How to manage emotions in the process of finding meaning in your life.

Recommendations on how to modulate emotions while promoting personal development.

Do you feel tired, sad and discouraged to do the activities you used to do and found satisfying? Do thoughts that do not bring you value but that you cannot eliminate constantly come to your mind? Do these thoughts of sadness, anxiety or emptiness come to your mind automatically and steal several minutes or even hours of your day? Do you have feelings of despair, irritability, lack of sleep, lack of appetite, cramps, difficulty concentrating, headaches and limbs or digestive problems even when you are physically well?

It is normal to feel this way at certain times in life, but the most important thing is that you know how to recognize that you are going through a bad time and seek professional help.

If you felt identified with any symptom, two, three or more of these experiences, let me tell you that you can significantly improve your emotional state, get back to enjoying your life as before or even more and be happier..

In fact, psychologists oriented to provide therapy are dedicated to facilitate those kinds of changes. In my psychotherapeutic practice I have treated many cases that at the beginning, it seems, did not have any solution for the patients, but finally they did.

As an example, I will expose a real case of one of my patients (with her previous permission) changing her identity.

Emotional discomfort does not have to last forever.

Darla was a young woman of 29 years old, she felt anguished, lonely, and with no desire to do anything.She only wanted to go to sleep, she did not want to wake up and face her reality, she felt guilty and helpless when she remembered her past.

Three years ago she broke off her marital relationship, her ex-partner abused her verbally and physically. He raped her and even forced her to have sex with his friends, but she escaped in time. Remembering that Darla hated him, but at the same time she missed him; she missed the happy moments she lived together with him and not having the person who provided her with those moments of bliss, she felt lonely and sad, because she thought he was the only person she truly loved.

Darla felt frustration because for a long time she could do nothing to make her partner change. In her attempt to go back to him, she thought about how badly he treated her when he took psychoactive substances, and that made her feel bad because she wanted to go back, but at the same time she stopped herself. This emotional ambivalence disturbed her on a daily basis.She wanted to escape from her mind, from those thoughts that constantly tormented her.

In her psychotherapeutic treatment she learned to eliminate those destructive thoughts that came to her mind and changed them for functional thoughts, she learned to correctly interpret her situation through rational emotive interpretation techniques, she learned to be a stronger and empowered woman, she developed a high self-esteem and self-love, finding happiness and meaning in her life.

What to do when faced with emotional discomfort?

This technique will help you gain control of your emotions. It has been scientifically developed and has proven to be very effective in choosing which thoughts to have and which emotions to attract to your mind.

• Find a quiet place without noise.
• Standing or sitting, adopt a comfortable posture.
• Concentrate on your breathing, inhale slowly and bring the air into your diaphragm in 3 beats or seconds; then hold the air for 9 beats and exhale in 6 beats. Visualize the numbers in your mind, large and colorful, as you mentally count.
• Concentrate only on your breathing and on the mental counting and visualization of the numbers.
• Repeat the exercise for 10 minutes a day and you will see the changes in the first use.
• While you are concentrating on your breathing, bring to your mind a thought that brings you happiness and create a mental video; use your 5 senses.

During the exercise you will feel more relaxed, your Heart rate will stabilize, you will better control your thoughts and therefore your emotions, you will feel more relaxed. and therefore your emotions, you will feel more oxygenated and you will have mental clarity.

This exercise is more effective when there is another person who is inducing what you have to do; if you do it correctly you will have better results.

Remember that every problem has a solution and by seeking help you show that you are a person who loves and respects yourself and does not accept less than what you are worth.