Emotional vampires: 7 personalities that steal your emotional well-being

Some people are capable of draining your reserves of optimism and good vibes.

In this life you will have encountered people who transmit good values and positive attitudes and who infect you with their positivity and and who infect you with their positivity and joy. Normally, we tend to want to be friends and be close to these types of people, for more than obvious reasons.

However, there are other types of individuals who tend to weaken our emotional state. The reasons why emotional emotional vampires make bad feelings flourish in other people are very varied: pessimism, egocentrism, narcissism, immaturity, lack of empathy...

Emotional vampires: people who create discomfort wherever they go.

Today we delve into the personality of these emotional vampires; individuals who, unconsciously or not, create discomfort wherever they go, have the ability to subtract the energy and good spirits of the people around them, creating a halo of negativity..

The main problem caused by emotional vampires is that not only are they capable of clouding the atmosphere for the duration of their presence, but as we relate to them on a daily basis, they end up generating high levels of stress and emotional fatigue.

We must bear in mind that the emotional state of the people around us ends up affecting us: emotions are contagious, for better or for worse. And when it so happens that we are maintaining negative emotions for a certain period of time, the psychological problems we are experiencing can become more serious. psychological problems (and even some disorders) can start to appear.

It is for this reason that, if we have no choice but to live with an emotional vampire, we must learn to detect its distinctive features and know how to deal with its bad vibes.

The 7 Typical Personalities of Emotional Vampires

Individuals who feed on the emotional energy of others are prone to emotionally manipulate their 'victims' in order to achieve their goals or purposes. They often approach the people around them to externalize their negativity and take advantage of their interlocutor's energy. take advantage of their interlocutor's energy..

In addition, once they have emptied their negative thoughts and emotions, they leave the scene and are ready to approach another person who can serve them to unload their discomfort.

A common characteristic: lack of empathy

Emotional vampires are characterized by very little empathy. They are clearly selfish as they use the presence of another person to empty all the accumulated negativity, without realizing that this will generate discomfort and discomfort to their interlocutor. They do not put themselves in the latter's place.

Although they have certain aspects in common, emotional vampires can take various forms. That's why we have that's why we've compiled a total of seven typical personalities in people who steal your optimism.

1. Critical personality

Not only does he make it his business to put up a fuss and be contrary to everything you do or say, but his ultimate purpose is to make you feel inferior to him. You are always wrong and he knows the truth about everything. Moreover, if you question his attitude, he will usually justify himself by telling you that he "only wants what is best for you".

If you stay close to this person for a few hours, you will realize that most of what he expresses is criticism, criticism and more criticism. criticism, criticism and more criticism. Nothing seems right to him, and I'm not just talking about banal things like the latest movie he's seen or the latest TV series, but he is relentless in his efforts to criticize your ideas, your tastes or your behavior.

This type of emotional vampire is so intrasigent Be careful not to get infected and start criticizing yourself too!

2. Pessimistic personality

The emotional vampire can also take the form of the inveterate pessimist. He always sees life with the glass half empty, he is gloomy, everything seems negative to him and you will have a hard time convincing him that he is being too pessimistic... because he always has a counter-argument ready that "proves" that existence is not worth it.

If you surround yourself with this type of person, it may happen that you end up convincing yourself that their view of things is true and you end up being a pessimistic person yourself, leading to a negative attitude, leading to a negative attitude, leading to a negative attitude, leading to a negative attitude, leading to a pessimistic attitude.This can lead you to a negative attitude, with no hope for improvement and no desire to improve reality or to undertake your projects.

We address the negative effects of having a pessimistic friend (among other types of toxic friends) in the following article:

"Toxic friendships: 7 signs to spot a bad friend."

3. Catastrophic personality

Emotional vampires can also be catastrophists. This personality takes pessimism to an extreme, for them, any fact or situation acquires an apocalyptic magnitude.

Their favorite topics of conversation are about catastrophes and hecatombs they have heard on the news or even disasters that have not happened but which, in their convinced opinion, could happen.

These types of vampires firmly believe that life is about facing a long list of dangers and impending misfortunes. If you are unlucky enough to coincide with someone like this, you will notice how soon you feel exhausted and, in the worst case scenario, you might start to incorporate some of their paranoia into your mental schemes..

4. Complainer and victim personality

This is the typical individual who never stops complaining about everything that happens to him/her.. Whether things are going badly or well for them, they will always have reasons to complain and play the victim in front of you.

In a victimized person it is very difficult to find emotional supportThey will always consider that their problems are much more important than yours. You will probably notice that the complainer unloads all his problems when you talk, but he is rarely open to listen to you and offer you his arm when you need him.

In a previous article we also discussed the victimizing personality profile. I invite you to read it:

• "The 6 most difficult personality profiles and how to deal with them".

5. Aggressive personality

These are people who react violently out of the blue. If you say or do something that does not seem right to them, you can trigger their fury, for example by a gesture that can be misinterpreted or by a comment that they take out of context.

Their reactions are disproportionate, so much so that you can have a serious problem if you don't have you can get into serious trouble if you are not careful about what you do.. Of course being surrounded by a person who forces you to measure to the millimeter everything you do or say is not positive at all for your mental and emotional health. And, needless to say, you are going to feel exhausted within ten minutes of starting a conversation with the aggressive emotional vampire.

6. Sarcastic personality

This is a particularly annoying vampire personality. The sarcastic sarcastic person loves to throw ironies at you, poisoned darts, while protecting himself behind the levity of a "simple joke". In this way, no one can reproach him for his rudeness, since "it was just a joke...".

Although their comments can sometimes be funny and witty, the truth is that they often go beyond the limits of respect and are cruel to others, the truth is that they often overstep the bounds of respect and are cruel to others.. If you expose yourself too much to a person who uses sarcastic and hurtful comments, you can end up with your self-esteem in tatters. Plus, it's exhausting: it's like being an isolated soldier in enemy territory: you can only pray that bombs don't fall on you.

7. Fainthearted personality

These are people with characteristics different from the six other personalities we have described. It is the emotional vampire that best knows how to go unnoticedtheir behavior is not histrionic or aggressive, but rather they appear as helpless They are shown as helpless beings and without the capacity to develop by their own means..

They usually cause pity to those around them and get others to focus their attention on them. This leads to a vicious circleThe fainthearted person: they play the faint-hearted in order to attract attention, they achieve their purpose since people pay attention to them and in this way they feel reinforced in their attitude.

The pushover is an emotional vampire since he demands your attention and care out of viciousness. He ends up stealing your valuable time, your space, and it is not uncommon for him to be nowhere to be found when you are the one who needs him.

How do emotional vampires behave?

Emotional vampires nourish themselves with two elements to be able to start stealing emotional energy from those around them: time and proximity. It is necessary that they manage to establish certain emotional and friendship bonds with the other person. From there, they usually take advantage of their weaknesses and take advantage of them.

For this reason it is difficult to have a good emotional state if the emotional vampire is a person who is part of our closest circle: family, friends or your romantic partner. The closer the relationship is, the harder it will be to avoid its harmful effects.

The emotional vampire knows how to escape

It is common for the emotional vampire to try to humiliate or belittle other people, but they often hide themselves behind justifications and pretexts to show their point of view and appear to people as good people.

Nuance: some vampires may not be aware that they are stealing your emotional energy.

However, it should be made clear that there may be cases in which the emotional vampire's personality is not lived consciously. Some emotional vampires are not capable of realizing that they are behaving in this way, and are not aware of the negative effects their actions have on the people around them..

The causes of vampiric behavior

Sometimes, they do not realize that their behavior may be caused by situations or traumatic episodes that they lived years ago (or perhaps also for having mimicked dysfunctional behaviors and attitudes that they saw in their parents), and the product of this is that their way of relating to other people is influenced by these defense mechanisms that they have been acquiring and consolidating as that they have been acquiring and consolidating as part of their personality..

It is up to you to assess whether the emotional vampire deserves a second chance.

Of course, the fact that some emotional vampires are not fully aware that they are squandering your emotional wellbeing is not an excuse for not raising the issue with them. is no excuse for you not to seriously consider how to resolve, in one way or another, the discomfort they create in you. they create in you.

It is a matter of detecting the problem in time and take appropriate and fair measuresIn some cases, a frank, face-to-face talk can be effective in bringing the situation back on track. In other cases, perhaps the best solution for both of you is to put some distance between the two of you.