Self-esteem or self-destruction?

There are many ways in which we can neglect self-esteem without realizing it.

Self-esteem is increasingly identified as a fundamental pillar in the basis of psychological balance and proper emotional management, in such a way that it has an impact on people's well-being and on an adequate way of being, being, being and being well.It has an impact on the well-being of people and on an adequate way of being, being or feeling.

There are different ways of loving ourselves little or not at all and not seeming it.. When we attribute facts to bad luck or circumstances, for example. The truth is that, sometimes, we do not do things for ourselves, to take care of ourselves, to feel good, to love ourselves; and that can become a way to destroy us, to ruin us a little more as persons.

From the self-destruction to the care of the self-esteem

There are many ways to destroy ourselves, to hurt ourselves without being considered part of a pathology, but being something negative and dangerous. Let's review some ideas that have to do with self-esteem.

1. Learn to accept ourselves

We are unique and unrepeatable beings and we are in constant evolution and change.. Sometimes, we are left with distorted images of ourselves and we do not incorporate acceptance and recognition to the changes we are achieving. Nor do we accept what we do not like as a first step to modify it.

2. Try to be critical in the right measure.

Some people are very hard with self-criticism, and this seriously damages their self-esteem. They martyr themselves for decisions made, blame themselves for unintended consequences, and continue to hold these kinds of thoughts. and continue to hold these kinds of thoughts long enough for it to become unbearable.

Finding balance when making judgments about one's own behavior is a skill to work on and develop.

3. Perform frequent self-care actions

It is important to do this by disassociating self-care from the concept of selfishness, which is clearly frowned upon and, sometimes, even rejected.which is clearly frowned upon and sometimes confused with egocentrism.

Being selfish is not always bad and self-care is essential, because if we do not do it ourselves, we expect others to do it, without knowing exactly when we need it most. We are talking about simple things that can be sophisticated as much as necessary: a calm and unhurried breakfast, a while of reading, a shower that is not against the clock or a walk with enough time, perhaps a relaxed chat or that which you know that you feel wonderful.

4. Promote actions to achieve our vital objectives

Knowing what we want to achieve at each stage of life and making a plan of action to achieve it can be simple or very complex, but it requires stopping to think about it, being responsible in the intermediate steps and chaining actions together. it requires stopping to think about it, being responsible in the intermediate steps and chaining actions together.. If this is what you want to achieve, get to it, don't wait for it to come on its own.

5. Consider our priority needs from time to time.

If we let ourselves be carried away by the urgency of the environment or others, sometimes, our needs are left in a permanent queue and never get their turn, unless we put them first.unless we put them at the front of the queue. From time to time it is necessary to pay attention to this and re-establish the order of needs.

Assessing the initial situation

And now come some questions: what do you intentionally do to feel comfortable in your skin? How do you act and speak to yourself? Are you consistent with your values and principles?

Inertia, the movement generated by the current around us, sometimes leads us to behaviors that, in reality, are not what we want or what makes us feel good. behaviors that, in reality, are not the ones we want or the ones that make us feel good.. It is necessary to stop and reflect on it, to realize the most frequent thoughts and the language we use, because it influences those thoughts and the emotions that are generated.

Observe your internal messages, maybe they are along the lines of "I can't do anything else" or "it's not worth going against the current". But it's about you, the most important thing in your life. If you do not consider yourself important, and you convince yourself that it is "worth it" to do everything possible to be well, at ease; then you stop taking care of yourself, loving yourself, respecting yourself and, without being fully aware, you begin to self-destruct and, as a consequence, to harm those around you.

It is easy to let ourselves be carried away by victimhood and put ourselves in the place of a passive subject, instead of considering ourselves responsible and taking initiatives with an eye on ourselves, on feeling good, strong, capable; on learning from past mistakes to look forward to future opportunities. In short, in feeling that everyone has the power to influence what happens around you.

We know that we live in difficult times, bad experiences or mistrust abound and new complications appear at every moment. It is easy to get carried away by discouragement and the tendency to think that there is nothing we can do, but.... but is there really nothing we can do?

Maybe it's time to take care of yourself like never before, to strengthen your confidence and self-confidence.To really build your confidence and self-esteem, with conviction and every day. Bring out your potential and try the options in front of you. Experience the moments when things work out, even if it's good, fair or bad. But don't stop doing it, to test your options again. No one better than you to believe in yourself. Take care of your self-esteem, it is a sure value.