Tips to stop thinking about what others think of you

Do you feel vulnerable when other people judge you? Learn to put it in perspective.

We all like to be liked and accepted by others, but many people spend too much time and energy trying to be liked by others.

The psychological wear and tear of trying to please everyone is unhealthy and causes unnecessary stress. In fact, it is a very common way to stop living in the present moment and does not benefit a person's well-being. Besides, there is nothing more seductive than a person who is totally in tune with himself, and who lives life as he would like to live it.

Think about yourself before you think about what others think of you.

It is inevitable not to think from time to time about the image we show outwardly, since we are social beings. Although it is not a matter of isolating yourself from the world and living in a remote village, you can't spend 24 hours a day trying to be what others want you to be.

Happiness is achieved by knowing yourself and fighting for what you love.. If you are one of those who spend a lot of time thinking about giving an image to be accepted by others, you probably show yourself like that:

• You stop being yourself and you are what others want you to be.
• You distance yourself from others so that they won't judge you.
• You live constantly on the lookout for whether your actions will be accepted or not, and you maintain a constant state of alertness that is exhausting.
• If something doesn't go as planned, you feel very bad.
• You forget about yourself to think about others.
• You keep your emotions bottled up because you are thinking about whether or not they will be accepted by others.
• You don't show yourself as you are, but as they want you to be.
• You have a shell in place that prevents your relationships from being authentic and it wears you down.

Tips on how to stop thinking about what others think of you

As we've discussed, trying to get everyone to like you all the time is exhausting. If you spend a lot of time fearing the opinion of others to the point that you run out of time for yourself, follow the tips below.

Understand the reasons for your concern

Understanding that culture and socialization are important to our social belonging is the first step to stop thinking this way. From a young age we are taught to act in a certain wayto dress in a certain way, to accept certain ideologies, to buy fashionable products, and so on. In addition, the emergence of social networks means that we are constantly exposed to a showcase of social comparison.

Reflecting on what is happening around us is important in order to recover our identity as subjects and not objects. It is exhausting to always be aware of controlling the image we give to the outside world, and even more so when we have to be aware of what we post on our Facebook, Instagram, etc. profiles.

Getting out of this vicious circle as soon as possible and investing time in loving ourselves, is to to take a step forward and regain our authentic "self".

You can't control what others think of you.

Each person is a world, with their experiences, their thoughts, their tastes, and so on. It is impossible to please everyone because you can't fit into everyone's parameters. Focusing on others instead of yourself is a mistake, as you have no control over what they think or say about you. What you can control is the path you want to follow and what you will take with you.

Don't waste your energy on what they think of you.

As we have already said, thinking about what others think of you is exhausting. It's exhausting because you're wasting your energy on something you have no control over. Invest that time in thinking about you and you're sure to get better results. Know yourself, fight for what you want in life and grow as a person. When you get in tune with yourself, you enter into a State of Flow and everything costs less.

Practice Mindfulness

The Mindfulness philosophy refers to living the present in its entirety, and proposes that on this path we are able, progressively, to find the essence of who we are. With Mindfulness we become aware of the reality that surrounds us and we can live from freedomand acceptance.

The way we treat ourselves is based on compassion and "not judging ourselves". Therefore, from the Mindfulness mentality, it does not make much sense what others think of us, because we respect ourselves as we are. we respect ourselves as we are.