To have a serene and happy relationship: how to achieve it?

Several simple tips to ensure that serenity and happiness prevail in the relationship.

Today I would like to talk to you about a subject that worries my patients a lot, and which is one of the most important for human beings when it comes to being happy.

A priori we may think that as rational beings that we are, we give much importance to the decisions we make from a purely rational point of view. However, we are much more emotional than we think, we are much more emotional than we thinkWe are, however, much more emotional than we think, and we are driven by feelings, emotions, and sometimes by impulses, in most cases.

Therefore, sometimes it is important to sit down for a moment, reflect and analyze aspects of our life that we may want to change or improve. In this case I am referring to relationships, and the perfect formula for maintaining a serene, healthy and happy relationship over time. It might seem like something almost like a fairy tale, and sometimes this same excessive idealization is what prevents us from really enjoying a relationship and having expectations that are often unattainable.

How to have a serene and happy couple relationship.

According to my experience and my point of view, a great part of the conflicts of couple arise by not knowing how to manage personality differences, differences in values or lifestyles.. With the passing of the years, routine, passivity, lack of common projects, etc., can also be added. If there comes a time when we start to ask ourselves "do I love or not love the other person", "am I happy or not", or "am I comfortable or not", and we start to answer "no" to everything, then we have a problem, and we have to face it.

As a rule, problems do not go away on their own, so we have to work hard to solve them.so we will have to make an effort to solve them. I would like to give some guidelines in case you find yourself at this point. As in the case of patients who come to my office with couple problems; after carefully studying each case, I like to give a series of personalized indications, as homework, and try to put them into practice little by little.

These keys are based first and foremost on an improvement in attitude, empathy, pro-activism, and a positive outlook..

1. Communication and understanding are the first step

First of all, we must both sit down, with time, in a relaxed atmosphere where we know we will not be disturbed, with our phones off, and explain to the other person all our concerns: what is happening to us, what we think, what we need, how we think we can solve it, etc. That is to say, to give a first glimpse of what is happening, and to listen to the other person to find out what he/she thinks and what needs he/she also has.

Once the subject is broached, a door is opened through which we both have to go through in search of a path that we both like.. Even if the other person believes that there is no problem, you always have to think that in a couple matter you have to face the problem together, and try to understand the other person in order to move forward. Assume the situation and decide whether to try to solve it or not.

Respect and trust

Respect and trust in the other person are fundamental, they are the pillars of all personal relationships, and in the case of a couple, even more so.. The other person has to be a pillar on which to support you when you need it, and vice versa.

There has to be enough trust so that each one can live his or her life without jealousy, without control, without mistrust. If this is being lost it is important to recover it; we have to communicate more, express our concerns, our fears and that the other person also does it to dispel doubts and misunderstandings.

3. Complicity

As a couple, we must have activities to do together, enjoy things in common, and also alone as a couple. It is very important that we share hobbies, or lifestyles that allow us to enjoy the moment, the situation, the activity, and the time together.the situation, the activity, and also with the person we love. If you no longer do things together, think about what you used to do together, and try to recover it, or create new motivating situations for both of you. Continue writing your love story.

4. Passion

Sex is a fundamental part of any couple, apart from those who declare themselves asexual. For all the others, which are the vast majority, passion should not be neglected, passion should not be neglected..

Sometimes, because of the years, children, work, our routine, stress, fatigue, it seems that everything is much more important than sex, and we are wrong. In a relationship, it is a very important part, which combines all the other points at the same time: communication, respect, trust, complicity, and also passion. Relaxation, sharing, talking, opening up, giving each other the necessary time, creating favorable atmospheres, being positive, being active, etc.

Don't let conformism and monotony win, take control of your relationship and your life!

I hope I have helped you.