The importance of forgiveness in overcoming anxiety

Here are the reasons why forgiving helps mitigate anxiety problems.

If I were to ask you, "Who wins when you allow yourself to forgive?" you might think it's silly, but the reality is that everyone wins.

You both achieve an inner peace that is very difficult to acquire by other means, which is why it is important to practice forgiveness.Therefore, it is important to practice forgiveness whenever we deem it necessary from the heart.

Practicing forgiveness reduces the intensity of depressive symptoms, pain, stress and anger. The individual experiences a sense of peace, compassion and hope, as well as full self-confidence..

Forgiveness in psychology and its influence on anxiety.

Before you read on I would like you to take a few seconds to reflect and ask yourself what your definition of forgiveness is. This word is very present in our lives since we are small, so I want to share the importance of its meaning and its relevance in overcoming anxiety.

Forgiveness in itself is to release a person from a punishment or obligation.. I don't know if it sounds like the definition you have written, but in this case I am going to focus on the word release, which is fundamental.

As we have seen, allowing ourselves to forgive someone means that both parties are victorious, because forgiving the other is also forgiving ourselves. It is about moving beyond the judgments and perceptions that limit us and lock us into insecurity.. That is why a change of perception is necessary, another way of considering the circumstances and people that we believe have caused us problems and pain.

• Forgiveness, being a decision, allows us to see beyond the limits of other people's personalities, their mistakes, fears, idiosyncrasies, the decision to see in pure essence (not conditioned by personal histories) that we have that unlimited capacity to liberate and free ourselves.
• We must have an attitude of willingness to accept our responsibility regarding our perception, understanding that these are choices, not subjective facts.
• Forgiving does not mean justifying unacceptable behavior.
• It is not pretending that "everything is fine" or "nothing has happened" when you feel that this is not the case.
• It is not adopting an attitude of superiority.
• It does not mean that you must change your behavior.
• It does not involve communicating directly with the person you have forgiven.

So don't justify don't justify yourself in these misconceptions for not doing it..

People make mistakes

Recognizing and learning to forgive is difficult, but not impossible. As with losses, we go through the stages of grief when we are affronted by a loss, and you may notice somatic problems, guilt-related worries, hostile reactions, loss of behavioral patterns. and you may notice somatic problems, guilt-related concerns, hostile reactions, loss of behavioral patterns.

1. The rejection phase

It is a protective mechanismIt is a natural and temporary escape that cushions the immediate impact and helps to assimilate the terrible reality, because even when there is "intellectual" acceptance, the emotional process is very slow.

2. Anger

Resentment reduces sufferingIt is a phase where we improve by being able to express very strong feelings that we did not think we were capable of expressing.

3. Resistance

We feel powerless, incapable or weak to face new situations or decisions.. We want to take the time to grieve and we are reluctant to give it up. Although working through our Pain is important and allows us to feel fully, it is important to remember that it is a temporary phase and we cannot remain pigeonholed forever.

4. Recovery

Gradually, hope begins to emerge.. We recover our sense of ourselves by facing the harsh reality.

Externalizing our pain and trying to coexist with it says a lot about our mental health. There is no simplification when it comes to pain, we cannot avoid it, we must face it.

Steps to forgiveness

The best way to forgive is to understand what it was that hurt you.Understand that the person could also have made a mistake and move on.

That is where forgiveness makes sense, because it has much more to do with acceptance, it is liberation in its purest form.

• You must know exactly how you feel and have the ability to admit that what has been done to you is an affront to you.
• Forgiving does not mean an imminent reconciliation (much less that things will be as they were before). So you must keep in mind that if you forgive does not imply that you tolerate the actions of that person, but to find peace for yourself and let bygones be bygones.
• You must commit yourself to do it and from your heart. Remember that it is for you and no one else.
• Remember that distress comes from negative thoughts and feelings of pain. It can also come with physical symptoms. Forgiveness helps to mitigate all those feelings.
• You can practice some simple relaxation techniques to calm yourself.
• Avoid reacting impulsively; it is expected of you, but in the long run it is much worse because you can make the conflict worse.
• Find positive goals instead of reliving the pain, it is always better to look for new ways to fight for what you want.
• Don't think about revenge. If you focus on your emotional hurt, you are letting the person who committed the affront have power over you. Forgiveness is about you being in control.

If you want to transform your history of resentment, I can offer you my online workshop "Turn Forgiveness into Gratitude".I will teach you that the most heroic decision you can make is to forgive.

The ability to forgive has many benefits.In the act itself, the pain is released, and makes you forget the feeling of anger and helplessness, and you can regain hope, tranquility and self-confidence.

You must understand that if you find yourself in a situation of "unforgiveness", you are angry, but not only with the person who made the affront, but to a great extent with yourself and with the whole world.

Therefore, the ability to forgive implies leaving your spirit in peace, repairing that damaged relationship to give way to the emotional stability you need so much.