How to harmonize professional life with being a mother? Motherhood and professional development

Some key ideas on how to adapt to the need to combine motherhood and work.

Motherhood, as well as parenthood, involves a very deep transformation process in your life. When you become a mother, your priorities, your belief system and even your values change.. Your life is transformed into a constant giving, many conflicts dissolve in you and you give yourself in a totally renewing way.

However, this experience, which in itself implies personal development, comes face to face with another need: to continue with your professional development. Knowing how to harmonize motherhood and professional life is one of the most current and necessary objectives..

Depending on the country and culture, this can be easier or more complex. In Spain, and even more so in Latin America, it can be very complex. If we are going to do something totally different, it's about living a process of change in which you develop the a process of change in which you develop the personal skills necessary to allow you to harmonize these two important and necessary aspects of your life. so important and necessary aspects of your life.

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Motherhood and professional development.

One of the great limiting ideas in relation to motherhood is to consider that once you are a mother the work, the objectives or purposes are already finished as we used to consider it. This is a limiting vision that ends up generating frustration over the years.

Being a mother or father and continuing to develop our professional life and live linked to our purposes is totally possible and necessary. In fact, it is the best example we can give to our sons and daughters.

The problem is that no one has taught us how to do it.. Evidently, this is a bigger problem today for women than for men (hence the article focuses on maternity) due to the greater demand for babies and the labor system itself.

In the last 10 years I have accompanied as a psychologist and coach people from up to 10 different countries to live their change processes. Since 2015 (curiously, just when I knew I was going to be a dad) I began to accompany more and more moms or pre-moms who had just this goal: to learn to develop the necessary skills to continue growing professionally without this being at all incompatible with enjoying your motherhood even with a great time of daily dedication. Precisely for this reason and for having already accompanied so many moms or pre-moms, I wanted to write this very special article.

I have decided to share my conclusions with you in this video, press play!

The process of adapting to the new reality: being a mother and working

What is what it takes to live motherhood to the fullest, to give the best care and example to your children and at the same time to develop and grow professionally?What is it that leads you to live motherhood to the fullest, to give the best care and example to your children and at the same time to develop and grow professionally? It is always personal skills. We are people and depending on how you make decisions, organize your time, plan, manage your time, and above all how you understand and manage your emotions will result in everything.

The most necessary skills in this case are mainly three: productivity, communication and, above all, emotion management..

Productivity

Productivity does not imply that you "produce more". Productivity is actually the way you manage resources (time is one of them) to get the results you need. The most productive is not the one who produces the most, but the one who knows how to produce what is necessary with the least amount of resources possible and in the shortest time possible.

If you develop your productivity you will learn to reduce stress, gain time, make more conscious decisions, improve your personal relationships (with the work team or with users or clients) and all this will result in the time and quality of the time you spend with your children. all this will have a positive impact on the time and quality of the time you spend with your children..

2. Communication

Communication is the skill that allows you to really connect with others, empathize, set boundaries and create collaboration.. We tend to understand communication as just giving out information, but it is much more than that. Communication is delivering information in such a way that the other person feels understood. Learning to develop your communication skills will help you at work, in family life and in caring for babies.

3. Emotional management

And finally, the most important skill on which the previous two depend: emotional management. Every second of the day we feel emotions and they influence not only our moods but also our interpretations of what is happening, our views, decisions, actions, and our behavior.We need to learn to have our emotions on our side, points of view, decisions, actions, relationships, etc.

Learning to have emotions on your side (instead of against you) is what will help you to live based on acceptance, peace, confidence and illusion instead of fear, insecurity, anger or guilt.

Concluding

Living through this process of change can be one of the most important turning points in your life.. One way to take a first step is the following: access empoderamientohumano.com and you will be able to schedule a free exploratory session. In this session we will get to know each other, explore the situation, find the origin of the problem, the definitive solution and above all how I can accompany you in this process of change so that you achieve it 100%.

Motherhood and work are not incompatible, although it can be difficult. You will make it compatible. You will make it easy. Thanks to your own change, everything else will change.