Fear of shining and standing out in front of others

Why are we sometimes afraid to stand out positively in something in front of others? What to do about it?

Have you ever felt afraid to show your virtues and stand out?

Maybe the answer to this question is yes. If so, stay here to find out why and what you can do in your day to day life to solve this problem.

Fear of standing out: a psychological problem that self-sabotages us.

Sadly, we live in a society that, in general, educates us to be competitive with each other and to follow certain patterns and to follow certain patterns in which we must fit in order to be accepted, even if these are not in line with the unique and individual part of our being.

From this education of the competitive world, people begin to live unconsciously from the fear of not fitting in, of not being good enough and of not belonging to the normative..

Two things stem from this unconscious fear. Firstly, that as a society we tend to sanction and condemn the talents of others, and secondly that as individuals we tend to hide our virtues and achievements.

Have you ever wondered why you are so afraid to stand out, or why people find it difficult to demonstrate their virtues in front of a group? The reason is this. Society condemns what is different and generates an unconscious fear in the person to stand out and step out of the norm, creating a lack of freedom of expression of the capabilities and virtues of the individual, thus generating a greater tendency to conformity and for the individual to stay within the group average.

The phenomenon of group conformity

In 1951 Solomon Asch demonstrated this phenomenon of conformity to the group in known as "Solomon's syndrome". or, in other words, the fear of standing out and/or stepping out of the norm. This fact involves recognizing that we are less free than we think, since we are more conditioned by the environment than we initially believe, as Asch demonstrated.

When our fear of standing out from the crowd and being rejected by the group is present, we may even make decisions in our lives that hinder our personal progress in order to follow what the majority of the group understands as normal and socially accepted. and socially accepted. However, this type of behavior to avoid standing out and to avoid being out of the average leads us to have problems in the long run, such as low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and feelings of inferiority.

In addition, when we are guided by this need to stay within the natural environment, a feeling of emptiness begins to appear, since there is a need for self-realization that is not being resolved. there is a need for self-realization that is not being resolved due to the fear of being fear of being punished or judged by the environment.

Tips to avoid giving in to the fear of standing out

What can we do? Let's look at 8 small tips to start breaking with the fear of standing out and shining.

• Recognize our virtues, be grateful for them and appreciate them.
• Break the belief that standing out in something or being good at something is negative for you or others.
• Transmit your strengths and successes to others, with assertiveness and humility.
• Be aware that we are acting from the fear of being rejected by the environment. Re-evaluate the situation and face to expose our virtues to the rest (believe me, showing your capabilities is not as horrible as you think).
• Realize that virtues are different in everyone, that there is diversity and that we can all learn and teach.
• To be grateful and appreciate when someone values us.
• To thank and appreciate the virtues of others.
• Transform envy into admiration.
• Ask for therapeutic help if this is generating a conflict that prevents us from moving forward in our lives.

I hope this article helps you to better understand where this fear of expressing your talents and standing out comes from and that it helps you to work on it.