of incessant mental dialogue, the abandonment of the ego and the experience of living fully in the present moment", may be somewhat less known to the general public in its big screen version.

Similarly, it is common to encounter the popular belief based on the stability and permanence of certain psychological characteristics, exemplified to perfection in expressions such as "I am like this" or "I have always behaved this way". As if our interpretations, judgments or beliefs were determined by default, innately, in terms of "you either have it or you don't", without addressing the possibility of development. Something that, on the other hand, happens with each new learning or experience that modifies our associations and neuronal connections. In itself, the very belief of psychological change already opens the door for it to happen..

In order to achieve such changes effectively, there are a series of necessary steps to be able to carry them out successfully. The first and perhaps most difficult of them, would consist of learning to take ourselves less seriously, when considering ourselves as a reliable source of knowledge, since as a general rule, we are all subject to changes in our emotional states that affect our criteria of interpretation over time, being able to develop real barbarities in the form of belief, about ourselves or our capabilities.

We are often capable of resisting the opinions or beliefs of others with which we disagree, we find it more difficult to do the same with the ones we develop ourselves, making good the maxim "if I think it will be because it is true"..

Overcoming for personal development

Another fundamental step necessary to advance, would consist in the disposition to abandon our old and dysfunctional beliefs, like the child who resists to get rid of his old toys with which he hardly enjoys anymore.

It is not so much a matter of analyzing the "why" or the veracity/falsity of our approaches, but rather of changing our criteria of analysis.Rather, it is about changing our criteria of analysis for others based more on the "why" or on the usefulness/utility that certain thoughts provide us with in a more practical sense, when it comes to achieving our objectives of change.

Overcoming this first phase of change involves initially developing the insecurity of those who thought they were walking on solid ground only to discover they were on swampy ground. However, the illusion and motivation that the desired change brings more than justifies the initial state of uncertainty.

With UPAD Psychology and Coaching, reaching new challenges is possible thanks to its personal development processes. The work of beliefs will be fundamental to face with guarantees those new changes that allow the client to achieve high levels of satisfaction, well-being and performance.

"When nothing is certain, everything is possible" (Margaret Drabble).