September divorces can be avoided with couple’s therapy

There are several reasons why going to couples therapy during the vacation season is advisable.

It is not necessary to wait for crises to go to a professional.. If we notice that our sentimental relationship is deteriorating little by little, perhaps, arrived these summer months we should consider if we can, we want or we must dedicate our days of rest to make a couple therapy.

It is known that cohabitation can produce wear and tear, especially if one arrives at the vacation destination with accumulated stress from work and certain tensions work and with certain internal tensions of the relationship. Everything can increase with the presence of small children, who require care, dedication and who need that the days we spend with them we are at the maximum of our capacity. These are days to be with the family and we also have the expectation of a happy and close-knit environment.

With these handicaps, the summer can be difficult for everyone. It is true that divorces increase in September, but this does not happen by chance. but because the members of the couple have been estranged for some time, one or both of the parties are not satisfied with the situation of the couple and these days can be the stimulus to take the step. Therefore, before leaving for the beach, the mountains or to embark on a long tourist trip abroad it is advisable to sit down and to address the stress factors that may arise during the family days.

Preventing divorce in September with couples therapy

Living together and emotional well-being depend largely on how one chooses to deal with the obstacles that come one's way. It is not that traveling or not traveling will change the situation or eliminate the conflicts that exist. Going on vacation when there is conflict has its risks, but if the couple is able to discuss how they will deal with the trip, negotiating and establishing limits, they can enjoy the vacation. However, it is not the solution to the present difficulties.

This solution involves attending couple's therapy sessions, a process of reinforcement of the loving bond, which can also be counted on in the case of a couple who are in a relationship. which can also be counted on during the summer, if one chooses to suspend the trips. The leisure time we have during this season is a very good opportunity to count on the help of a neutral professional and solve the bad situation we are going through.

Why is seeing a professional couple's therapist during the summer a good option? It is important to keep in mind that In the case of short vacations, we are often not able to disconnect and enjoy, because it takes about 4 days to adapt to these new habits separated from the routine. and enjoy ourselves, because it takes us about 4 days to adapt to these new habits away from the routine.

In those first days visiting tourist attractions or sunbathing on the beach, the previous stress can become a real obstacle when trying to really immerse ourselves in the vacation; we are worried about not being aware of work, not checking the mail or not receiving calls. We maintain a state of alertness that prevents us from prevents us from focusing our attention on the present moment and on our partner.. And this can generate a lot of frustration and arguments, if there were previous conflicts.

Another reason why it is advisable to go to couples therapy during the vacation season, perhaps the most important, is the fact that in summer we have more free time to go to therapy; time that we can spend on work with the psychological tools that are capable of moving our love relationship forward..

These tools contribute to:

• Create spaces for communication and empathic connection that allow both members of the couple to express themselves freely and reach agreements that benefit everyone.
• Strengthen the bond that keeps the couple together emotionally, communicatively and in coexistence.
• To maintain a good management of schedules in which there are times for the couple, for friends, for hobbies, etc.
• To know how to externalize emotions and make them clearly understood to the person who is with us.
• To know how to manage all kinds of common conflicts in the couple's daily life, and to make the discussions be based on the constructive.

It is very important that both of you are convinced of the importance of seeing a neutral therapist.Otherwise, the venture will fail.

What role does the professional play in the process?

The role of the professional is one of non-interference, of neutrality. Normally, psychologists take the most effective measures so that both partners in the relationship learn the following skills:

• Communication skills and assertiveness techniques.
• Willingness to plan stimulating and interesting activities for both partners.
• Communication skills and reaching agreements to distribute household chores.
• Being able to see the positive aspects and potential of the other.

To improve the coexistence in vacations...

If you finally decide to go on vacation, take note of these tips, which will help you to to eliminate tensions and to improve the coexistence.:

• Learn to make time for enjoyable activities to do as a couple, and not necessarily only on weekends.
• Respect the fact that each member of the couple needs time to be alone or dedicated to their particular hobbies.
• Get used to expressing positive appraisals about each other, and not only focused on the image but also on their actions and achievements.
• Engage in active listening, showing interest and involvement in what the other person has to say.
• In discussions and conflicts that sometimes arise with the loved one, avoid becoming defensive and take an interest in the other person's perspective in order to reach solutions and agreements.

The opposite of what is expected can always happen, but, in this case, for the better. We can fall in love with our partner again, breaking the routine and recovering the passion. In summer, sexual desire increases and certain exotic environments, together with the novelty of the change, can help us to recover the illusion.