"Sindepi": an ingenious feminine method to attract real men.

A new trend that is causing equal parts furor and rejection in social networks.

Relationships are complex, and having a serious relationship with someone does not only depend on physical attraction, but it is a constant negotiation, in which communication skills play a determining role in maintaining stability and preventing that motivation or feeling called love from losing strength over time.

Nowadays, moreover, interpersonal relationships can become superficial and self-interested, largely because of theIn addition, nowadays, interpersonal relationships can become superficial and self-interested, largely due to the values and culture that goes hand in hand with the capitalist system that reigns in many countries. Relationships have become commodified, and the aesthetic component and other interests are often the reason why a couple gets together.

Bauman already said that in our society "liquid love" predominates, a term he coined in reference to the fragility of affective bonds.

• You can learn more about this author's ideas in our article: "The 70 best quotes by Zygmunt Bauman".

Love or interest?

This does not mean that there are not people who give themselves body and soul to their partner and that their value system makes them faithful, respectful, disinterested, etc. However, there are also cases in which the bond that unites the members of a love relationship is not deep but superficial.

And despite disputes, occasional conflicts and even major crises, which are normal in any interpersonal relationship, because each person has their beliefs, opinions and needs, there are also couples who are together but do not respect each other, do not support each other in important decisions, they are only looking for intimate relationships, there is no genuine interest in each other... and, in short, they do not have a common project or even will have one.

"Sindepi": a way to find out if your partner loves you

The culture of image and aesthetics is very present in our days, and this also has a great influence on our interpersonal relationships. As some internet portals explain, the term "sindepi" refers to "unshaven", specifically the genital area.specifically the genital area.

Nowadays, there is a fashion for "hairs out", something that especially concerns women (but also many men). In the case of some women, this even affects their sexual self-esteem. In fact, as a man, I can say that some women have preferred not to be more intimate with me because they are not shaved. And it's not that I imagined it, she literally told me so.

Especially in the case of young people, how important is physical appearance in a relationship? Are we really going to leave someone because they don't shave? If the love is liquid and if the other person doesn't matter to us at all maybe yes, but if the love is deep, that's the least of it.

A question of self-esteem

Now, considering the above example, this fact worries the person who goes unshaven more than the other individual, and this makes one reflect on how image culture affects our lives, and how it makes us feel bad when there is no reason to get that way.

These kinds of first-world problems create discomfort and prevent us from relating to others in a healthy way. In reality, this way of thinking is dysfunctional, and can be the beginning of many other psychological problems related to image culture.

When we do not accept our body as it is, then we expose ourselves to suffer problems such as low self-esteem or body dysmorphic disorder, which you can learn about in depth in our article: "Body Dysmorphic Disorder: causes, symptoms and treatment".

Criticism of "sindepi": the importance of body acceptance

Concern about physical appearance is common nowadays taking into account the influence of the image culture in which we live immersed. But when this concern becomes too important a part of our lives, it can lead to self-destructive behaviors, shame, anxiety and avoidance of the situations that generate this anxiety and discomfort.

Acceptance, not only of our body but also of our life in general, is key to enjoy a greater mental well-being and the emotional balance necessary to be a better person. and the emotional balance necessary to be happy.

Accepting ourselves, treating ourselves with affection and recognizing that we are valuable and worthy of being loved and respected despite not being perfect may seem easy in theory; however, in practice it is not so. Therefore, in our article "Self-acceptance: 5 psychological tips to achieve it" we give you some recommendations so that you can achieve it.

How to know if your partner loves you?

Leaving aside the previous concept, there are a series of signs that can indicate whether our partner loves us or is with us out of interest. But what are these signs?

Your partner loves you if...

• He/she is congruent with the love he/she says he/she feels and shows it to you.
• Intimate relationships are not the only reason he/she is with you.
• Does not hurt your dignity.
• He takes your opinion into account.
• You are his priority and you have a joint vision of the path you want to follow as a couple.
• He is happy for your achievements and success.
• He does things for you even if he doesn't like them (as long as you do them for him too).
• He trusts you and respects you.

You can go deeper into these points in our article: "How to know if my partner loves me? 10 keys to find out".