Personal dissatisfaction: why does it arise and how to overcome it?

Dissatisfaction can affect almost every experience of our daily life.

Throughout our lives it is natural to feel dissatisfaction, whether in relation to our personal, sentimental or professional life. However, when that dissatisfaction lasts for too long, it ends up creating discomfort, limits your life and you feel more and more difficulty in your relationships or with yourself.Why do you feel dissatisfied? How can you overcome this feeling?

In principle, this emotion, state of mind and also interpretation of what is happening is not entirely negative. Dissatisfaction is part of our life and helps us to discover what we need to change in our lives; but.... is that change really something you want or what you are afraid to face? The dissatisfaction helps you to obtain concrete changes that you need, but if that dissatisfaction ends up being constant, the problem is another one.

The dissatisfaction that does not help

When you do not feel satisfied or satisfied with some aspect of your life, it implies that you are making a negative assessment of what you are doing. you are making a negative evaluation on what happens and you focus on what you would really like to have, live or experience. This means disconnecting from what is really happening and focusing on a series of alternatives that are not really happening, which generates even more frustration and dissatisfaction.

Of course, you can improve your life in any aspect, and that is something that comes with different actions and consistency. Dissatisfaction, in principle, is an emotion that helps you to achieve those changes (dissatisfaction is actually the beginning of a process of personal change; you want to change because you are tired of what is happening). The problem is when that dissatisfaction is not in what you do ... but in what happens around you (your context, partner, people, situation, colleagues, work, etc.).

Here I explain what this dissatisfaction really consists of and how to overcome it in a video. If you want, you can press play to watch it, although I will continue with the article below.

When your dissatisfaction is related to external factors, such as the behavior of others, their characteristics, the context, situations, etc., we have a different problem. Why? Simply because you can't control what happens around you or the people you relate to or live with.in a more intimate or superficial way.

Dissatisfaction is an unpleasant emotional state, close to anger and frustration, which comes from making an assessment about yourself (what you think you need and deserve in relation to the other) and the environment or others based on a comparison: there can always be "more and more". But comparison is an absurdity. Every more leads you to another more, and so on indefinitely. This is how dissatisfaction ends up being a habitual state in your life: you always see reasons to feel that emotion and you end up valuing your reality in a negative way..

What is it that makes you never feel satisfied? Focusing on the outside world and valuing it as the source of your well-being. The outside world is something you cannot control, therefore, having expectations or trying to control it will always lead to frustration, anxiety and lack of personal satisfaction.

How to solve this

Dissatisfaction is a point of view, but above all an unpleasant sensation and emotional state; therefore, the solution lies in learning to understand and manage not only that emotion, but all related emotions (dissatisfaction, insecurity, frustration, fears, etc.). All the evaluations you make come from emotions that anchor you to that way of feeling, interpreting what is happening and living..

Dissatisfaction is usually related to insecurity (the reason why you evaluate based on comparisons or, on the contrary, you want to achieve personal changes but you do not end up taking action). Your emotions are with you every second of the day. We are social beings and above all emotional. As we are always emotional, emotion not only influences your mood, but also every decision you make, your actions, the way you act, the way you behave and the way you feel.Your actions, your way of interpreting and valuing what happens to yourself and others.

In empoderamientohumano.com I usually make a special proposal to achieve this important and transcendent change in life: it is about taking the first step to know yourself better and discover what is happening and how to solve it through a process of personal change. You can do it with a first free exploratory session or with the Emotionate program, where you will find resources to take that first step.

Working with you will be the biggest turning point in your life, since it is the only thing you can manage and know. You cannot control the world, you can only accept it and learn to look at it with openness.. Fear and insecurity are emotions that make you focus only on what you fear or don't like. From your change, everything else will change, because your focus and look will change.