Do you want to have a completely happy relationship?

Some tips to enjoy a relationship that brings happiness.

It is possible to have a stable, healthy and happy relationship.. In couples mediation sessions it is very common to find a series of common links that lead to discomfort and the desire to dissolve the couple.

For this reason, many couples come to mediation to try to find solutions and help in this crucial part of our lives. That is why I offer you a series of keys to achieve it.

Moving towards a happy relationship

These are the most important keys to keep in mind so that the emotional bond of the relationship remains strong.

1. Perfect relationships do not exist

This is the first key concept we are going to work on. All relationships have their weaknesses. There is no perfect relationship.

Demystifying this concept will set you free to work on your own happiness, since the important thing for a couple is not their problems but their willingness to face them. the important thing about a couple is not their problems but their willingness to face them.. And this is the first key to achieve success, not to have an idealized image of the relationship and out of any logical and achievable reality.

2. You exist and you must have a space outside your partner.

Take control of your life. Your happiness depends on you. Having your own space is fundamental, and loving yourself too..

Your happiness can only be created by you; therefore, if you generate the dependence of your state of mind with your partner, you will enslave yourself at an emotional and behavioral level, being able to annul yourself completely and renouncing to your happiness.

3. Define the relationship you really want

Once you have become free with the two previous keys, define how you can and want to be as a couple. What are you willing to give and consent to and what do you expect in a logical and realistic way?. Set limits for both parties.

4. Communication

No one can read our thoughts. Trying to draw conclusions without being certain of it, generates irrational thoughts far from reality that will make us suffer senselessly. Show empathy and listen actively.

In those points in which you need to negotiate, summarize what you have understood, without acrimony on either side and always, trying to reach agreements thus avoiding arguments. It is your partner, not your enemy.

5. Ask for forgiveness and forgive

Living without resentment makes us free. Try to understand your partner better and avoid being defensive.. Welcome their signs of repentance and reconciliation. And, if you can't, if you are always expecting the worst, analyze yourself. Is it worth it to be like this all the time, why are you like this, can it be solved?

6. Accept the differences

It doesn't matter what differentiates you as a couple, it matters what brings you together. Whatever they are, negotiate and establish a relationship of equality where each party gives in to make the other happy. If one always yields in favor of the other, an imbalance is produced that in the long run is neither sustainable nor sustainable. that in the long run is neither sustainable nor healthy.

7. Quality time together

It is very important that you spend time with your partner in happiness. Doing something that you both like and enjoy. Scheduled time for pampering, taking care of yourself, laughing, loving each other. Once a week, once a month, whenever you can, but you have to create that time and space that will unite you and make you strong to face the bad times.

8. Practice gratitude

Yes, a gesture as simple as thanking and recognizing what the other has done well, is something that dilutes with time. We stop giving heartfelt thanks, and we stop valuing certain gestures, attitudes, behaviors... because we understand it as part of the routine and we stop giving it importance.

9. Love without conditions

Do not put limits to your love. You cannot be in this constant struggle; either you accept your partner or not. Being in constant war will lead to chronic exhaustion and the death of the relationship.

Set the limits, deny them, stick to them, and from there on, relax and enjoy.. Everything can be solved if both parties are in balance.

10. Trust

This is the ultimate key. Trust. If there is no reason not to, there is no reason to live with distrust. Demand the same for yourself.. If both parties respect the agreements of the relationship, they can live and let live.

Conclusion

Remember, a healthy and happy couple is one where respect, balance and trust are present. There will always be problems, it's about solving them together.. It is about helping each other above all else.

Never allow physical or emotional mistreatment, abuse of any kind, disrespect or controlling behavior. Couples are the sum of two people with their own identity, that although they share many things, they must continue to respect their individual roles that do not threaten the welfare of it, and where each can continue to develop and have their space.

Would you like to go deeper, do you feel you need help in this aspect? Contact me, we will get you the relationship you want.