This is how enhancing social skills boosts self-esteem.

These social skills have a very positive influence on self-esteem levels.

In psychology, what are known as social skills are among the most important aspects for understanding people's behavior and their way of living and relating to others.

These are the skills useful in social interactions that allow us to relate successfully with our peers and maintain healthy relationships in different areas of life. This has implications for the development of our identity and the maintenance of self-esteem.

Here we will look at how to how enhancing and improving the social skills we have at our disposal strengthens our self-esteem, and why this happens.and why this happens.

Why enhancing social skills boosts self-esteem

Social skills are acquired in a normal way during a person's development starting in the early years, although they can continue to improve at any age if they are they can continue to improve at any age, if they are properly trained.. They do not depend entirely on genetics, but can be enriched through experience.

This is positive, because some people need training in adulthood to learn several of these resources for socializing. Y as self-esteem is closely linked to the results we obtain when trying to relate to others, having or not having good social skills has a strong impact on it.. Ultimately, our perception of ourselves rests not only on what we believe about who we are, but also on what we think others think when they see us and talk to us.

If you want to know which are the main social skills that contribute decisively to improve self-esteem levels, read on; here you will find them summarized.

1. Assertiveness

Assertiveness is one of the most important social skills to increase self-esteem, and consists of expressing, defending and asserting one's own opinion where it should be expressed, while respecting at all times the opinions and approaches of the people around us. In other words, it allows us to defend our ideas but without using them as a weapon to gratuitously attack others..

This skill is key in increasing a person's self-esteem, as it is based on the ability to communicate successfully with others in a respectful manner but making it clear that we are not willing to accept just any deal, and that our individuality deserves respect as well.

2. Expression of empathy

The expression of empathy is another of the indispensable social skills for healthy interpersonal relationships; it is measured by a person's ability to put him/herself in the other person's place and let him/her know that he/she is in the other person's place. the ability of a person to put him/herself in the other person's place and to let him/her know thatIt is measured by a person's ability to put him/herself in the other person's place and let him/her know it, offering support to a greater or lesser extent where it is needed.

Maintaining good empathy with our environment allows us to adapt to all the interpersonal relationships that we maintain during the day to day, and to be perceived as a person who can be counted on. This role as a support figure helps to maintain a good level of self-esteem, by putting us in situations where we can be useful to those who need our help in an emotional sense.

3. Emotional validation

Emotional validation is the ability to understand and validate the emotions and feelings experienced by our interlocutor.We should not resort to paternalism or contempt for other people's ways of thinking when they do not coincide with our own, simply because they are part of the mentality of others.

This is one of the essential skills to achieve a good harmony and communication with our interlocutor, thanks to which we will be perceived positively in the same way, which contributes to increase our self-esteem. We must not forget that although ideas can be criticized, people do not have to be criticized for holding them.

4. Persuasion

Knowing how to persuade others gives us the ability to mobilize people by appealing to what motivates them. It is not simply a matter of explaining the reasons why it is appropriate to perform a certain action or make a certain decision, but of taking into account the type of emotions and feelings connected with the reasons for and against doing what we want to convince others of, and of using nonverbal language well.

Those who have a high capacity to persuade others see that their opinions are not systematically ignored, something that protects against problems of persuasion.This protects against self-esteem problems linked to frustration.

5. Correct verbal expression

The ability to communicate well through words is key to transmit complex ideas and, of course, greatly facilitates interpersonal relationships, as well as teamwork.

It is, therefore, one of the main ingredients of leadership, and is closely linked to intelligence. All the positive consequences of a good use of language have a positive impact on self-esteem and give us the opportunity to share our philosophy of life and our way of seeing things. give us the opportunity to share our philosophy of life and our way of seeing things, something that awakens the interest of others and allows us to be someone to turn to for advice, if we want it. and allows us to be someone to turn to for advice, if we want it.

The ability to express oneself correctly denotes culture, communication skills, knowledge on different subjects, correct vocalization and a good capacity for improvisation, key elements to increase the speaker's self-esteem.

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