How to know when someone doesn’t love you, in 30 items

Do they love me or don't they love me? 30 questions to find out if the relationship is reciprocal... or not.

Hard, yes, but necessary.

The sooner we realize which of the people around us do not love us, the sooner we can take action and decide what course of action we are going to take. It is difficult to love those who do not love us, and in many occasions to continue with this type of relationships leads to a loss of self-esteem that makes us begin to love ourselves less and less. It is good to have the right tools to know how to identify these people.

Do you love me or don't you love me?

Here I leave you some key points to be able to realize it. Obviously they are just a guideline, since not all people act in the same way and sometimes some of these behaviors may be due to other factors.

But if reading these items we feel identified with most of them, what is real is that we are not in an equal and healthy relationship, and knowing it is the first step.

30 things you can notice when that person doesn't love you

1. You feel bad for asking him/her to spend some time with you.. You feel like you're begging him/her.

2. He doesn't support you in your decisions. He doesn't even seem to care: his attitude is one of indifference.

3. He does not value your opinion. You feel as if his opinion is the only valid one. He never asks you for your opinion.

4. He is not usually there when you need him. In his or her agenda there is only room for you when he or she wants it, without taking into account your needs.

5. He/she does not usually have details with you.. A "I saw this and I remembered you", a good night message, something.

6. He/she doesn't pay attention to what you say. You feel that he does not listen to you or that he is not interested in what you are telling him even if it is important to you.

7. You feel it is above you. You have given him so much power that you don't feel you can measure up to him.

8. He doesn't want the best for you if he loses something .. He puts his needs before yours on most occasions.

9. He doesn't make you feel good with his comments. He/she does not usually have positive and pleasant messages for you.

10. You feel that you are not yourself when you are with that person.. You try to please him/her as much as you can even if you do things you don't agree with.

11. You feel that he/she does not enjoy being with you.. These kinds of things are noticeable, even if we want to close our eyes.

12. It doesn't usually come out of that person to get in touch with you .. When he or she does, you are happy and you hold on to it. Stop and think, how many times have you done it? The one who really loves you will do everything possible to hear from you. If it is almost always you who takes that step, your interest is not at the same point.

13. Your words do not match your actions. He may promise you the stars, but then acts in the opposite way. Important: a person speaks through his actions.

14. He does not count on you in important decisions.. He gives the feeling that he "goes his own way".

15. When you show disagreement on something or there is an argument, he does not show interest in resolving it.He does not show interest in solving it and it is always you who ends up giving in even if you think you are right for fear of losing him.

16. It seems that he never has time for you and that everything else is more urgent..

17. He doesn't make you feel special. You doubt everything, you feel small and insecure.

18. Doesn't care about how your day went.. These kinds of details are important in assessing the other person's concern for your life.

19. He/she does not remember important things you have told him/her about you.. Maybe he didn't care at the time you told him, which shows lack of interest.

20. Does not care about whether or not you feel comfortable around him/her..

21. You feel less affection from him than you think he could give you.. Displays of affection are important and we should pay attention to how we feel about this.

22. When you are with him or her, it does not make you love yourself more.but rather the opposite. This is very dangerous. When we decide to share our lives with someone the healthy thing to do is to feel stronger. And in many occasions, even if we don't want to see it, if the person next to us doesn't love us, we start to value ourselves less.

23. He doesn't tell you anything too personal. Your conversations become banal and when you want to go deeper, they divert the subject.

24. You are more of the time bad than good. If we decide to have a relationship, it is to enrich our existence. When it impoverishes it, you have to stop and think about what is going on.

25. He doesn't respect when you need your space. If he/she wants something, it doesn't matter if you are busy or not, it's not a good time.

26. When you ask him, he is not clear. Either they want you or they don't want you. There is no middle ground here.

27. You live in the hope that things will change .. No matter how much it hurts, that's enough. We can't be with someone hoping that in the future it will be different. Because it probably won't be, and we are wasting time in the present.

28. Much of your environment tells you so. Sometimes we can't see things objectively. If the people who really love us warn us that the person next to us does not love us, or at least not in the way we need, maybe they are right.

29. One day yes, one day no. He/she makes plans that he/she doesn't fulfillHe calls you when he is interested but then if something comes up he sells you out at the first opportunity. We all have priorities, make sure you do not have in the first place of yours who has you in the last places.

30. You feel that he/she does not love you. This is where we invent a thousand arguments to justify their behavior. If you do not feel loved in a relationship, maybe it is because you are not loved. And if you are loved, it may not be in the way you need it.