Types of seducer: which of these 10 seducer archetypes are you?

The different profiles of the seducer, analyzed with a magnifying glass.

Why do people with such different personalities flirt? What characteristics should a good seducer have? What can attract your personality? Are you charismatic and you don't know it?

Types of seducer: which one do you identify with the most?

In The Art of Seductionthe psychologist Robert Greene describes up to nine archetypes of seducers. Or ten types of seducer, if we take into account the figure of the anti-seducer. In this extensive book you will find a historical and psychological analysis of the great personalities of humanity.

It is not enough to know techniques or stratagems to attract and be a great seducer. Sometimes, self-knowledge is the key to know your strengths and how they can play in your favor. We can all be great seducers, we just have to find that inner light that enlivens our charisma and makes us gain confidence and self-esteem. As Oscar Wilde Oscar Wildeone of the most outstanding seducers in history, "to love oneself is the beginning of an adventure that lasts a lifetime. life-long adventure.”.

But, first of all, take a look at this article: "10 ways to be more attractive (scientifically proven)".

Next, we will discover the 9 (plus 1) archetypes of seduction for you to start this journey to self-knowledge and personal development.

1. The Mermaid

Inaccessible, divine, enchanting. There is only one in a group of friends. She is close and at the same time distant. She is the muse of poets, the girl who makes rulers lose their heads. Robert Greene says that Cleopatra was one of them. We will detect a Mermaid by her gestures, her delicacy, her way of dressing very similar to that of the goddesses.

2. The Libertine

Closely associated with the figure of the "tough guy", he makes you live unique experiences. Among the different types of seducer, the tough guy never goes out of fashion. Transgressor and confident, he knows that his charm comes from the most primal instincts. He lives on the edge, skipping all the rules to make adrenaline run through your body. If he has to kiss, he kisses with confidence. If he has to look at you, he goes deep inside you. He is capable of making you commit all the crazy things you can't imagine because nothing can happen to you next to him.

3. The Ideal Lover

He is an expert in illusionism; everything about him is artifice. He creates perfect romances, without fissures. He is capable of making women feel comfortable and desired. Everything about him is a function written to seduce the most demanding ladies. He dominates the context, he knows how to talk, but above all he knows how to listen. Everything is perfect because he makes it perfect. If he invites you to a dinner, he will delight you with his best cooking skills; if he invites you for a walk, he will choose the best scenery, the best decoration.

4. The Dandy

Unclassifiable, androgynous, elegant, ironic... like the Libertine, he will make you feel free. He is one of the most dynamic and unpredictable types of seducer. He plays with masculinity and femininity. You will never be able to define him because when you think something about him, he has already changed. They use their physical appearance to suggest, like the Mermaid. He masters social skills to perfection like the Ideal Lover, but when you try to classify him, he disappears. If you try to understand him, you get confused.... Robert Greene says that Rudolph Valentino was one of the most important Dandys.

5. The Candide

He is a naive and playful child. Society has not been able to tame him. Mozart was one of them. He makes the difficult seem easy. Everything seems like a game to him. The candid possesses the harmless charm of babies and the subversive gifts of the rogue. He possesses a magnetic unconsciousness. It is impossible to get angry with him because he has no malice.

6. The Coquette

This archetype is attributed to girls but flirts can also exist. When you go she comes back. She cancels appointments. Shows up at the most unexpected time. She is always late for her appointments if she hasn't decided to stand you up. The more she gets your attention, the less she wants it. If you chase her you are lost. If you try to ignore her you will despair.

7. The Charming One

The seduction without sex. He will give you what you want without asking for anything in return. He will know how to flatter you and make you feel comfortable. He dominates the context and you will feel that with him you can be at ease. He will not do or say anything that could embarrass you. It seems that sex does not interest him, you will not distrust him. They show themselves as a friend; they understand you, they listen to you, they help you, they know how to advise you and make you happy. All this stratagem will serve to make you appreciate them and ask yourself a question: does he/she like me or doesn't he/she like me? Sometimes it will seem like they do and sometimes it will seem like you are just friends. But the truth is that if you ask yourself this question you will have already fallen into their nets.

8. The Charismatic One

He is the center of attention. Everyone wants to be near him because he is a source of laughter and fun. laughter and fun. No one is bored around him. He is easy to spot because at parties he always has a lot of people around him listening to him and laughing at his witticisms. He is secure and confident. He knows how to excite. When he speaks he doesn't inform, he inspires. He would make a great politician or a great humorist or a great storyteller. He masters the art of communication. He has all those attributes that others do not have.

9. The Star

Attractive and stylish. They have a life that others don't have. They are the archetype of celebrities. Their unique and uncommon life is a magnet for everyone. His life is eccentric and always surprises you. He enters places where they would never let you in if you didn't go with him. But not everything about him is luxury. He is also passion for his own life and his skills. Being by his side will make you escape from the mundane and vulgar. He will make you live endless experiences that only he can offer you. The Star archetype is synonymous with glamour.

These are the archetypes defined by Robert Greene in The Art of Seduction. You will have to discover which one resides in you. Explore yourself and analyze in which one you fit. We all fit into one of them. And if you don't, you probably fit this last archetype.

10. The Anti-seducer

Insecure, egocentric, not very empathetic: repellent. They do not know how to communicate. They are angry with the world. They have little or no mastery of social skills. They don't know when they have too many. They do not know when they are needed. They are inopportune. They speak when they shouldn't and are silent when they have to speak. They are overconfident or, conversely, not confident at all.

Fortunately, one can escape from this archetype. You just need to enhance your personal charisma and social skills. A good way to start is to work on self-esteem and overcome shyness. And another way is to take a look at my article on 'How not to flirt'.