Bitter moments? Ways to help yourself with therapy

A reflection on the importance of having therapeutic support in the face of emotional crises.

Zuri has had both happy and sad experiences since childhood; her family has left her with an indelible history of memories. Today she has come to therapy for help.

She says that years ago she had chosen the path of being "insensitive and invulnerable to feelings and that this had allowed him to avoid suffering, but today it is no longer possible for him to bear what is happening to him.

Right now she is going through a process of separation. She decided to break off communication with her partner, who for years showed her lack of interest. This turned into a cold experience, to the point of feeling frozen. She feels that she gave everything she could to make things work and never got even a little of what she gave.

Learning to manage discomfort

It is easy to understand and feel consideration for what Zuri is going through; first that painful experience, a sense of total apathy on the part of her partner. Now Zuri needs to manifest what is happening to her, and this gives her the opportunity to accept help. Although it is not easy, she needs to release her suffering, enter into the opportunity to rethink her life and take up again projects to devote attention to in order to find the strength to find the strength she needs..

We agree that Zuri does not refuse to explore her emotional existence. She has shown capacity, energy and enough courage to express what is happening to her, she does not want to avoid the experience anymore. She finds what she is experiencing at the moment unacceptable.

Now that she is seeking help, Zuri needs to feel secure in what she will choose. Although you know that there are options; you want to choose a therapist who does not judge you, who is interested in what is happening to you, but above all, who will help you reduce the emotional Pain that invades you at times.

The ability to adapt is key

Millions of people around the world accumulate difficult experiences; some of these experiences cause bitter moments. In the best of cases, it is possible to cope thanks to an enormous capacity for adaptation..

As we can imagine, this involves a great deal of effort. People express that this is presented with pain and discomfort, to the point of feeling as if they were slowing down or moving at a forced pace.

It is important to consider that, by not elaborating a process, and in the face of accumulated difficult experiences, the character turns into something similar to a vault. that sometimes we do not realize that they are still there and that at some point they will come to light. Sometimes these bitter moments cause discomfort in our relationship with others, in our own identity and even in our health.

It is important to consider that in the adult life some of the situations that caused emotional discomfort and that have not been worked can be somatized..

A comforting news

In the first contact, Zuri hears from her therapist that she will work in a non-judgmental space, that it is she who will choose both the issues she wants to address and the depth to explore them. She can come to feel confident that this will be a positive experience, a therapeutic process that heals emotions.

In therapy, since Zuri has been able to express herself more easily and assertively, she even seems to be enjoying an enriching learning experience. Although she knows that it will be a process that will not be solved overnight, she feels at ease. She counts on the possibility that week after week she has the full listening of her professional, who also knows how to guide her process, which comforts her, giving her the hope of overcoming the suffering and staying well.

Why does therapy work?

The processes of therapy, although they do not work like magic, are a valuable tool for transcending and overcoming discomfort.. They help to understand more clearly and even open up the best opportunity to explore parts of personal history that caused pain. Therefore, recognizing, sizing and healing (every time we need to find strength for what is happening in our present) can be a path that gives us security.

It is true that as human beings we have an enormous capacity to cope with our emotional, social, affective and psychological balance.

It is true that there may be people who spend days, months or even years without going to therapy. This means that, even with emotional pain and suffering, someone can resist, or develop such a thick shell develop such a thick armor that there comes a time when the pain is almost imperceptible.. However, at various times the person may feel that experience of relief that releases suffering and allows him/her to recognize that he/she does not need to suffer again.

The processes of change are easier with professional support.

Unlike what happens in other living beings, human beings know that our processes are not easy. know that our processes are not simple. Our emotional memory is vast, rich in resources, options and alternatives that sometimes, being a little accumulated and tangled between good emotions and others that we do not understand as the best, make it difficult to unravel such experiences unless we have a professional accompaniment.

We cannot deny that people who decide not to ask for help, with time come to modify aspects of their character that make them distant and reserved, perhaps even alien to human interaction and the pleasure of sharing feelings with others.

There will always be an opportunity to heal those bitter moments.The sooner we do so, the sooner we will feel better and find ourselves facing a life that offers us many more things to enjoy and that are waiting for us.