Co-parenting: a new way of having a child

Two people coming together with a single goal: to be parents.

In just a few years, the Internet has revolutionized the way we live. Today, not only do we buy everything unimaginable on the Internet, but it has also become a powerful tool for social networking. has also become a powerful tool for socialization..

While 10 years ago we might have looked askance at those who were intimate through those rudimentary chat rooms, labeling them as "weirdos", today, in the new generations, the rare person is the one who has not had a date through the many online dating sites that exist. Whether you are looking to meet someone for a "here I get you here I kill you" or to find the man or woman of your life, the Internet has a lot to offer you.

Innovative parenting: co-parenting

Moreover, if what you want is to find the future father or the future mother of your children without having to maintain an affective-sexual relationship between you, it is now also possible. So that you understand me, I'm talking about the co-parenting. Co-parenting means that two people come together with a single desire: to have a child in common..

I imagine that when you read this you may have certain doubts in your head, which is totally logical, since understanding this new concept forces us to broaden the paradigm of co-parenting. understanding this new conception forces us to broaden our relational paradigm.. Indeed, co-parenting separates the marital relationship from conception and upbringing, which is the antithesis of the parenting style that humanity has been practicing for millennia: children as the fruit of a marital relationship.

A real example to better understand co-parenting

I will present you with an example that I once attended to in consultation.

Eva is 39 years old and has been working as a team leader in a multinational technology company for 10 years. Since then her working hours have been extremely long and demanding, which has been a major impediment to finding the man of her life. Actually she did, but 5 years ago, just before getting married, he had second thoughts and left her.

Since then Eva, has lived focused on her work with the idea of being a single mother before the age of 40 if she didn't find someone else..... She even went as far as getting tested for artificial insemination with donor sperm, but before taking the plunge, she came across an article on co-parenting that mentioned a website dedicated to meeting this need. The idea of sharing the upbringing of her future child and having a father figure at the same time seemed very interesting to her. She also valued very positively the fact of being able to share the expenses that this would entail as well as the time dedicated without having to give up the rest of her life.

Shortly after creating a profile, Eva met Álvaro, a 35-year-old gay man who had been in a relationship with her boyfriend for more than five years. He had always wanted to have children pBut for various reasons he had ruled out both the adoption and surrogacy options.. As soon as they met, the first thing they did was to reveal their fears to each other: "This is very strange, isn't it", they said to each other laughing. Both had the intuition that before taking the step they had to know each other deeply.

What's more, they had to become friends, they had to become friendsTwo friends who would share for many years the upbringing, the expenses and the time involved in having a child they both wanted very much.

Being a child of a coparental relationship

On a psychological level, the newborn, the child or the adolescent who is the fruit of co-parenting need not have any special conflict as long as there is a good atmosphere between the parents and they assume their commitment.that is the only prerequisite. If the adults manage their day-to-day life well, then the child will grow up in the same way as any other child of a conventional and well-adjusted couple. It goes without saying that the dramas experienced by many children of separated parents in a conflictive way are much more harmful to these children.

In reality, co-parenting is nothing more than the result of the changes that society has undergone in the past few years. the result of the changes that society has been undergoing for some decades now.. Just as today's social freedom has made it possible to separate sex from marriage, it is not necessary to be a couple to share parenthood, only personal maturity and common sense.