Cuckolding: the fantasy of infidelity

The tendency to find excitement in the fact of witnessing infidelity. What are its causes?

The concept of infidelity is for most couples a cause for concern and fear, to the point that it can generate the appearance of jealousy (justified or not) and even serious conflicts as a couple. It is an act that, unless it has been agreed beforehand (for example, having an open relationship), is generally experienced as a betrayal of the relationship, being to find your partner in bed the nightmare of many.

However, some people may find it erotic when their partner has sex with other people, to the point that a trend has emerged: the so-called cuckolding or cuckqueaning..

Cuckolding: concept of this sexual modality

The concept of cuckolding, whose approximate translation would be something like "cheating" or "being unfaithful", nowadays also refers to a sexual tendency or practice based on obtaining sexual gratification by means of sexual gratification.also currently refers to a sexual tendency or practice based on obtaining sexual gratification through the observation or telling of one's partner having sex with a third person.

Technically, cuckolding would refer to the practice in which a man obtains sexual gratification from watching his partner having sex with another man, while cuckqueaning would be the case of women who are aroused by watching their partner with another woman. In general, however, cuckolding (i.e. the observer is male) is more common.

In couples in which this practice is carried out, the party who does not engage in sexual intercourse is the one who has sex with another woman. finds it gratifying and exciting when his partner has them with someone else and he can see it, or when his partner tells him about the encounter.or that his partner tells him about the encounter. This can later arouse passion between the two partners and serve as an enhancer for their sexual life together. It is also not impossible that masturbatory behaviors may occur while the observation/storytelling is taking place.

Many couples consider this practice to be satisfying, emotion-generating and an enhancer of their sexual life together. It is, however, necessary that it is something agreed upon and freely agreed to by both parties, without pressure of any kind and without forcing each other to do it to please the other party..

Although infrequent, cuckolding is a normative sexual activity and can be an experience for those who really want to practice it. However, when it is the only or practically the only cause of sexual arousal for the observer and generates discomfort or interference in their normal functioning, it may constitute a paraphilia, called troilism.

Booming practice, previously shunned

In recent times, cuckolding/cuckqueaning has been spreading among the population, becoming a trend and and making its way into the mainstream of sexual fantasies..

However, it is far from being a mainstream practice. It is not a practice for everyone: it assumes that the partner will be having sex with another person and this is unpleasant for many people.

In fact, until relatively recently it was a practice socially rejected by the majority of society. The fact is that cuckolding is a practice that has been poorly considered, as have many other sexual tendencies..

For example, it has a certain relationship with the idea of partner swapping, being a similar concept. In this case the couple agrees on the situation beforehand, being something accepted by both parties. It is also related to voyeurism and exhibitionism, because part of the erotic component is watching/receiving a description of what happened or being watched/telling about the relationship.

Possible causes of the onset of arousal

The fact that seeing another man or woman having sex with one's own partner is sexually arousing is something that may seem strange to many people, and whose meaning has been tried to be explained by various authors.

One of the existing theories proposes that part of the arousal may be due to the fact that when the sexual partner has sex with another, he or she is breaking with the social norm. of monogamy. Pleasure would be derived from defiance of the stipulation. Likewise, in the case of couples where the non-active partner is present and watching the situation, the subject can visualize the fantasy while having some control of the situation.

Another perspective is more Biological in nature, and the arousal may derive from a behavior observed in multiple animal species. a behavior observed in multiple animal speciesWhen in species of internal reproduction a male copulates with a female paired with another male and the latter observes the interaction, in many cases he himself proceeds to copulate with the female in order to interfere with the semen of the previous copulation. This is called sperm competition. Furthermore, research seems to show that human semen is of higher quality and is produced in greater quantity in situations of competition with other competitors. This last theory, although viable, does not explain the reason for cuckqueaning.