Flirting, girls, self-concept and sex: 8 tricks to seduce them

Picking up girls can be tricky if you don't know a few tricks to seduce them.

We guys are a bit rough when it comes to flirting. We are in a hurry to get to the finish line and we forget that they think and feel differently from us. Their self-concept and ours are different; we have to take this into account to be able to communicate assertively and move forward in our relationship.

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We must learn to read the context and non-verbal language to try to detect which points we need to work on in our communication.

Fortunately, our culture is changing and, although gender roles are becoming more and more homogeneous, thanks to the sexual liberation of women. It is true that women still receive many social burdens that make them watch over their self-concept. self-concept. For example, many people still think that a girl who goes to bed with many guys is a slut and a man who has many girls is a winner.

Little by little these fallacies will be destroyed but, for the moment we have to understand that girls live a certain pressure when thinking about how they are perceived by their environment.

How do we boys think?

As we have already noted, boys are impatient and, when we want sex, we get blinded and only see the girl and our goal. Our interests make us focus on moving forward without taking into account her surroundings and thoughts; we often act in an unselective way. unselective when we crave sex.

How do they think?

Girls take more factors into account when thinking. They think in the social contextthe person in front of them and how they are going to feel after they have sex with us. For social and Biological reasons, which we will discuss another day, the sexfor them, is closely related to their self-concept. self-concept.

What is self-concept?

Self-concept is the way a person perceives and feels about herself; it is closely linked to self-esteem, which is the way a person values herself.

By knowing what self-concept is and how the social environment influences a girl's self-concept, we can optimize communication to make her feel comfortable.

We need to learn to read the social contextWe need to learn to read the social context, the person in front of them and ensure comfort and convenience in the interaction.

What do girls want to avoid?

The first point to keep in mind is that, although it is obvious, girls are not an object, girls are not an object or a trophy or anything like it. It would be good for men to overcome certain macho beliefs that we have learned in our social development and begin to value and qualify them for something more than their body or physical attractiveness.

In the 21st century, girls decide who they sleep with and we don't have to think about strategies or ruses that will make us be discovered as liars in the long run. Let's learn to value people for what makes them for what makes them unique and different from others and learn to communicate what makes others special.

What are girls looking for?

As a general rule, girls want to feel special (just like us) and know that the guy in front of them will know how to act accordingly and not make them feel bad about themselves or their social environment. They want to feel that the person they are likely to sleep with is also a special person, of high value, and that they deserve someone who deserves them. Every girl is different and in recent times more women are moving away from these cultural patterns that are, in a way, patriarchal. But the Judeo-Christian culture and morals are strongly ingrained, and that leads to certain patterns of sexual behavior being socially demanded of girls.

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Here are eight key points eight key points to be able to communicate in a way that benefits the interaction and creates strong bonds of real trust. It should be noted that it is not about deception. It is about working on oneself to be able to offer the best of oneself, without falling into manipulation.

It is not enough to appear, you have to be. Becoming an assertive person and high value will not only help you pick up girls; all aspects of your life will be positively affected if you follow these eight tips.

Needless to say, everyone is different and I do not intend these eight points to be dogmas or unbreakable rules. They are only tools to create the synergy of positivityfriendship and attraction that can bring you unforgettable and genuine moments.

1. Cultivate yourself

It is essential to start with yourself. Cultivating our hobbies, friendships and professional career will be the way to develop an attractive life. attractive and and fulfilling life. Becoming cultured, mature and lively people will make us be perceived as having a high social and individual value. Let's think about what we like to do and what goals we have in life to walk towards them.

2. Comfort and comfort

Learning to communicate to make others feel good will make people feel good around us. The trust is one of the most difficult things to build in a relationship. It is important that we learn to develop social skills that help others feel comfortable around us; warm touching, learning to listen and saying things nicely... will be a good way to start.

3. Be discreet

A lot of guys tend to be show-offsWe like to brag about our conquests and brag about the girls we've slept with. This makes girls perceive us as indiscreet and, consequently, they are afraid to sleep with us. We must learn to be quiet and know when and to whom to tell our intimacies. Having a trusted friend to whom we can tell these things will ensure that our love conquests do not become a vox populi. vox populi.

4. Read the context

In case it has not been clear, we repeat it again: no self-respecting person wants to be judged socially as a person who is not a "good" or "bad" person. not very selective or easy. This means that, depending on the context, we must learn to communicate in one way or another. It is not the same to talk in private as it is to talk surrounded by friends and acquaintances at a dinner party. Knowing where and with whom we are will give us information on how to behave and what we can say or do and what not. So that no one will feel their self-concept attacked and avoid social judgment.

5. Insinuate yourself appropriately

This point is closely linked to the previous one. The context will give us signals of how and when we have to suggest that we like them or want to sleep with them or kiss them. Saying things in a subtle way so that our message goes unnoticed by others, will be of great help so that she does not feel pressured and feels comfortable.

6. Read between the lines

That we have to learn to communicate discreetly is because they, in part, do too. Understand why they say what they say and detecting the reason why they say what they say is essential for us to know how to communicate with them and master flirting techniques. Girls rarely communicate directly; we need to learn how to translate their indirect messages and thus avoid looking like a "dullard".

7. Alone, much better

Reading the context and communicating appropriately and subtly are tools to communicate more intimately and subtly. communicate in a more intimate and direct way.. Away from social pressure, we will feel more comfortable and will be able to express ourselves and others more freely.

8. Have a why

Sex does not have to be a reason in itself. Our sexual interest has to be based on more refined attributes than a beautiful body or because we simply feel like it. We can't force anyone to want sex with us. to want sex with us. But we can improve our message so that we are not perceived as someone who just wants sex. After all, if a girl doesn't want to sleep with us, she won't no matter how many strategies we employ. But if we learn to say things and have reasons, we will at least distance ourselves from people who only see them as a sexual object. sexual object.

To sum up

Little by little, society is overcoming and getting rid of the male chauvinist ballast, but in the meantime, it is important to know that we are not alone, knowing the other person's self-concept of the other personlearning to observe her and to value her for her values, will facilitate our communication. Developing the noble art of discretion and learning how and when to communicate why we like the person we are attracted to, will be very useful to ensure their comfort and they will be able to choose more freely, away from the judgment of others.