What does a relationship with jealousy problems look like? 7 Symptoms

These are the warning signs of a relationship with jealousy problems.

Jealousy is a type of problem that many relationships suffer from in silence. And this is not only because for many people the things in the relationship that make them feel bad are a real taboo; in addition, jealousy is not talked about simply and plainly because it is assumed that however harmful it may be, it is a normal part of love..

Obviously, not knowing how to recognize a problem does not mean that it does not exist. In fact, this "blindness" often contributes to the situation becoming more and more serious, generating other unwanted consequences by domino effect and becoming part of everyday life. That is why when jealousy arises in a relationship, it is important to be aware of it as soon as possible, to determine whether its intensity makes it an obstacle to live that love bond in a healthy way.

Read on to learn the main symptoms that symptoms that indicate the presence of jealousy problems in a relationship..

This is what a couple's relationship with jealousy problems looks like: 7 warning signs

If you are in a couple relationship and there are some behaviors that make you uncomfortable and you suspect that they have to do with the desire to control and monitorThese guidelines will help you know if your courtship or marriage is being damaged by jealousy issues.

These are common symptoms that arise when one or both of the people involved tend to behave like jealous lovers. They don't have to happen all at once, but together they help to know what's going on.

1. Asking for each other's phone to check chats and pictures

Sometimes, this "scanning" of the contents of the smartphone is camouflaged under some excuseFor example, trying to find a specific photo or being curious about the things a certain person says on Whatsapp in order to make fun of him or her.

However, in practice it is easy to verify that jealousy is what motivates this behavior, because on the one hand it does not occur occasionally, but with some frequency, and on the other hand the way of searching for content reflects that the jealous person is not looking for a specific content, but "scans" with his eyes everything he can in search of something that catches his attention, something that reveals flirtation, sexual interest or infidelity.

2. Making bad faces when the other person goes out partying with friends.

One of the characteristics of jealousy is that it is triggered at times when there is a lack of information about what the other person is doing, the one you want to have under control. In such cases, it is easier to imagine the worst, and attention is attracted to painful images.and attention is drawn to painful images of infidelity or the breakup of the relationship, just as a hypochondriac cannot help but think that he or she probably has serious illnesses.

And when we add to this the fact that the person is in leisure contexts in which he or she is in leisure contexts in which flirting is commonplace, such as discos or concerts.such as discotheques or concerts, the discomfort of not being by his or her side is even more evident in those who have become accustomed to adopting a possessive attitude in relation to the other.

That is why, in jealous people, that the other partying without them is seen as a threat.

3. Asking about the potential attractiveness of classmates or co-workers

In relationships in which there are jealousy problems, the jealous person always tries to keep on the radar of possible competitors or competitors who can "take away" the one he or she loves. That is why, in a disguised way, is asking questions about the traits and characteristics of the people he or she considers most threatening in this sense: "What is your personality like? In this sense: "What is his face like? Is he tall? Maybe I've seen him before. "Does he have a partner?" "Do you talk a lot?"....

Of course, none of these questions alone indicate jealousy, but seen as a whole, they give a picture of what's going on.

4. Being angry with someone for no apparent reason.

Many times, those who feel jealousy cannot hide their dislike for someone who is seen as a source of danger, a temptation for the person who is jealous of them, a temptation for the person who is jealous.A temptation for that person who risks losing. Sometimes, he even tries to get his partner (by whom he fears being abandoned) to join in the taunts or acts of cruelty directed against this external threat.

5. Unilaterally setting schedules

Asking the other partner to be home before it gets too late, or insinuating that spending too much time away will cause discomfort in the jealous person, is a way of controlling that reveals an evident problem of jealousy, one of the most serious onesand should be treated in therapy or, directly, is a reason to end the relationship (depending on the degree of hostility and insistence with which you try to implement it).

6. Attempting to socially isolate

This is one of the most serious behaviors associated with jealousy problems, a harmful behavior that depending on how it occurs can be considered abuse. It is carried out by feeding the idea that outside the couple relationship there is nothing that really matters, and that therefore every time you decide to spend time with friends or family is a reason for disappointment and frustration.

In addition, an attempt is made to emphasize the differences between the inside and the outside of the couple, through beliefs such as "everyone is different" and "everyone is different".In addition, there is an attempt to emphasize the differences between the inside and the outside of the couple, through beliefs such as "they are all the same", "we need to protect each other so they don't hurt us", "they do nothing but judge us", etc.

The ultimate goal of this is usually to make it easier to manipulate the other person, making them easier to control.

7. Threats

Finally, this is a symptom in which jealousy is indissolubly fused with abuse. By threats, in this context we mean warnings that if something is done that transgresses the norms of fidelity and exclusivity of the couple, physical aggression or humiliation will occur as punishment, physical aggression or humiliation that will have an impact on the victim's social that will have an impact on the victim's social environment (e.g., circulating intimate photos on the Internet).

In these cases we no longer speak so much of a problem caused by a jealous person, but of a threat to the integrity of the victim that is sufficient reason to end the relationship and contact the authorities.

Bibliographical references:

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