Mónica Dosil: solving sexuality problems

This psychologist explains how to deal with sexuality problems and couple conflicts.

Sexuality has been a taboo subject for centuries, and that is why there are still many myths and preconceived ideas about this topic. This is why it is important to receive information from experts.

Interview with Mónica Dosil: the resolution of sexual difficulties

The Psychology and Coaching Space Mónica Dosil is a place of wide professional trajectory in the locality of Castelldefels that has reach at world-wide level across the great projection that offers across the consultations online.

The psychologist Monica Dosil is the director of this clinical care center, and here she offers several guidelines and solutions to improve relationships and sexuality designed to improve the quality of life.

What difficulties does the Psychology and Coaching Space you direct solve?

In our center we treat all kinds of psychological difficulties, as well as the development of the possibilities that you wish to incorporate into your personality and way of acting, we accompany any person of any age to develop problem-solving skills so that they can fully enjoy their life.

In addition to Couple Therapy and Human Sexuality, at Espacio de Psicología y Coaching you can treat any situation that has to do with human suffering, as well as carry out a coaching process that allows you to redirect your life.

It is common that at the end of the treatment people tell us how easy the work has been, as well as finding the solution for what seemed so complex at first.

When someone comes to Espacio de Psicología y Coaching, he/she needs a professional who offers a global treatment. In a short time the initial suffering dissolves and we move to the next evolutionary stage where the person's need is to learn to lead his or her life successfully. My goal is to train in this process while I focus with my client on fostering his or her emotional and personal autonomy, so that from that moment on, he or she can refocus every time a similar episode happens again.

What are the most common cases you deal with in human sexuality?

In Sexuality the most common cases I treat are those related to lack of desire in the couple, sexual routine, difficulty in reaching climax in men and women, and cases of premature ejaculation as well as erection difficulties and vaginismus.

Is the resolution of sexual difficulties complex?

Not in itself, what happens is that all these alterations have been going on for too long before the person consults, and this has set in motion a double problem: bad habits have been established and limiting beliefs have been generated on which we must intervene so that they do not alter the good evolution of the treatment.

People with alterations in sexuality also have a tendency to develop an extra anxiety that does not collaborate in the resolution of the conflict. Taking into account all these factors provides the definitive key to success in therapy.

How do you work?

The work in many occasions is team work together with the medical professional for the rapid management of anxiety.

I work from the person's belief system, as well as on the bad habits established, on latent fears, and there is also a large part of work on behavior. All together makes me approach the cases multifactorially and this brings me closer to the resolution of the problem. For me, the goal is always to shorten the period of suffering, which is what disables the person to be happy.

Why would you recommend people to visit a sexologist?

A sexologist is an independent professional in the field of psychology, although it is true that on many occasions the psychologist is a sexologist or the sexologist is a psychologist, and is the professional indicated to help the individual or couples to overcome the difficulties that appear in the field of sexuality. A difficulty of this type is simply anything that does not facilitate a satisfactory sexual relationship between a couple.

It is not necessary to have one of the major problems, such as vaginismus, erectile difficulties or premature ejaculation, to consult a sexologist. A sexologist also provides education in the sexual field, counseling when there is a change in a maturity stage or when there are important doubts about the subject, and also offers therapy when the circumstances of your sexual life become problems that do not allow you to enjoy a fully satisfactory sex life.

Although going to the sexologist can still produce a certain taboo today, if you detect any difficulty in your desires, sensations or climax, what I recommend is that you consult at a preventive level, because at that stage the intervention of the professional is much more effective and at a preventive level sexology works magnificently. When the problem has already manifested itself and the body gets used to it, the modification of the problem is much more complex and requires more effort from the client.

When do you recommend couples therapy?

The first time you consider that it could help your relationship, is when it is necessary to act.

Living together and other factors that occur in relationships can cause you to lose focus on the real objective, the quality of your relationship with your partner. This causes the relationship to become strained and undesirable behaviors towards each other to appear. At the moment that these appear, fundamental situations that unite both people also disappear, such as affection, tenderness, desire, and positive emotions, in short.

The sooner you take action, the better, because then you do not allow yourself to settle into certain unproductive behaviors.

Is there any aspect of human sexuality that particularly fascinates you?

Human sexuality seems to me to be the most wonderful of interactions, it is the complete surrender between human beings sharing their intimacy. If in your day to day life you have problems of communication, of relationship, of expression, the most common thing is that they are reflected in your sexuality.

I am fascinated when human beings discover the possibility of offering pleasure to each other in different ways without the act of penetration, it seems to me that this is the moment when they have learned the true value of sexuality and sharing.

Any recommendation to take into account when it is time to select a specialist in couple and/or sexology?

In my opinion, the professional of couple relationships and sexuality must be a professional of high human quality who aims to resolve the difficulty in the shortest possible time and with great rigor. In addition, it seems important to me that he/she can offer extensive experience in human behavior.

What is the best thing about being in Castelldefels?

It has been more than 25 years since I opened my first center in Castelldefels, and since then I work and live happily in this wonderful city. I know that we are a reference in psychology and sexology for our community, and this makes me happy and gives me great satisfaction. We have recently opened online consultations to save time for people who cannot travel and to allow quick access to my practice to all those who wish to come but live in other countries.

For me, the access that technology offers to clients and professionals to meet and solve problems without the limitation of physical space is of great value.