"The Four Agreements": a guide to personal liberation.

Based on Toltec wisdom, this book gives several ideas to improve our philosophy of life.

The Four Agreementsby Miguel Ruiz, is one of my favorite books because I have been able to because thanks to reading it I have been able to better understand certain behaviors (both my own and those of others), and this knowledge has helped me gain much more self-confidence and peace of mind.

I don't want to give you the book away; what I do want is to make you really want to read it, and for that I am going to highlight the main points of this wonderful book.

Four commitments to maturity

In summary, the four agreements that give name to this work are the following.

1. Be impeccable with your words

Along the lines of this work, the author explains to us the power that words really haveThe words we say to others, as well as those we receive and those we silently dedicate to ourselves.

Words have an impact on us. What we tell ourselves that we are is what makes us what we really are, and not the other way around. That is why we must be very careful how we treat ourselves and what we sincerely think of ourselves.

"Say only what you mean," recommends Don Miguel Ruiz. Avoid saying things you don't mean simply to fit in with a group, to appear "normal".to appear "normal". Also, don't talk for the sake of talking, because as I explained before, words have a real impact on others and what may mean nothing to you may have a lot of value for someone else, both in a positive sense and in the opposite.

2. Don't take anything personally

This section of the book is revealing, as it tells us how to what others say and think about us only defines them, because "what others say and do is a projection of their own reality".What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.

Remember if you have ever found out what others thought about you. Maybe you have felt offended or offended... It hurts to be criticized, we are affected by the opinion that others have about us, but we must be aware that what others think of us is not the reality of who we are, but we must be aware that what others think of us is not the reality of who we are. is not the reality of who we are, because their opinions are distorted by their own reality, perspective and judgment.their perspective and judgment.

Understanding this may be somewhat simple, but putting it into practice requires a lot of daily effort and patience. Like any healthy habit we want to adopt, we must be patient and constant until we see results.

Perhaps there will come a day when the opinions of others will not matter to us, that day is when we will be truly free, masters of ourselves and capable of being who we really are. and capable of being who we really are.

3. Don't make assumptions.

As the author says, "find the courage to ask and express what you really want".

How many times have you jumped to your own conclusions without even asking? How many times have you been misunderstood, and by not clarifying things, misunderstandings have been created? As easy as it is to ask questions to clarify a matter, we insist on jumping to our own conclusions and, in general, they are usually harmful.

Why is it that when a friend stops calling us, we tend to think that he is no longer interested in us or that he has forgotten about us? What if he is suffering a lot of stress at work and has even "forgotten" his mother? If we ask, we get answers, and they are often much closer to reality. are usually much closer to reality than our own conclusions.

"We tend to make assumptions about everything. The problem is that, in doing so, we believe that what we assume is true. We would swear it's real. We make assumptions about what others do or think. [...] This is why whenever we make assumptions, we always get ourselves into trouble."

On the other hand, this section of the book also explains to us the importance of saying what we thinkWe should not keep our feelings to ourselves, we should not be afraid to express ourselves. How many relationships have not happened because of the fear of rejection? Think of all the things you have left unsaid for fear of being laughed at, of not knowing how to explain yourself well, or even out of embarrassment.

4. Always do the most you can.

The most you can do will always depend on the circumstances, because you can't do the same thing when you wake up with energy as when you have the flu. Nor can we do the same thing at the end of the day when we are mentally exhausted as when we have just woken up; it even depends on our state of mind. But what Miguel Ruiz explains to us is that we should always do the most we can, understanding our circumstances and adapting to them, but as much as we can and adapting to them, but as much as we can in each case.

When you do the most you can, you avoid regrets. Do you know that the important thing is to participate? Well yes, that is what is important, but knowing that you did the best you could, that you gave everything you could, because thanks to this you will avoid judging yourself and even mistreating yourself with phrases such as "I am a failure", "I should have tried harder", "I am a lazy person"....

And these are, in short, the four agreements that define this book. It is a book that in my opinion everyone should read, because you learn a lot about human behavior and delves into the way of acting that by law we generally learn as people.