Self-abuse and its relationship to self-esteem

Many people fall into self-abuse because they fall into bad self-esteem dynamics.

A high percentage of the world's population continuously self-abuses themselves, either based on the opinions of others or when things do not go well.either based on the opinions of others, or when things do not go as expected and/or worked out.

This is accepted in our society because it is confused with self-demand and achievement, as well as the desire to excel.

The difference lies in how we treat and evaluate ourselves based on the results of our actions, or on our behavior and opinions.The difference lies in how we treat and evaluate ourselves based on the results of our actions, or on the behavior and opinions of others about us.

The tendency to self-abuse

The self-esteem, the self-respect, are the capacities of loving and valuing ourselves, whether we are successful or not. It is about trusting ourselves and knowing how to forgive ourselves in spite of our mistakes, and not to doubt or mistreat ourselves because of the opinions of others. not to doubt or mistreat ourselves because of the opinions of others..

• Has it ever happened to you that someone expresses a negative opinion about you and you not only believe it but also beat yourself up about it?
• How do you feel when things don't work out the way you expected?
• Do you compare yourself with other people, what do you think about it?
• Do you feel that you are worse or always do things worse than others?
• Do you obsess about not achieving what others achieve?

The key is in how we deal with obstacles and how we talk to ourselves.. In telling ourselves "I have failed" versus "I am a failure".

The self-treatment that we do to ourselves when our self-esteem fails us, is successfully worked through unconditional self-esteem. Also through our internal dialogue, because we become our own worst enemies.

What can be done?

By applying the appropriate therapeutic strategies and techniquesWe can get a person to change the aggressive and unfair judgments towards themselves in order to achieve a full and healthy life.

People continually come to me with a precarious self-esteem and intense self-treatment, which affects them, blocking their behavior and preventing them from enjoying all the good things that do happen in their lives, making it difficult for them to have good interpersonal relationships.

Why should you work on your self-esteem?

These are the the main reasons why it is important to seek professional help for this kind of for these kinds of problems.

• To feel less afraid of failure, of facing problems, of the opinion of others.
• To avoid being ashamed of yourself.
• To face your mistakes in a proper way and manage to correct them.
• To be able to love others in a healthy way and accept yourself without self-abuse.
• Although sometimes we can't avoid feeling bad, we can prevent that feeling from blocking us, and face obstacles in an appropriate way.

Whatever your situation, the most important person in your life is you. Y you can't deliver the best version of yourself if you don't accept and love yourself fairly. and love yourself in a fair way. Unconsciously, you will be treating others the way you treat yourself, or in a distorted way based on the judgment and approval you expect from others, belittling and punishing yourself excessively.

It is terrible to live in constant self-reproach, or always on the defensive. Seek help and don't be ashamed of it. Success is not in always doing things right, but in our attitude towards ourselves.Success is not in our attitude towards ourselves and life, but in our way of facing problems. If you are looking for psychotherapeutic support, I invite you to contact me.