The 5 types of heartbreak (and their emotional effects)

These are the main types of heartbreak in couple and friendship relationships.

"Explode, explode me explode, explode my heart." So sang the great Raffaella Carrà in one of her well-known songs. A few verses later she said "What a disaster if you leave!" and yes, it is a disaster to be left: how bad it feels to fall out of love!

And that's what we're going to talk about today, about heartbreak. How many types are there? Well, we can't pretend to find a scientific answer to something as subjective as love. This is more a matter of the tabloids than of a powerful scientific research, but something can be extracted.

And what we are going to read below is what we have extracted from our research on this complex subject of (un)love. Let's see how many types of lovelessness there are, or at least how many have been described..

The main types of heartbreak in personal relationships.

Almost everything in love is a mystery, a little in jest, a little seriously, and neither can it be said that defining just the opposite, the disaffection, is very different. Some will define lovelessness as the emotion we feel when someone we love doesn't love us back. Others will define it as the feeling that arises when a relationship breaks up, whether it is a friendship or a passionate love.

After an exhaustive search through the curious world of showbiz journalism and the tabloids, far removed from psychology, we have found several classifications. However, all of them combined give rise to a single system of five types of heartbreak associated with very common social situations.

Within this type of unfaithfulness we find both those that occur after a relationship has been established and broken (i.e., there was a sentimental correspondence between two people) and the type of relationships in which one of the parties involved was in love or felt attraction towards another person, but it was not reciprocated and therefore there was never a relationship of any kind.

1. The first (un)love

They say that the first love is the most intense, or at least the one we will remember the most even if it comes to an end, which is what usually happens. Who has not thought that true love is only the first one? When it comes to an end, the heartbreak is so great, so intense that you don't even know if you will survive. Obviously you survive, but if you're a teenager it seems like the end of the world..

You're not sure if you're ever going to love someone else again, that that person was your other half. It is normal for this heartbreak to last a long time and, if mismanaged, it can even destroy you. It will hurt, but one day you will be fine again.

2. That of the soul mate

It has happened to all of us that in our adolescence or adulthood we meet someone interesting, someone with whom to establish an interesting and beautiful friendship. It is nothing associated with love or romance, but an intense friendship, someone to count on for a plan or a plan of action.someone to count on for a Friday night plan.

It may be a college classmate, our roommate or even someone we met in a bar and liked. From the moment you meet, you spend time together, a lot of time. You invite him to your house, you go out partying and you have a lot of fun together, intensely. Be that as it may, a friendship arises that, although relatively recent and formed as a mature person, is seen as that of a very important friend, a colleague of the soul.

You see him as a great friend, but he may not see you. As cruel as it sounds, he may see you as just another person to spend time with, someone to have fun with this season until he meets the next one, which will happen. He's a novelty kind of guy, and after a few months, you're no longer the novelty.

It gets to the point where you either have to drag him out to meet up or he doesn't answer your messages at all. He is ghosting you and you don't know why. It has happened that you thought he was a friend and he was just a casual colleague, and you are not going to change his mind. This is where heartbreak happens, your Heart breaks a little, although it is most likely that you will only be unhappy for a short time, at most a month.

3. The one you didn't want to get serious with

You meet someone in your dance class. You talk, fool around and, well, you know how the night ends. You go out for a while doing things that are meaningful to you, things that indicate to you that he or she feels love for you, that he or she loves you. In your mind love is a serious thing, so in your belief system is not the idea that dating someone several times without wanting something deepIt's a love relationship, or at least you think it is.

One day, after doing what we all know you do in bed, you wake up the next morning and surprise! he's gone. He's been a gentleman/lady, he's left you a message, "I'm not looking for anything serious." Your heart breaks into a thousand pieces, not only because you've just been dumped but also because of the uncertainty "Did I do something wrong?", "What happened?". There will be a lot of questions in your restless mind that will make it very difficult to overcome the phases of heartbreak.

4. The friend you see every day

Who hasn't fallen in love with a friend? They say that it is not at all advisable to go out with friends, and there must be a reason for that. You both imagine the following situation: you go out for a while, you are very much in love but, after a few months, the breakup comes and it ends very badly. What do you do? Who leaves the group of friends? Will there be a group schism? Will there be sides?

Going out with a friend from the main group of friends involves many risks and the danger of provoking a conflict of difficult the danger of provoking a conflict that is difficult to solve.. Therefore, even if you both like each other, there is usually an agreement not to go out at all. Problem: no matter how much you have agreed not to be anything, the heart still feels something, something for a person you are going to see every day. This makes falling out of love over something that will never happen even harder and longer.

5. Breaking up with your best friend

Couples come and go, but a best friend is forever, right? Well, not really. As sad as it may sound, our childhood best friend may stop being our friend for any reason. It is painful because it is a person with whom you surely grew up, you played with him or her at playground time, at your house or at his or hers and also at the park. You shared many moments of your childhood or adolescence, and you will always have him or her as a friend of reference.. He is irreplaceable.

But in spite of being irreplaceable, things happen. Maybe you moved to another city or you had a fight so hard that you could not reconcile. Maybe he passed away. Whatever it was that put an end to the relationship, the subsequent heartbreak, heartbreak in the sense of losing a great friend, is very intense. A loss so important that it will condition the rest of the friendships we form for the rest of our lives.