10 pillars of a healthy self-esteem

Tips to take care of your self-esteem from the management of emotions and relationships.

What is self-esteem? Some say it is the fact of having to feel like the best, others say it is something negative, since they feel terrible when they think about it, and others say it is a balance between how we value ourselves based on how others value us.

For me self-esteem is a relationship of friendship with ourselvesI would also say that self-esteem is a relationship of friendship with ourselves, in which we accept our limits in order to be who we are without being afraid of what others will say, so it is closely related to security.

I would also say that self-esteem is empathy with ourselves, the understanding that we are that child that one day grew up and that we have to accept and help, but be careful, never overprotect.

The pillars of healthy and balanced self-esteem

Surely many times you have experienced uncomfortable situations that have brought you discomfort. These situations are often caused by how the actions of others affect us, but many others are due to the way you have interpreted the stimuli that come to you from outside. how you have interpreted the stimuli that come to you from outside..

Focus on this for a moment and think about the image you have of yourself and above all ask yourself how others see you. If the answer to this has to do with a negative view of who you are, it would be good for you to rethink your self-esteem and read the advice I am going to give you below.

As you can see I have prepared a series of tricks or tips that can be useful for you to put into practice a healthy self-esteem.. I would like you to take them seriously so you can practice them. Without further ado I leave you with them, I hope they are useful to you.

1. Understand the other knowing that we may not be understood.

Many times we understand others, but other times they will contradict us. This does not mean that our opinion is worseIt simply means that we are putting ourselves below the opinion of others, although in reality our opinion is at the same level. Please: don't undervalue your opinion!

2. Know how to be with ourselves:

Are you lonely and feel abandoned? Can't find your reason for being? Well, this is something that means you may have low self-esteem. To be happy being with yourself, I recommend you to learn new hobbies, meet new people, or make different plans..

3. Know how to say no

It is important not to be forced to say yes to everything. With this you will know that you have your rights and you can take control of your life. Saying no affirms your position and also gives you a choice.You will feel that you decide for you.

4. Be real

And I'm not talking about saying things without any kind of filter, I'm simply talking about doing things and deciding based on your taste.. I want that in every moment of the day, when you are with your friends you can say your opinion without problems or fear of causing discomfort, always starting from education, obviously.

5. Respect the other person and yourself

Respect the other person, but above all respect yourself. I want you to get up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself that you are going to treat yourself well and you are going to respect yourself. you are going to treat yourself well and you are going to be patient with yourself.. The message we send to ourselves is important; in the end, our voice is the one we hear the most throughout the day.

6. Have freedom and give freedom

And this has to do with your selfishness. You have to be aware that people around you have the right to choose their plans and you have to have the right to choose your own.. It's important to see how we often feel bad if our partner makes a different plan or our friend decides to take the liberty of disconnecting from the phone for a few days. It's their right, and you have to accept it.

7. Listen to

Have you ever tried listening to the other person without talking until they shut up? If not, what are you waiting for? Many times we carry out a dialogue focused on ourselves that does not generate anything positive.. Stop navel gazing and listen a little more to others, but of course without forgetting about yourself.

8. Take care of our energy

We have little, and we must be safe from energy vampires or toxic people.. Never meet someone you don't feel like doing something.

9. Do not want to change the other person and accept him/her

Not everyone is going to like you, so you can't change them. It is important that you simply choose with whom you can open up to and who you can be friends with or not.

10. Be responsible, don't blame or punish ourselves for what happens.

Stop thinking that you are to blame for everything or making second readings like my in-laws don't like me when you don't even know it. It is your responsibility to talk to them and ask them how they feel and if what you did that day made them feel bad.

Learning to relate better to yourself

A very good tip is to always choose any action that involves positive feelings and that will raise your self-esteem upwards..

Simply, think that you have to put the positive to attract the positive and above all trust in good actions. But be careful: it is useless to think that you are going to do something positive in order to receive something; it is a mistake, it is called doing something in exchange for X and it will only bring you misunderstanding, if you do something, don't do it expecting nothing in return and this way you will be able to have more self-realization..

Let's put an end to self-esteem problems

My name is Javier Ares and in addition to treating depression, anxiety or relationship problems in many patients I am also a specialist in social skills.

Do not hesitate to contact me through my WhatsApp or social networks to start working on the reason that creates problems for you.