The 5 basic human needs in personal development

These are the fundamental elements that a personal development process must go through.

Human beings live at a constant crossroads as to what are our real needs, what we really need to feel good, to know ourselves and to grow, and what are those needs that we have created over time based on our fears and insecurities. what are those needs that we have been creating over time based on our fears and insecurities..

We usually believe we need a behavior from others, a context that favors us, a status, certain possessions, to be rewarded or a set of factors that are external, we cannot control and end up generating frustration and discouragement. What are the basic psychological needs of human beings for their personal growth? Let's see it.

Basic psychological needs in personal development

Abraham Maslow, the famous humanist psychologist, left us a theory in which, in a simple way, he spoke about a scale of needsordered according to a hierarchy.

First it is necessary to cover the basic organic needs and, later, we reach deeper and more personal needs, related to our personal (or professional) self-fulfillment. This is where the vast majority of people encounter difficulties.

On the contrary, based on fears and insecurities that we have not been able to understand and manage in a functional way, we have created a set of contrary needs and this is the origin of most of our problems and difficulties.

In the last 10 years, as a psychologist and coach, I have accompanied people through change processes where, whatever the goal or change they needed, or whether the focus was personal or professional, sooner or later we ended up working on these needs and on the value system. If we try to cover our fictitious needs, the result will always be frustrating, because we will also neglect these needs.because we will also neglect these real and basic needs.

In this video I explain what are the 5 basic psychological needs of the human being for personal growth and, above all, what prevents you from getting to meet that need and how to do it. The good news: it is a process that depends on you.

First it is necessary to say which are not those basic psychological needs.You seek a lifestyle that becomes too complex, you accumulate objects, you demand too much of yourself or you have too many expectations or demands from the outside world. Needing too much from the outside world (people, objects, lifestyle) is often the result of not understanding and managing our emotions and living based on insecurity, fears, frustration, even anxiety (an anxious lifestyle, as we have related those needs to a source of well-being that we cannot control).

First need: for decision

You have the need, above all, to make your own decisions.

The human being needs to decide for himself, since making decisions is what helps you to know, to achieve the changes and development you need and, ultimately, to build your own life. When we do not make decisions, either personally or professionally (because other people make them for us or because we become paralyzed) the result is frustration and the feeling of not being in control.

The lack of decision or of communicating limits is a problem related to your fears (because of what you fear may happen in relation to others).

Second need: bonding

Human beings are emotional, social and affective beings.. We need to bond with others and, sometimes, although these bonds exist, they are not deep or honest enough due again to the fear and insecurity we feel in our encounter with others or with each other.

This does not mean that your well-being depends on others (it depends mainly on you) but that we need to share our affective life with others and the world in a healthy, balanced way, and above all on the basis of trust and with deep attachments (which does not imply dependence).

Third need: for achievement

We need to grow and challenge ourselves, not with too much self-demand but with curiosity and illusion.. Through achievement and positive effort (because we really want to live this process) we get to know ourselves, discover ourselves, and grow.

Achievement is also one of the main motivations of human beings along with fulfillment and bonding.

Fourth need: for self-knowledge

Knowing yourself is a lifelong process and we never quite finish it. However, sometimes we can become paralyzed. When we don't make decisions or take action on what we really want, we end up feeling like we don't know ourselves.. Self-knowledge, above all, is not achieved with readings, reflections or mantras, but always with action. In actions lies the greatest possible awareness.

Fifth need: for self-realization

We need to feel, above all, that what we are doing is deeply aligned with our values and desires.. When what you do and what you want come together, we find self-fulfillment. Of course, this does not imply a selfish attitude, since personal self-fulfillment is only possible if we establish healthy and generous links with others and the world.

Concluding

If you reflect on these five needs, you will discover that they all depend on you and that the mere fact of not fulfilling them often leads to discomfort. Changing this situation depends on living a process of profound change. where change happens in you and above all stays with you forever. Consult me at empoderamientohumano.com or in the author's file and we will take the first step; remember that you can request a first free exploratory session at empoderamientohumano.com, or you can contact me through this page.