7 tips to benefit more from therapy

Changing small details of our attitude or beliefs can help us get results sooner.

When one attends therapy, it is clear that it is because he/she is in a complicated situation that he/she does not know how to handle alone and asks for help to achieve it. Therefore, it is taken for granted that the person is usually receptive to that change and wants to go through that transition to greater well-being. But even so there are things that come up during therapy that can be better managed.. These details can speed up or slow down the therapeutic process.

Tips for when you go to therapy

Next I am going to present several ideas and tips that can help you in your therapy and in the relationship with your therapist..

1. Therapy is a team effort

You have the information and the therapist has the tools, don't expect the psychologist to do your part, and don't try to do his or hers.. Many times there are things that are not told in the therapy because the person directly writes them off as irrelevant or unimportant and sometimes they are key to get to the bottom of the problem. Therefore, try not to spare information to your psychologist, everything you tell him about yourself can be useful so that he can help you and get a better idea of how to manage your symptoms. The psychologist is not a fortune teller, you have the keys even if you don't know it.

Similarly do not pretend to have all the control over the therapy, the psychologist knows how to help you, and therefore let him or her guide you in certain things or do not pretend to solve everything by yourself, he or she knows that there are things that you can not do alone and will accompany you on the journey.

2. Therapy guides you, but no one can make your way for you.

It is related to the previous point, but it is important. The psychologist will not or should not make important decisions for you.The psychologist will not or should not make important decisions for you, nor tell you what to do, only guide you so that you can draw your own conclusions and answers to your questions.

3. Change can be scary, even if it is something desired.

As hard as it is to understand this because we are having a hard time at some point, if we have been in a problem for a long time, we have also made a habit and a mental structure around it. As much as someone hates being sad and depressed all day, that may be their comfort zone for years, so even if they're looking forward to it, breaking out of that all of a sudden is going to be dizzying. It is necessary to understand this kind of defense mechanisms, respect them and give them their time so that they can give in and the changes are made in a gradual and acceptable way.

4. Not everything is going to be an upward climb and improvement.

It is very exciting to see that I am making progress and every day is a little bit better. But unfortunately this is not usually the case. The most common thing is to go forward a little bit and backward a little bit. I take 3 steps and take 2 steps back, I take 5 steps forward and take 3 steps down. It is necessary to count on it so that when it happens we don't fall apart and we can move forward..

5. Only those who give up fail

Persistence and patience with ourselves is key to being able to continue in therapy. to be able to continue in a therapy, which are usually hard and to be able to overcome what has taken us to it.

6. Starting therapy does not mean that I am defective or have something wrong with me.

Just as a person cannot know everything and when he or she has a breakdown in the bathroom calls the plumber, there are certain things that simply because they are too close to us are not easy for us to deal with. Everyone has problemsAsking for help to be able to handle these kinds of things can save a lot of suffering and it is certainly a sign of great strength because I am willing to change, learn and improve by facing my own ghosts many times.

7. The things that have happened to me are important to me.

We know that there are people who have suffered a lot in life, and have had very difficult situations, and sometimes we do not feel we have the right to complain simply because we have not lived through those hard experiences. But the emotional wounds that each of us have have hurt each of us and have affected us in some way, and recognizing their importance can help us to open up in therapy and go deeper into what is happening to us in a non-judgmental way..

For example, sometimes in therapy people talk about how their parents have overprotected them, and that this has given them a great complex of uselessness or of feeling like children as adults, which makes it difficult for them to make decisions, or to feel confident to handle the problems of everyday life; but at the same time they say that they cannot complain, because their parents have not beaten them up, nor have they punished them harshly. It is true, but their wounds are others that are affecting them, and everyone can and should handle their own.

In conclusion

I hope that these small keys will help you in each one of the therapy processes that you may go to in the future. Perseverance is a virtue, and when something hurts, the only thing left to do is to fight until it stops hurting.