How does coaching work on self-esteem?

This facet of our well-being is often forgotten, but what can be done to improve it?

Normally, when it comes to defining self-esteem, it is said that it is the feeling that comes from accepting oneself, associated with the set of beliefs in what we are capable of doing. In other words, it is our way of valuing ourselves based on the experience we have gained by facing challenges and analyzing the results of these missions and projects.

That is why, self-esteem is fundamental in driving our personal development and creating the conditions that make it possible for us to and creating the conditions that make it possible for us to reach the goals we set ourselves.

To nurture our self-esteem is to enhance the belief that as human beings we are autonomous and can live with dignity and the possibility of being happy, which leads us to be more self-confident and to enjoy a stronger confidence in our abilities. We thus expand the radius of our strategies and actions aimed at being happy.

Therefore, it is not uncommon that one of our goals is to be happy, it is not uncommon that one of the goals of coaching is focused on self-esteem.. Let's see how it is done and how it is possible to detect problems in this facet of the psyche.

Bringing the self-esteem from the coaching

To know how to intervene on self-esteem through coaching, it is first necessary to understand how low or high self-esteem is expressed. All this should be seen by analyzing the behavior of people in various aspects of life..

Signs of high self-esteem

But... what can we do to know where our self-esteem stands? Let's look at some of the characteristics that define those who have an adequate level of self-esteem.

1. Set professional goals and achieve them

There are always bad times and bad luck, but in general, people with good self-esteem are more capable of setting goals and acting accordingly to achieve them, because they they don't throw away their potential.

2. Self-confidence is expressed

Those who enjoy a good self-esteem show themselves in a way according to their real capacities, without the need to appear what they are not because does not have strong insecurities to compensate..

3. Develops balanced emotional bonds

When we have a realistic self-concept that makes us feel good about ourselves, interpersonal conflicts are less frequent. Therefore, it is possible to maintain better quality friendships and love relationships.

4. Accept your emotions

Since there is nothing to hide and nothing to be ashamed of, it doesn't make much sense to feel too bad about feeling something that doesn't fit with certain values or principles.. In any case, you analyze what may be the causes of this state of consciousness.

Indicators of low self-esteem.

If instead of focusing on what indicates the presence of good self-esteem, we look at the signs that we need to improve this part of our way of being, we will find the following indicators of low self-esteem.

1. Pessimistic bias

Those with poor self-esteem predict failures and discouraging results for any project or plan they undertake, given that they they do not have much confidence in their chances of success..

2. They project their feelings of guilt

It is very common in this psychological state to tend to unload frustration on others, blaming others for one's own mistakes, since this dynamic is learned as a systematic way of not constantly directing attention to oneself. not to be constantly directing attention to oneself when something goes wrong. when something goes wrong.

3. They always try to compete

Paradoxical as it may seem, people with low self-esteem try to compensate for their feeling of discomfort by turning various areas of their life into a competition. by turning various areas of their life into a competition, in order to have the opportunity to, at the same time, compete.They try to compete in order to have the opportunity to, from time to time, feel like winners in something.

4. They hide many of their feelings

Another characteristic of those who go through this phase of their life is that they tend to hide much of what they feel, because they fear the rejection that this could generate in others.

5. Egocentrism

Another ironic aspect of low self-esteem is that it is often expressed through a tendency to self-centeredness. This is a way of a way to hide their insecurities through a façade of pride and through a facade of arrogance and apparent legitimacy to make important decisions, so that all their value in the eyes of others rests only on the image they offer (or try to offer).

How does coaching work on this?

With what we have seen so far, we already know the two poles that make up the level of self-esteem of people. But... what does coaching do to help people improve in this aspect?

1. Accept reality

This task is fundamental to start from a realistic analysis of who you are and what you can become, without denying reality.without denying reality.

2. Assume responsibility

This step is fundamental. Without accepting to take responsibility, one cannot become autonomous and is always dependent on others.

3. Validate one's feelings

Being aware that one's feelings are real and valid helps to trust one's own judgment.

4. Finding purpose

Knowing how to locate goals to aspire to brings an important impulse to our lives, and activates us.

5. Practicing personal integrity

This allows us to generate a coherent self-concept that encourages us to trust ourselves and approve of who we are and what we do. approve of who we are and what we do..

6. Promote self-acceptance

This is based on valuing ourselves without judging who we are from an unattainable moral position and learning to forgive ourselves for our mistakes without being burdened by discomfort.

How to start?

When it comes to learning the theoretical and practical foundations for improving self-esteem through coaching, there are several courses and workshops that allow you to do this with expert supervision.

The Executive Coaching Certification Program of the Escuela Europea de Coaching is a very good example of this, given that both its blended and face-to-face versions touch on the most complicated aspects of the process as applied to personal life and to the field of leadership and coaching. applied to personal life and to the field of leadership and business.The program also covers many other subjects such as the regulation of emotions or social and communication skills.

In addition, at the end of this program you will obtain the title of Executive Coach by EEC with the ACTP accreditation of the International Coach Federation.. To learn more about this learning and professional development option, click here.