Differences between the libido of the two sexes

How do men and women experience their sexual desire or "libido"? We find out.

The differences between men and women are undeniable: they are obvious, and are even part of the anatomy itself. The same goes for the ways of experiencing sex: the ways of stimulation, the place sex occupies in the mind, the need to masturbate, sexual desires and fantasies...

The libido tends to be experienced differently depending on the sex of each person.

In spite of this, what is sought is harmony and complicity between the couple when it comes to sexual relations. But what a difficulty in the face of such differences. However, if we take a closer look at how the sexual response of both men and women changes over the course of their respective lives, our expectations will be more realistic in the future.our expectations will be more realistic at the time of the relationship.

Sexual response across the lifespan, by gender

Males

17 - 18 years old

At the age of 17 or 18 reach the peak of their sexuality. Sex invades their thoughts, reaching 4 to 8 orgasms per day of great intensity. The exclusive refractory period of men (time in which they cannot have an orgasm, after having ejaculated previously), is very short, from a few seconds to a minute. Thereafter, their sexual capacity decreases very slowly.

20 - 30 years

Between their late 20s and early 30s, their sexual thoughts and libido change, but they still respond easily to sexual stimuli. They need fewer orgasms, masturbate less, the rigidity of their erections begins to decrease and the refractory period lengthens..

40 - 49 years old

From the age of 40 onwards, important changes begin to be noticed. Erotic thoughts and fantasies continue to decrease, they need more stimulation to achieve erection (which will be slower) and the refractory period continues to increase.

50 years and older

At 50 the orgasmic need of men is much lower, with two climaxes a week they have enough, they will be less intense and with a weak ejaculation. During the 60s, insecurity, frustration and anxiety prevail, as it is difficult to accept that their sex life is changing. However, this can be seen as a positive thing, thinking that the urge to ejaculate has ended and having more time for imagination and having more time for imagination and tenderness..

Women

Adolescence

During adolescence show less interest in sexuality than men.. Gradually their sensitivity increases.

35 - 45 years

Between the ages of 35 and 40 reach the peak of their sexuality and increase the speed and intensity of arousal.. After the age of 45, women's sexual capacity begins to decrease gradually, but more slowly than men's. Another important difference compared to men is that age does not affect their orgasmic capacity. Another important difference compared to men is that age does not affect their orgasmic capacity.

After the age of 60

At the age of 60 and after menopause, sexual desire does not necessarily decrease, although orgasmic intensity decreases..

After the age of 65, women gradually become less preoccupied with sex, but they continue to use the self-satisfaction without having to depend on their partner's desire and ability.

What can be done to enjoy a healthy sexuality throughout life?

To try to reduce these discrepancies and prevent them from affecting the couple's sex life, it is advisable to "stay active".. Avoiding monotony in the relationship, the worries (work, economic, marital) that generate stress, keeping physically and mentally fit, eating a healthy diet, avoiding alcohol and other types of toxic substances.

This means, without going any further, "living together" at all levels and taking into account the different ways in which the couple experiences well-being.

To learn more about how to improve libido, I recommend you read the following post:

• "How can we improve our sexual desire?"

Bibliographical references:

• De Béjar, S. (2003). Ès el teu sexe!. Barcelona: Butxaca 62.