How to promote good family relationships?

A series of tips to promote good relationships within the family.

Each family is unique, and the type of relationships that are established between the people who form it can be very diverse.

The family forms part of one of the main areas in which we develop as people and, therefore, everything that happens in it and the relationships we establish with the other members of the family will affect the way we relate to other people as well as our general wellbeing.

We would therefore like to offer some guidelines that allow to generate more positive and suitable relations between the relatives..

5 recommendations to improve family relationships

Follow these recommendations to apply them to the day to day of the family coexistence.

1. Communication

We could say that it is a cornerstone that underpins the basis of appropriate relationships.. It consists of maintaining good communication, listening to others, making sure that what we say reaches our interlocutor, that the message has arrived properly and that we are willing to listen to the other person.

It is especially important to dedicate attention and time to listen to our children. Sometimes we consider them passive subjects within the family, and this is a mistake, since in the end they are just another piece of the family gear.

2. Respect

It is basic to understand that family relationships must be based on respect. In addition, it is important that if we want to instill respect it is important that if we want to inculcate "respect" towards someone, we should be an example of it as educators.. For this reason it is much more beneficial that we communicate with others in an appropriate manner.

Setting limits and rules or even having moments of discussion should not be confused with insults, scorn and reproaches. Respect should be bilateral and not unilateral.

3. Understanding and empathy

One of the main problems we psychologists encounter when there are problems in family relationships is the lack of empathy or understanding of the position of the other family member.

We often make the mistake of thinking that "what I feel" is more important than what others feel, or that our opinion should be valued more highly. or that our opinion or preference should be valued more, or even that we are in "possession of the truth". It is especially important to understand that each person lives his or her reality in a unique way and that what may be "right" or "the right way" for me to do something does not necessarily have to be "right" for the other person.

Trying to focus on why the other person thinks, what they feel and how to help them fosters confidence among family members, a sense of security and being able to communicate more adequately, since it will always be easier to express something when we see that another person is showing understanding.

4. Give and receive positively

If we want to improve relationships it is not enough to eliminate possible arguments or moments of tension; it is also important to be able to generate positive emotions.. As it happens with a couple, if in the family environment we do not find anything that makes us feel good and that we like, it is more probable that we end up spending little time with the others and the relationships cool down.

It is essential to look for common points and joint activities that we can enjoy together as a family in order to improve these relationships. Here also appears the factor of "giving in" and understanding that sometimes doing something for others even though I don't particularly like it is not a negative thing. Giving in would always be a problem, but doing it occasionally is not.

5. Conflict Resolution/Agreement

Normalizing that arguments will occur on many occasions but that there are always effective ways to deal with them will make us able to manage these situations in a much better way. In the same way, it is it is important that we allow the other person to express themselves and give their arguments..

Once we have exposed the arguments the best thing to do is to try to reach agreements whenever possible, but sometimes it will not be achieved and leaving the discussion aside can also be a way to resolve it.

Final recommendations

It should be noted that these are some recommendations and important factors but they are by no means an exact formula. It is necessary to analyze in each family what are the main reasons for conflict or why there are difficulties in relationships.. Each family and family dynamics is very different, and therefore it is necessary to adapt the solutions to the different types of problems. Even so, these recommendations are part of the basis for establishing good relationships among family members.

It is also important to note that Sometimes "having a good relationship" is confused with "consent".. That is, sometimes it is thought that the best way to maintain a good relationship with the children is through permissiveness and giving everything the person wants. This can lead to problems in terms of limits and family rules, developing later conflicts, especially during adolescence.

Finally, sometimes family relationships can be improved with a few techniques and tools, but in some cases the problems are much more deeply rooted, in some cases, the problems are much more deeply rooted, have become more generalized over time or become more complex.They have become more generalized over time or become more complex and may require the help of a psychologist to guide the family members. If this is your case you can contact us, our staff will contact you to offer you the best tools.