The 7 most common fears, and how to overcome them.

A summary of the most common fears, how they limit us, and how to overcome them.

Fear is the emotion that most paralyzes us and limits our life. Beyond this, other paralyzing and distressing emotions such as insecurity or anxiety states are also forms of fear. To what does it lead us to live a life constantly conditioned by our fears?

The impact of fear in our lives

Fears are the most common problems of people who want to experience real and profound changes in their lives, either in relation to their own well-being, personal or couple relationships, social difficulties or even in work or entrepreneurship. It is an elusive emotion, and it is very difficult to detect these fears, to understand them, to know their meaning (what really makes us afraid) and above all to overcome them. But the problem is not the fear, but the way in which you understand and manage your fears..

Fear is a basic emotion and it is natural and necessary to feel it. As a psychological phenomenon, it protects us from many harmful factors. The problem is when we have created, almost always unconsciously, a multitude of fears towards situations that are not really dangerous and condition our life. Fears of losing, of loneliness, of not feeling capable?

This fear ends up transforming into anger, insecurities, arguments, discouragement, or above all in that paralysis so common when facing problems or going towards what we really want and what makes us happy.

In the last 10 years, accompanying people in their change processes as a psychologist and coach, I have come to know and work with the most common fears. All of them can be summarized in the 7 great fears. Let's see what they are and how to begin to overcome them; and, if you want to take that step, you can register for free in Emociónate within empoderamientohumano.com, a first step to begin your process of change to understand and know how to manage your emotions.

The 7 most common fears

These are the 7 most common fears that arise naturally at certain times of life in many people:

1. Fear of not being able to and of failure 2.

When it comes to challenges and projects, this fear is often a paralyzing force when it comes to doing what we really want to do. We live with the idea of our inability or the possible consequences.and fear tends to paralyze us to spare us those consequences. But the truth is that we are never 100% prepared to face something new, and what we understand as a failure is part of that learning process.

2. Fear of loneliness

Human beings are never alone. We are social beings, and the quality or quantity of our relationships depends on our openness and trust.. Paradoxically, when we are most distrustful is when we are most afraid of loneliness, and this leads us to isolate ourselves or, on the contrary, to try to keep people (such as our partner) based on our fears and insecurities and through frequent discussions or demands.

3. Fear of death (our own or others')

Death is a natural process with which we coexist.. Our society or way of life usually isolates us from this process, which makes us even more afraid of it.

4. Fear of losing control

The control we have over our lives is actually very small. We can make decisions, but at the same time we are affected and conditioned by many factors. This lack of confidence in life often makes us want to be in control of the uncontrollable.. Since this is not possible, fear tends to be reinforced. We want to control our children, our partner, our relationships, our objects and possessions, our status, etc.

5. Fear of loss

Personal or material, is another form of fear of another form of fear of losing control, but oriented to what we lose, which implies that we live with the fear of losing control.which implies that we live with the belief that we possess something or someone.

6. Fear that everything remains the same

When we do not like our situation, we are afraid that it will continue this way. This makes that the fear is validated with the simple passage of time, and we see everything blacker and blacker. At the same time, this fear has a positive side: it helps you to commit to your own personal change..

7. Fear of losing security

We tend to believe that living with security is the key to happiness. However, life is pure insecurity. We don't know what is going to happen at any given moment, and how we deal with this surprise the way we deal with that surprise conditions our life..

The fear of losing security makes us look for it so hard that we always feel dissatisfaction, frustration, anxiety, and therefore even more fear.

Personal development by improving the relationship with one's own fears

What are these fears leading you to? What are you losing as a result of having them? How would your life be different if you learned to understand and manage them so that they do not condition your life? And above all, how can you overcome them?

In fact, fear is necessary and not possible, fear is necessary and it is not possible to leave them behind forever.. The key is to have a functional relationship with your fears, in such a way that they warn you about what is really dangerous or not, and to know how to understand and manage them in a functional way (that is really useful and leads you to the well-being and improvement of your relationships or professional life).

This is not something that is achieved simply by informing ourselves about the objective risks (estimated according to the probability) of the occurrence of what we fear. Having data does not have to translate into a change in the way we relate to our emotions.

This is what you get if you go through a process of change, in the course of which that personal transformation stays with you forever, since you have learned mainly about yourself. This way of learning has a theoretical part, but above all a practical part based on new experiences. Without these, personal development is meaningless; and that is precisely what the "training" sessions we psychology professionals work with consist of.