Emotional blocks: what are they and how can we overcome them?

Sometimes, we may feel that we lack the confidence to face certain challenges.

The emotional block is a psychological barrier that we impose on ourselves and that prevents us from being able to discern clearly in some aspects of life.

All of us, at some point in our lives, will notice this type of psychological blockage. When they occur, we feel a total loss of control over the situation and over ourselves. We become paralyzed, with no response to the context we are living in. Our emotions hijack us and do not let us move forward. In today's article we will try to discover the causes, the symptoms and the keys to understand this phenomenon..

Discovering and controlling emotional blocks

In addition, emotional blocks have the ability to make it difficult for us to move forward in achieving certain goals in our lives.. We may be able to develop our life normally, however, at some point in life we may suffer from a blockage. Some people, for example, are highly skilled in the workplace and yet, when it comes to establishing stable romantic relationships, they get stuck and fail to develop as they would like.

Others, for example, may be able to perform adequately in the sentimental sphere and the exact opposite happens in the work sphere: they are unable to find a job that satisfies them. Or apparently everything goes well in the office, but they do not show themselves as they really are because of insecurity. This causes them to show a mask to others in order to feel more secure, thus preventing them from being themselves, as if they were somehow emotionally constrained.

Some examples of emotional blockage

There are several signs and signals that can warn us that someone is suffering from an emotional block..

For example, not wanting to act for fear of failure, not participating in events, fear of being rejected or not being accepted, shyness or embarrassment, lack of motivation, pessimism and inability to envision solutions to an obstacle, envy, jealousy, superficial judgment of others without daring to go deeper and understand how they are.

Frequent causes

Fear and insecurity, as well as feeling inferior to others, are the most frequent causes of emotional blockage. Nowadays, the economic and social situation predisposes us to a greater extent to suffer this type of blockage..

This is because the collective perception of the negative reality that surrounds us influences us unconsciously as individuals who are part of a group, so that we could be talking about the existence of a negative social atmosphere, in which certain values such as competitiveness and pragmatism prevail. there is a negative social atmosphere in which certain values such as competitiveness and pragmatism prevail.. These values may collide with the need we all have to feel included, loved and supported in the social group. In other words, when we do not find a social group where we feel represented and identified, we tend to suffer identity crises that can lead to feelings of low self-confidence.

How can we remove the emotional blockage?

If our emotions are positive, joy, creativity, motivation and spontaneity emerge.. For example, let's say we have been unemployed for a long time, we are called for interviews and we always get the same negative response. This may cause us to believe that it is no longer worth the effort to even travel. Thus, without realizing it, we ourselves mentally predispose ourselves to emotional blocks that prevent us from finding a solution to such a situation. It is a vicious circle from which it is difficult to escape.

In the same way, in our day-to-day life we are overcome by thoughts of futility and unease, such as: "why am I going to go...?", "I know they are not going to hire me", "there are more qualified candidates", "they will notice that I am nervous", "with the time I have been unemployed and the age I am", "I am not suitable", "I will fail".

Combating negative thinking

This type of pessimistic thinking blocks us in such a way that later, at the time of the interview, what we transmit non-verbally is unconsciously perceived by the interviewer. And if what you convey is negativity... you are not going to be a very desirable candidate.

If you are not convincing with yourself, you hesitate constantly, you think you have no chance, etc., you are doomed to always remain in this situation of immobility. To remove the blockage, we must acquire a positive outlook on reality, so that if you find yourself in this situation of immobility, you will always remain in this situation.If you are emotionally well, there will be no blockages and you will be able to express yourself more fluently. Try to think of things that bring out positive emotions.

Even if you initially feel uneasy, try to think positive, for example: "I am a very valid person", "I believe in myself", "if I am not chosen, I will have learned from this experience for the next interview"... In this way you will be predisposing your brain to create new structures that naturally guide your thoughts, so that what we mentally believe is transmitted in the image we give of ourselves...so that what we mentally believe is transmitted in the image that we give of ourselves.

Dismantling Murphy's Law: bad luck doesn't exist

Murphy's Law" states the following: "If something can go wrong, it will go wrong", so that if the toast always falls on the side of the butter on the ground, it is because we certainly have bad luck. The same thing happens if we extrapolate it with the emotional blockage, for example when we think: "I never get caught, I'm sure the same thing will happen in this interview".

But nothing could be further from the truth.. Murphy's Law simply states: "if something can happen, it will happen". If we really feel empowered to make something happen, the odds of it happening will increase dramatically.

Reflecting on blockages

There is a theory in quantum physics, called "Schrödinger's cat". It suggests that, at the level of particle physics, a cat inside a box with a poison capsule that at any moment can break, will be alive and dead at the same time. This also applies to emotional blockage, if fear grips us, we will never be able to find out if we would have achieved what we had in mind.. So if we do not have the courage to open the box, we will remain blocked.

When we truly believe we are capable and sure of ourselves, we transmit an aura of confidence that others intuitively perceive even without being aware of it. Often something attracts us to another person and it is possible that it is that self-confidence, so you must watch your thoughts and not let negative thoughts prevent you from progressing.

Bibliographical references:

• Cortés de Aragón, L. (1999). Autoestima. Comprensión y Práctica. San Pablo.
• Mc Clelland, D and Atkinson J. (1985). Motivation and Emotion. Mc Graw Hill.