5 strategies to overcome the lack of communication in the couple.

Tips for dealing with communication deficit problems in a couple's relationship.

If communication is a key element in all types of relationships, in the case of couple relationships, it is even more so. However, it is relatively frequent that with the passage of time and the maturation of a courtship or marriage, the lack of communication is installed in the coexistence.

For that reason, in the following lines we will explore different strategies to address and overcome the problems of lack of communication in a couple's relationship, so that it ceases to be a problem.The following lines explore different strategies to address and overcome the problems of lack of communication in a relationship, so that this ceases to be an element that wears down the bond of affection.

The most frequent problems due to lack of communication in couple relationships.

There are many different ways in which a communication deficit can become entrenched in a couple's relationship. Moreover, the origin of these dysfunctional communication patterns also gives rise to different types of miscommunication.

In any case, knowing how to recognize the extent of this discomfort generated by poor communication is necessary to understand where the couple's "crisis" begins and where it ends and, from there, to think of solutions.

With this in mind, the most common types of couple problems due to lack of communication are as follows.

• Appearance of taboo subjects that both people avoid.
• Adoption of a passive attitude based on reporting only what is important from an instrumental point of view (doing housework, seeking material support from the other person...).
• Poor management of discussions that lead to not being able to deal serenely with certain issues.
• Lack of time together
• Problems originating outside the relationship that "absorb" much of people's energy

Tips for managing and overcoming miscommunication in couple relationships

When it comes to properly manage this kind of problems in a marriage or courtship, it is very important to adapt the possible solutions proposed, it is very important to adapt the possible solutions proposed to the causes that have produced this situation..

In other words, unfortunately there are no infallible magic recipes that are going to work 100% of the time, since what in one case may be an effective solution, in other cases may not contribute anything or even be a hindrance. And that is why, among other things, to address this type of crisis affecting a love relationship, the ideal is to go to a psychologist for personalized attention.

However, there are some guidelines that serve as a guide to explore possible solutions, starting from a general picture of the most frequent causes of miscommunication.. So, take into account these key ideas to face and overcome the problematic dynamics arising from a lack of communication in your relationship, but first consider whether they are adapted to your case; you do not need to use all of them.

1. Re-organize time based on consensus

As we have seen, most of the problems due to lack of communication in a marriage or engagement are a consequence of the lack of time together. However, many times this lack of free time to spend with the other person can be solved without making great sacrifices, by simply looking for "points of fit" between both and reformulating the schedules of each one..

It is surprising to see how many couples suffer unnecessarily from this type of problem simply because they do not propose to discuss it with the other person, assuming that it is he or she who can only live according to this schedule.

2. Learn to make constructive criticisms

A very good way to make conversations more stimulating and not associated with the risk of going through frustrating situations when disagreeing consists of stop criticizing the person and start criticizing his or her actions..

In this way, we will not encourage them to become defensive and at the same time they will be more willing to correct their behavior. And, in addition, this will contribute to stop making discussions equivalent to shouting and fights to see who is right, something important, because these dynamics lead many people to try not to talk about everything that may involve a conflict.

3. Develop a hobby together

By starting to participate in a hobby together, you create more shared memories makes you generate more shared memoriesThis acts as a "hook" to generate conversation and establish new avenues of communication not only about topics directly associated with that activity. The important thing is to have material to talk about and through which to discover new facets, ideas, opinions and interests of the other person.

4. Spend time together without distractions.

Eating while watching TV may be fine once in a while, but spending all the hours of the week when you can be together reading or watching a screen is alienating and leads to "disconnecting" from the relationship. is alienating and leads to "disconnecting" from the relationship..

5. Structure your work rhythm to save energy.

Finally, do not forget that lack of communication can arise from sheer tiredness, which leads people to "disconnect" from each other.which leads people not to talk to anyone in general. Introspection is a way to save energy.

To avoid this being a problem, it is very important to structure the work time very well, sleep every day the necessary hours and take short breaks to perform well and that the work does not accumulate at the end of the day.

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