Family Team for Success

Let's look at the "5 C's" that make families function as a team.

When we hear about the world of sports or business, the word "team" comes up very often. And a team is made up of people, who are what make the success of any organization possible. However, we go out into the street and things may not appear that way; it is no secret that one of the most visible signs of the many problems we as a society are having is excessive individualism.

Both things seem contradictory; we want more and more personal autonomy, but we are also full of expressions like: "I am part of a team", "success belongs to the team", which leads us to a complicated balance that hinders our own existence. Y to achieve the successes we claim to be part of, we allude to the so-called 5 C's, which every team must have to achieve results. They are well known, namely: Commitment, Communication, Coordination, Trust, Complementarity.

Breaking individualistic dynamics in the family.

It is perhaps in the conjugal and family environment where this dichotomy (individualism versus team) is most palpable.We want to be under the protective umbrella of something solid, but at the same time we are not willing to allow our freedom to be undermined. It is sometimes difficult to make people see that the family is a team, a group of people who have common objectives and set goals to achieve them.

And yet, it is possibly the place where the 5 C's have the greatest capacity for empowerment and for achieving visible and beneficial results for each of the members of the family unit. Why? Let's look at the 5 C's one by one.

1 Commitment

Nothing in life can be done satisfactorily without a minimum of commitment.. Everything you do in a forced or unchosen way can result in doing things in a trivial way that is of no benefit to yourself and to an organization. According to Lehman "commitment transforms a promise into reality, it is an action higher than words, it is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism".

In a family organization it is necessary that its members feel at ease and happy at home, committing themselves to to reach agreements of coexistence that are beneficial to all members, even if it is possible to give up something personal. In a way, each one of the members of the family nucleus is responsible for the rest and this is only achieved if the general commitment is based on a personal commitment with oneself. And this commitment must be eternal.

2. Communication

In a hyper-connected technological world, the paradox arises that it is becoming increasingly difficult for us to have a natural it is becoming increasingly difficult for us to have a natural human communication.. In a couple, marriage or family relationship, a fluid, positive and active communication is key to strong and long-lasting relationships. And that effective communication or dialogue is born from the base, from the beginning of the couple's relationship. A couple that dialogues from the beginning will be a couple prepared to communicate with their descendants.

Babies must be given confidence in communication and dialogue from the cradle. An active listening, a good job of empathy, an absence of unbridled criticism, using only that which is constructive, will allow a series of very necessary skills for life.

It is becoming more and more palpable the great amount of miscommunication that can be seen in family environments and that are a seed of conflicts. that if they are not addressed in time, they will lead to undesirable circumstances. But communication or conjugal dialogue is an art and as such, it is necessary to learn it, to mature it, to manage it and to evolve it. Today's world needs, more than ever, great communicators, not to great masses, but on a one-to-one basis.

3. Coordination

The RAE defines coordination "as the action or effect of coordinating". When we talk about a team being coordinated, we mean that there is a process and a use of interdependent strategies and patterns among its members to achieve common goals.. For a team to have a good coordination, someone is needed to execute it, a leader is needed.

In the family, this role corresponds to the father and the mother, in equal parts and in unison. It means that are aware of the overall needs of the group and who are consistent with what they think, say and do.

The great leader does not give orders, his consistency simply allows him to be an example and, at the same time, produces respect, always seeks ambitious and realistic goals for himself and for the organization, seeking the maximum personal development of its members. That is why it is essential that the union of the father and mother be strong, with clear rules and commitments. Only if the parents are strong, the family will be strong.

4. Trust

The family is a community of people whose sense of belonging is based on invisible bonds based on trust that promote a satisfying relationship. This will lead to a strong support base for situations that occur throughout daily life.

To respect and accept each member of the family as he/she is, to promote a space of freedom and effective communication, to teach the children a true freedom that will lead them to find the principles that guide human nature, to understand that freedom has certain limits beyond which personal principles will be endangered, these are essential points in a relationship of family trust. It does not mean that the family solves all the problems, but it does give the guidelines to express and share them.

Trust is based on credibility and respect.Therefore, the example of the father and mother united solidly, will allow the children a personal and social growth that will allow them to believe in themselves and in the family.

5. Complementarity

A team is made up of a number of professionals who master a specific area because their qualities allow them to do so and, at the same time, they are capable of filling in for other members at specific times because they are also skilled in other areas. To achieve this it is necessary a cohesion and a personal and collective responsibility in the tasks to be performed.. In a family these elements are basic to create a positive and stimulating environment.

The sharing of household chores by putting the skills of each member at the service of the others, sharing responsibilities and results, will lead to achieve results and family harmony in a much faster, efficient and effective way. It is also a way to start instilling in children from their earliest childhood the positive aspects of these actions.