The Search for Truth: A Principle of a Full Life

In order to gain freedom, autonomy and fullness of life, it is important not to lie to oneself.

From VillaRamadas we believe that we must face several principles in order to have a full life. Here we will talk about the first one; the truth.

The search for truth as a vital principle

The search for truth is one of the great demands of the human being. Who lives in the truth is well with himself and has freedom as a guide for action.. Who lives in the truth, fears nothing, increases his self-confidence, credibility and integrity, raising the authenticity of being.

We have the natural capacity to change and grow. We are afraid of punishments and repressions, we tell little lies, here and there. We judge that, only in this way, we can be free to explore the world through our eyes and with behaviors that allow us to learn, to do and to be.

These little "non-truths", created out of fear of some consequence, create a habit of doing and not saying.of doing and not saying. The big question is that there are no small or big lies, but simply lies.

To live in lies is to live dead

Lies corrode, wear and kill inside. It is the desperation to maintain a facade for others and use masks to cover up what we think, feel or how we behave.

It is the weariness of always remembering what has been said and to whom, so as not to be caught. Lying forces the greater use of memory and more attention to words.. It forces constant vigilance and a permanent state of alertness. It tires, destroys, ruins the intimate, values and principles, leading to mental insanity.

Individuals are trapped, worn out, chained, sad and incomplete, as long as they feed on lies.

To live in truth is to live in all fullness.

To live in truth is to be complete, joyful, free, without worrying about remembering what you have said and to whom. It is not possible to live on both sides, as so many people have been trying to do for years. It is like being abstinent from alcohol and drugs, but having self-destructive behaviors; or asserting oneself as independent and being financially dependent on one's parents.

The truth sets us on the path to healthy emotional growth that generates success.Try to be a person of value, rather than a person of success," said Albert Einstein.

Before obtaining anything, be it financial success, professional success or anything else, a person needs to Be. Before having, we need to be. It is necessary to have clear truths within you, so that the development of emotional balance is constant, evolutionary.

Emotional management must be done regularlyEvery day there are external triggers that trigger our emotions to levels that can be suffocating. For example, if you arrive at work and you are fired, it triggers anger, fear and insecurity. If on the same day, you had an argument with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you are left even worse, perhaps close to the edge. These feelings have to be processed in order not to lead you to despair, depression, insanity or death.

The importance of emotional balance

The mind is mysterious and complex. Being so, it needs care and a good dose of balance, otherwise, serious psychological problems may arise.. It is very important to develop cognitive balance by the parameters of truth, because many psychological problems come from traumas, past frustrations, negative beliefs. An example of this is the case of depressive pathology, which has reached millions of people in the four corners of the world.

A life centered on the past, temporarily blocked, triggers mental decontrol. It is necessary to think correctly about the truths that surround us, to evaluate whether they are our own or not.It is necessary to evaluate whether or not they are our own truths and to define goals for the future.

It is necessary to to learn to anticipate all attitudes or behaviors that make you feel guilt, such as lying.such as lying. You must live the truth, to avoid uncomfortable situations. And you must avoid behaviors that will never receive support from anyone. Behavior is something that expresses everything you have inside you. If you squeeze a tomato, orange juice does not come out.

In the same way, inside you will always come out what is inside you. As such, your behavior is the mirror of your inner self. If you feel anger, guilt or frustration and if you have not learned to process those feelings, those moods will affect your behavior.

Truth is externally important in developing a balance of feelings, thoughts, behaviors and behaviors.It is only possible to overcome a problem, illness or crisis if we do not live in denial. Denying our current reality, what we have, what we are, what we feel, what we live, will totally block our change and growth.

An example.

The decision to opt for the truth and, consequently, to regain freedom of choice, reminds me of a Spanish patient; he was a man I enjoyed counseling in my first years as a therapist in England.

I still remember the concerns he showed. One day, he questioned me more or less in these terms:

• "But... After living more than 12 years in a lie, how can I change? You know, I used to make up lies spontaneously to tell my mother and I told them with such conviction that even I believe them myself.

He He lied as easily as he told the truth.. He did it on "autopilot". He, like most of the addicts I worked with, breathed a lie. Most of the time he wasn't even aware of it. It was simply the way he fed his disease.

Pretending, pretending, deceiving others was the way to hide his true Self. He was living a double life, oriented toward appearances and illusion..

Helping this patient to recognize, identify and change mental processing was challenging and very stimulating. It is a great satisfaction to have helped him regain the mother's trust in five months. He chose the truth and was rewarded.

Years after I counseled this man, I received a letter postmarked from Marbella, with a photograph inside and a short letter of a few paragraphs. And it went like this:

Since we were together, more than 7 years ago, much changed in my life, partly with your help. I gained self-respect, self-esteem, integrity and dignity. Married. I regained the trust of my parents, wife and sisters. I just finished the electrician course, I set up a small electrical assembly company, which is very successful thanks to our commitment, dedication, sincerity, responsibility and mainly authenticity. But also a miracle happened during these seven years: I am a father. She was born, filling our hearts with love, joy and happiness.

It is true, I am a father! And I am loving every second of my real life in the company of my wife and daughter. Her smile, her clear, pure blue eyes, the soft and fine texture of her skin, the smell ... My Heart dances with so much emotion in every moment I live with and for her.

Thank you for having believed in me, when I no longer believed. Today I live in truth and feel love. True love.