Placereado: a good technique to connect with your partner

Sex therapy has very interesting practical applications, such as this one.

In a previous article, we talked about the importance of expanding our sexual repertoire, leaving aside the coitocentrism (focusing the sexual relationship almost exclusively on penetration) prevailing in our culture.

Today we propose you a technique that is used in sexual therapy in order to reduce tension in the couple when problems appear. This strategy is a variant of the one developed by Masters and Johnson in the sixties and seventies, which they called "Sensory Focusing".

However, it is not necessary to have a sexual problem in the couple's environment to enjoy a session of mutual caresses, so the Placereado becomes a fun and pleasant exercise that helps to connect with the couple.

In the same way that Masters and Johnson established several levels within this technique, we are also going to diversify it into three steps, Placereado 1, 2 and 3, we are also going to diversify it into three steps, Placereado 1, 2 and 3. Today we present you the first one..

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How to do Placereado 1 as a couple?

1. It is preferable to plan the day in which we will do the exercise.Although it can also work in these cases improvise it. Although there is no minimum number of times to do it, the more we do it, the more we will observe its benefits.

2. We will look for a suitable place that meets certain preferences such as: intimacy, adequate temperature, comfort (the bed is ideal for the exercise), or environmental preferences (relaxing music, soft light, candles, etc.). It is important to turn off the phone or put it on silent mode to avoid interruptions.

3. It is also essential to have a good attitude, to be motivated.We start exercising, not being too tired or in the middle of digestion.

4. We start the exercise. One of the partners lies naked face down and eyes closed. The other, also naked, in a comfortable position, begins to caress his partner gently from head to toe without forgetting any part of the body. The idea is not to massage but to transmit our emotion through our hands, so the stimulation should be relaxed and pleasant.

5. When the one who is caressing reaches the feetThe body stimulation should last at least fifteen minutes in total (about seven minutes for each face of the body).

6. After this, the eyes are opened, the person who was lying down gets up. and spend a few minutes commenting on how they have felt, the quality of the caresses, the affection, etc. Afterwards, the roles are changed, the one who has received the caresses now performs them and vice versa and the exercise is repeated as described in the previous points.

7. At the end of the exercise, the couple decides what to do next, whether to initiate a sexual relationship or not, since there is no premise for this.The objective of this strategy is not to make the partner feel aroused or to have sex at the end of the exercise. The objective of this strategy is therefore not to "force" anything other than giving and receiving pleasurable caresses. We can use this experience to learn to ask, to know how to say yes or no, according to the desires of each one and to accept the refusals without getting angry or living them as rejection.

What can we achieve by doing a Placereado 1?

• This technique helps us to degenitalize our sexual relations.In other words, to use other parts of our body with a pleasurable purpose, something that will undoubtedly expand our erotic sensitivity throughout the skin. Let's not forget that the current culture inculcates us to focus the sexual relationship almost exclusively on genital stimulation and this exercise makes it easier to add elements making sex more fun.

• With this exercise we manage to give and receive pleasure without guilt and without the need of counterparts, since the stimulation will be reciprocal. since the stimulation will be reciprocal. In this way, we combat the macho role of the active role that the man should play in terms of taking the initiative and responsibility for the relationship and the supposed passive role of the woman. Enjoying both roles, passive and active, enriches the relationship.

• It also helps us to keep our minds in "erotic mode".. If we manage during the exercise to keep our attention on the caresses and the sensations that this produces, we will be able to train our mind to be in the present and evade unproductive thoughts, rules or beliefs that do not facilitate relaxation, something very common when sexual dysfunctions appear. (A selection of erotic phrases, here).
• It is a technique of choice for certain sexual problems, as it allows to work basic objectives such as the deconditioning of anxiety associated with sexual intercourse characteristic in these problems.

In short, a different exercise that allows us to relax and connect with our partner. In future articles we will discuss the variants offered by Placereado 2 and 3 and their practical applications.

Bibliographical references:

• Masters, W, H. and Johnson, V.E. (1996). Human sexual response. Buenos Aires. Inter-medica.