The 5 keys to be happy with your partner (and how to enhance them).

Psychological keys to make your relationship a source of happiness.

There are many moments that can create a bad atmosphere at home.. Having lived many things together as a couple with children in between, and for different reasons that have been snowballing, the situations capable of creating a latent tension are varied.

Perhaps they have been problems with his or her family, some day-to-day frictions, economic issues, etc. What to do?

5 keys to enhance happiness in the life as a couple.

The first thing to have clear is that in a healthy couple there are a series of emotions or principles that are always there.These are:

• Respect: zero insults and contempt.
• Affection: warmth is important.
• Empathy: recognizing our partner's feelings.
• Fluid communication: create a good atmosphere of cordiality, which will lead to intimacy.

This will give you both a physical and mental well-being that will make us both happy and, above all, will allow you to reach a clear mutual stability that will help you to be more fulfilled.

At this point we ask ourselves a question: What works when the relationship is stable and both partners like it? Let's see the pillars to take into account to give an answer to that question, how to enhance them, and how to make them last.

1. Commitment

If you find it difficult to commit to your partner or you notice that he or she does too, it is clear that something is wrong.. Commitment comes only when we see that the other party wants to spend time with us and decides to give us part of his or her time to enjoy it.

When we commit to a life together, it means that we will do everything possible to make that life together work. Living together is not the goal, but being happy living together. We will enhance it:

• Valuing the positive qualities: since this way we will focus more on the positive and it will end up standing out over the negative.
• Appreciating what you have in common with your partner regarding their way of being or their feelings shown in the face of bad experiences lived as a couple.

2. Intimacy

This translates into good conversations (fluid communication).. It is important that you can talk to each other on a daily basis about your own things, so that you can get to know each other better and establish conversations that lead you to know each other in depth, understanding feelings and perspectives on life that help you to understand each other. In this way we will avoid being just roommates and having that feeling of loneliness. To achieve this we must take into account these key ideas:

• Recognize the moment: having a good drink in hand, a good dinner accompanied by a moment of intimacy with the person we love the most will make us feel more comfortable to express what we feel.
• Do not confuse telling intimate things with having no filter: of course, I ask that you have empathy. Surely you know what topics your partner does not like to know about, be aware. The goal is that you can talk about your feelings or ways of thinking and even future projects that you would like to start at his or her side.

3. React the same way to conflict situations

Each one has a very personal style, maybe one is more combative than the other, but the important thing is that you always the important thing is that you always come to a positive conclusion between the two of you.. To achieve this, it is necessary to set goals:

• Establish some rules to discuss: for example, do not chase each other, when one notices that one is going to say something rude, do not do it, etc.
• Establish a series of rules to which we commit ourselves in order not to fall into arguments that we have been dragging for a long time: if, for example, there are problems of order, establish a series of rules regarding them.

4. Emotional and corporal connection

This is important to be able to fix some points of union with which we can feel heard. with which we can feel listened to by the other party, and above all feel a mutual feeling that we can enjoy.

• A good way of emotional connection is the fact of being able to do guided meditations together and feel the energy of both. A good exercise for example is to follow these meditations holding hands in order to feel the energy of the other person, hear their breathing, feel their body heat, etc.

5. Satisfying sexual life

Fifth point and not less important; this is something vital that we have to pay attention to. Many times we believe that having a couple connection has nothing to do with sex, or that perhaps this can be relegated to a second point because we do not have time.. This is a bad decision that will only make us worse. This is why we have to have clear resources to be able to enhance it and get better sensations.

• Do not forget to make use of sexual games or to resort to bibliography that will make you understand better all this game.

Shall we reconduct your relationship?

My name is Javier Ares and I am a General Health Psychologist.. My specialties include helping couples to improve their intimate life and, above all, to create a good balance that helps you to be as positive as possible and to put an end to the false arguments that only make you suffer more.

I offer a personalized method that apart from helping you to get to know each other better, allows you to improve through exercises based on your personal skills so that, with practice, you can be better and more positive.

Many are the couples who have gone to the psychologist and in the end have not noticed progress, for this reason I want the protagonist to be you with exercises that you will apply weekly.