How to know if you are in love: 8 signs to discover it
Several signs that help us to know what we feel for another person.
Love is always a torrent of feelings and emotions to which we do not always know how to react. That's why knowing if we are starting to feel for someone can be much more complicated than it seems.
In this article we will talk specifically about falling in love in the female sex and we will see some of the main keys to recognize the signs of this psychological phenomenon. So... how do you know if you are in love? In the next lines we will deal with it in a summarized way.
How to know if you are in love: signs of falling in love
Love produces in us effects that can be grouped into three categories: cognitive signals, physiological and emotional signals, and behavioral signals. All of them are described below, and are typical regardless of whether we are attracted to a man or a woman.
However, keep in mind that none of these signs is in itself enough to confirm that you are in love with a man or a woman.They serve, more than anything else, as a guideline, and the more of them that are met, the greater the possibility that love has indeed arisen.
1. You go into a state of alert every time you see that person.
This is the typical sign that appears when we are in the initial stages of falling in love, but as time goes by it disappears. It is a sign of falling in love that appears when you know the other person relatively little..
Of course, it is also perfectly possible to fall in love with someone you have known for a long time, which means that in these cases this sign does not appear and that does not mean that there is no love.
2. You create occasions to be together
This is another typical sign, and it occurs in both men and women. However, in the case of women, there is a stigma attached to gender roles that makes many of them feel uncomfortable being more direct than men. For this reason, it is very common for women to create occasions to be more direct than men, it is very common for women to create occasions to indirectly approach the person they are interested in. the person they are interested in.
3. You create plans for the future
Another of the tricks to know if you are in love is to notice if when that person is not, also occupies your thoughts. Y the way in which typically this is reflected is in the fact of fantasizing about future plans, imagining a reality in which you will form a future.imagining a reality in which you are a solid and happy couple.
This exercise of imagination usually appears spontaneously, without premeditation, in people who are in love. For example, in the dead hours when there is nothing to do, or even while doing a very routine work in which it is not necessary to pay much attention to what is beyond our body and we can direct our attentional focus towards the interior of our mind.
4. You are very worried that he/she might suffer
Love not only has elements related to illusion and positive thoughts about what may happen in the future. There is also the concern about the bad that can happen to the other person, even if it is not something objective.even if it is not something objectively very harmful to him/her.
For example, if the nerves before an exam make the person we have noticed feel anxious, the mere fact that there is this discomfort will make us feel bad, something that probably does not happen with the rest of the individuals.
5. Conversations drag on effortlessly
When you are nervous and do not know the person very well, it is normal that it takes effort to start a conversation and the first few minutes have passed, but once this step has been taken, the dialogue flows easily.
Of course, this is not exclusive to falling in love, this is not exclusive to falling in loveIt also happens when we really like someone, so it should be considered a necessary but insufficient sign that there is love. The only exception to this is when the other person is not at all interested in relating to us, or when physical or psychological alterations come into play that affect the ability to communicate with people in general.
6. The idea that the person can be trusted appears.
This is another of the signs of love. When a strong emotional bond has been established, we go from trying to hide all our defects (something typical of the phase in which we try to seduce the other person because we like him/her and we do not want to generate rejection) to we start to value more transparency, honesty and honesty..
7. Using your free time to be together is something you look favorably upon
Even when we like someone very much, most of the time we don't like the idea of always being with that person in our time. always being with that person in our free time.
On the other hand, when there is true love involved (or at least, a love as intense as the one associated with a couple's relationship), the prospect of doing so is fine with us.
Of course, even in the most solid relationships, each partner needs his or her space, so it is normal to want to be alone sometimes.
8. Many experiences remind you of that person
When we fall in love, unconsciously, we create multiple routes of thought that lead to the mental representation of that person. That is to say, the concepts and ideas we have inside our head connect with each other, creating many neural pathways that lead us to think about him or her.
That is why people in love have a predisposition to think about someone all the time; not only because they like to do it and enjoy it, but because even unintentionally, many day-to-day experiences make the face of that person, his or her name, etc. emerge in their consciousness. This happens because the emotional charge associated with what we know and remember about that person is so strong that this kind of mental content attracts to itself many others.
(Updated at Apr 12 / 2024)