Overcoming the fear of rebuilding your life without your ex-partner

One of the most painful aspects of breaking up and falling out of love is going back to everyday life without that person.

How long has it been since you experienced your breakup? Has it been weeks, months, maybe years? And in all this time, even though what you want most is to overcome that separation, you still feel pain, you still remember the good times and you still can not imagine being happy again without your ex?

If so, you should know that part of what you are feeling is a common reaction and is part of the process of getting over a separation. Yes, having all those negative emotions and thoughts is common, however, you can't allow yourself to stagnate and deny yourself the opportunity to build a new life without your ex. the opportunity to build a new life without your ex..

Overcoming the fear of rebuilding your life without your ex-partner

The experience of a breakup is the end of one stage of your life, but it is also, whether you like it or not, the beginning of a new one.

After all, life goes on, your obligations are still present and you certainly have decades to live. Therefore, stagnating cannot be an option.. You have the power to rebuild your life after a separation and with this article I want to motivate you to do it.

Today I want to talk exclusively about one of the biggest barriers that hinder the process of getting over a breakupThe fear of rebuilding your life without your ex. Let's understand the problem from the beginning.

You started a love relationship and together with that person you lived several experiences that brought you together as a couple. You walked hand in hand, you saw, you laughed, you lived in intimacy with each other, etc. You both integrated into each other's social groups, interacting with each other's friends and family, and even made future plans. So, little by little, during all the time you stayed in that romantic relationship, you built a lifestyle together with your ex.

But now, the love relationship is over and you have to face the lifestyle you built with your ex; the difference is that now you have to live it without his or her help. Now you must attend meetings alone and the first few times you will have to make it clear that your ex will not be present again. You will want to keep your distance from certain friends who have a relationship with your ex and of course, there will be certain daily activities that will remind you of your ex, there will be certain daily activities that will remind you of the absence of your loved one..

In other words, your life is framed by a lifestyle tied to your ex and, the longer you keep it that way, the more difficult it will be for you to overcome the separation.

What prevents you from rebuilding your life without your ex?

You are reading this article because you have the desire to overcome the love breakup you lived, but you do not know how to do it or you feel that you will not be able to achieve it. But think well, what is it that prevents you from rebuilding your life without the shadow of your ex. Is it perhaps the Pain you feel when you think that all your dreams are gone? Is it perhaps because everything around you reminds you of your ex? Or maybe you feel that you depend on the presence of your ex to get ahead?

Any of these reasons will generate an immense fear of facing the world without your ex-partner.. However, most of these fears are generated by your own mental barriers and can be successfully dealt with.

To achieve this, you must start by being willing to do it and then change your mental focus to affirm that you can rebuild your life without your ex. Think, for example, of your dreams, perhaps you dreamed of taking a trip? If so, you must realize that you can still do it, regardless of your ex's absence. Plan the fulfillment of this dream considering that it will not be as you planned it with your ex, it will simply be different.

Look around you and identify everything that reminds you of your ex and eliminate everything that is not indispensable. eliminate everything that is not indispensable. You don't need to keep the photographs and mementos. Nor do you need to keep the same decoration and layout of your home. So don't be afraid and get rid of everything that tormentingly reminds you of the absence of your ex.

Maybe your problem is that you feel that you are entirely dependent on your ex, because if so, you must be sure that you are able to live without your ex. You may not know how many things work, but nowadays you live surrounded by information and you can always learn how to do it yourself. And even if you feel you need help, you need to look beyond your dependence on your ex, and ask for support from your family and friends.

You have the power to overcome the breakup you experienced and to rebuild your life. Believing in yourself is the first step to achieve it..

Getting out of your comfort zone is part of the way to overcome the breakup.

Yes, going through a breakup is an extremely painful situation and implies a great restructuring in your life. That's why you must get out of your comfort zone without letting discomfort stop you.

There will be moments of pain and you will experience various reactions to the sadness caused by the absence of your ex. All of this is common and normal. Your emotions have a special value in this process and you should give yourself a moment to experience the grief and sadness of your separation and with it, mark the end of one stage and the beginning of the next.

Yes, there is a next stage after what you lived with your ex and it is in this process that you must embark.

Now that the relationship is over, it is time to decide to build a new life without the shadow of your ex. It is time to build a new lifestyle that favors the process of overcoming the breakup you experienced. How to do it? Here are 2 ideas to achieve it.

1. Find out

Write a list of at least 5 activities that you would like to do in the next 3 months. Better yet, if these activities are new to you, they will encourage your brain to concentrate more on using your abilities and this, in turn, will boost your self-esteem.

Surround yourself with people and try to discover something new about each of them, take an interest in their lives and ask questions. Consider that at this moment your ex is very much in your thoughts and that, therefore, it is better if the conversation is focused and led by other people.

Find out what characteristics you admire in other people and seek to obtain them yourself. To do this, include reminders in your diary about the attitude you want to have and the description of yourself you want to have. and about the description of yourself that you want to define you from now on.

2. Take action, one step at a time

Understand that overcoming the breakup you experienced is a process, it is not something that will happen overnight. It will begin with the decision to effectively overcome it, continue with every activity you do to achieve it, and culminate with the day you accept the learnings of the past and feel satisfied with the life you lead. And since it is a process, you must start with one step at a time.

Each day is a new opportunity to let go of the past and focus on your present. Every day you have the option to choose new activities to get involved innew topics to talk about and new people to meet. And it all happens gradually with each decision you make. So ask yourself: what is stopping you from focusing on rebuilding your life?

Life goes on

Whether or not you get over the fear of building a life without your ex, life goes on quickly.

You've probably noticed by now that even on those days when you felt like you couldn't get out of bed, the obligations were still there. Even though you had no head to think about anything, the routine continued as usual, the responsibilities remained and time passed.

But be careful, there is a big difference between time passing and you are still stuck in the love breakup you experienced, or time passing and every day you do something more to get over your ex and regain your inner peace. Life goes on and you have the power to decide how much of your present life you are going to dedicate to a past relationship..

Now, I understand if you are not used to going out and introducing yourself to the world. I understand if you are scared because you got used to doing everything with the help of your ex. I can imagine that you have defeatist thoughts before you try and that you fall into the temptation to boycott your goal of getting over him. But you are the sole builder of all those mental barriers and therefore you are the one mental barriers and, therefore, you are also the only one who has the power to break them down. The decision is in your hands.

Do you want to overcome the love breakup you experienced? Then, decide to do it and concentrate your activities, thoughts and attitudes on the fact that it is possible.

Good luck and see you soon.