The 6 emoticons we least like to feel

What are the emotions that make us feel the worst?

In this article I'd like to talk about emotions, and more in detail, about the six emotions we least like to feel: shame, sadness, fear, anger, jealousy y guilt.

The importance of knowing the emotions one feels

When I am in front of a patient, I try to convey to him the importance of knowing himself not only through what he thinks, and how he acts towards himself and others, but also through what he feels, and how he acts towards himself and others. but also through what he feels.. The emotional area, sometimes, is a forgotten area in many self-help books, and yet it is essential for changes to take place.

Knowing our emotions, means that we know how to detect when we feel them, that we can name them ("This I feel is sadness" ("This I feel is sadness"), that we notice them bodily.), that we notice them bodily ("I feel it in my chest area" ("I feel it in my chest area").), and that we can regulate how we want them to come out (crying, talking, writing about it...).

The six emotions that make us feel the worst

Almost all patients agree that the emotions they like to feel the least are the following:

Embarrassment

This emotion is accompanied by an internal self-criticism: "What nonsense I say", "they are going to think I am...", "they are going to laugh at me"... Shame usually occurs in people with greater insecurity, less self-confidence and low self-esteem. It is an emotion that causes a blockage in relationships with others, and therefore, essential to work on in therapy.

I recommend this post for you to get to know the critic in you: "Why do I hate myself? Causes and solutions"

Sadness

Although we do not like to feel it, sadness is perhaps one of the easiest to detect. It can create doubts as to whether we are feeling it too intensely or not, and it can be believed that we are falling into a depression, when what is happening is that we are going through a normal period of it. It is essential to make this distinction between sadness and depression. "I feel like crying all the time", "I don't feel like doing anything", "I only see the negative".…

Fear

Appears when we sWe feel that there may be a real or imagined danger.. If it is real, the fear is adaptive, if it is an imagined danger, that fear can become enslavement. "And if such a thing happens...", "What if I don't get this...", "What if...".

To delve deeper into this emotion, you can consult: "What is fear for?"

Anger

Of all the emotions I am going to talk about, this is the one that can produce more ambivalence, in the sense that there are people who can tolerate anger, what happens is that sometimes they do not manage it in an adaptive way.. Either they silence it or it comes out in an uncontrolled way, in the form of anger (shouting, insults...). Anger is important in order to be able to set limits, to express what I do not agree with or do not like or what hurts me about the other person, as long as it is respectful of the other person. "I don't like this about your behavior, it makes me angry that you tell me...".

About anger, I can suggest you a couple of articles that can help you manage it:

• "How to control anger: 7 practical tips."

• "Emotional control techniques: 10 effective strategies".

Jealousy

When they appear they occur in front of a third person. That person is considered a rival and if the expression of jealousy is not managed, it can become a feeling of wanting to "dominate" or "possess" the other person.. It usually creates estrangement and is destructive in relationships. "He loves you more than he loves me, he pays more attention to you than to me...".

Guilt

It would be the "Jiminy Cricket" that we all have inside us and that appears when we have hurt another person. appears when we have harmed another person. "It's your fault", "You should have done it differently", "It's your fault", "You should have done it differently".…

After having made a tour through all the emotions, Which is the emoticon that you like to feel the least?And what do you usually do with it?