What is coaching and what is it for?

Beyond the classic definitions, coaching is based on experiences.

Here's a proposition for you: in this article you will not only find out what coaching is once and for all, but at the end I will ask you some questions to help you begin to see what coaching is.I am going to ask you some questions at the end to help you begin to see the solution to the problems you are experiencing and feeling right now.

Because for you to know what coaching is, you must also experience it. Coaching is not about giving talks, motivating or doing workshops, but much more than that.. It is a tool with which it is possible to achieve the change you need to solve your personal or professional problems (in relation to your self-knowledge, self-esteem, fears, self-confidence, personal relationships, etc.).

If coaching works, it is because you learn from you and when you change and develop yourself, everything that happens to you changes.

What is coaching?

More than 10 years ago coaching came into our lives as a powerful personal development tool. a powerful tool for personal development to achieve changes and new goals in your life. Gradually, it became so popular that poor quality training started to be offered and inexperienced "coaches" emerged out of nowhere.

So let's start at the end: a coach is not a motivational speaker, nor someone who gives talks or advice on how to change your life in workshops or seminars. You, only you, are the person who is going to change and transform your life. and a coach is only an expert very prepared to accompany you on that path (deep training and experience of many years).

I can tell you this from my own experience. 7 years ago I was a coach and psychologist who accompanied people to achieve a great change and transformation in their lives. But what about me? In order to be a good coach, I had to set an example. That's why I decided to live my own personal development process and travel to other countries, to learn more about myself.

I dared to do something different, to grow and improve myself. I have lived in 3 countries and I have accompanied people from up to 6 different countries. What I have learned in this experience is that people can change what happens to us if we commit to live a process of change. if we commit ourselves to live a process of personal change.. And that is what a coach is for: to accompany you to achieve it in an expert and professional way.

For this reason I created Empoderamiento Humano, an online school of personal development where I have combined all this knowledge and I accompany you in processes of change so that you can develop the part of you that you need most (your self-esteem, emotional management, self-knowledge, professional development) and build a new life.

To access Empoderamiento Humano, you can see the contact details here.

A way to empower yourself

To tell you what coaching is, you first have to forget all the definitions you may have read before on pages like Wikipedia or similar. The vast majority of them are wrong.

The word coaching here does not come from the English verb "to coach", but from the Hungarian term "kocz", which means carriage or horse-drawn carriage, as it is often said that a coaching process is like a journey from where you are now (how you feel, how you relate, how you act and what you achieve) to a place where you feel better, achieve new results and experiences.

I will give you my personal definition: "Coaching is a tool for human empowerment and personal development through which a person, with the company of a professional Coach, lives a process of change and personal transformation that makes him/her live new experiences, achieve new goals, reach more clarity and self-confidence and leave behind situations in his/her life that were bothering him/her".

Sounds good, doesn't it? But I'm going to tell you more. I'm going to tell you where coaching really comes from, what you can get out of it, why it works so well, and how you can start your experience to grow and excel..

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Coaching is based on the human being itself

Coaching is not a fad, as it comes from the Socratic dialogue, which consists of accompanying a person in his or her process of change through a deep understanding of their way of seeing life. and asking questions that help him/her find a new vision and achieve the changes he/she needs.

This way of working is the one that psychologists know works. Talks, advice, tips or impact techniques are only distractions that are not really going to change what happens to you, except yourself if you initiate a process of change and transformation.

The 5 factors

Do you want to know what are the basics that make coaching work? There are five factors that make coaching work, and they are key to any change process. are key to any process of change and personal development and personal development (also in a psychological therapy). They are the following.

1. Responsibility

In a coaching process, you are the one who takes responsibility for changing what happens to you through your own change. No one is going to give you advice or guide you, because then you would be depending on the coach. Here, it is you who takes action and grows and the coach accompanies you to achieve it. It is realistic, practical, ethical and safe.

2. Openness

In a coaching process you discover that your problems are due to the fact that you cannot find solutions because your vision of what is happening is limited.

With coaching you learn to be more open, to have a broader view, to to have a broader point of viewAnd that gives you a greater creativity to understand the other, to find solutions and new attitudes, actions and thoughts.

3. Development

With coaching you will experience changes in you and that will give you a greater personal development. Life is change, but only when you do something different that leads you to that change..

4. Commitment

This is probably the most important factor. In a coaching process there is a commitment between you and the coach, so that you take action and begin to discover yourself, to know yourself better and to change your situation. Knowing that "someone is there" with you is what changes everything.

5. You learn and unlearn

In a coaching process you learn to leave behind behaviors and attitudes that were freezing you in problems, as if you were living in a circle where experiences were repeated over and over again.It is as if you were living inside a circle where experiences were repeated over and over again. With the company of a coach, you get out of that circle forever.

Questions to answer

Now I am going to ask you those questions that can help you live your change process. Answer them honestly and if possible on paper. Let's go for it!

¿What is it that you would like to achieve in your life (in relation to you) that you haven't achieved yet?

What do you think is the part of you that, if changed and transformed, would help you achieve what you want and is resisting you (your self-esteem, your self-knowledge, how you understand and manage your emotions, your fear, your anger or guilt, your personal relationships, your motivation, how you communicate, etc.)?

Do you know what motivates you and makes you want to grow and improve as a person? Are these reasonsdepend on you or are they related to external factors??

Would you like to transform your life into an extraordinary experience?

Your answers should help you take the first step. Know what you want to achieve, what needs to change about you, and what you can do to start achieving it.and what you can do to start getting there.

If you want help and that company, I invite you to enter Empoderamiento humano.com, the school of personal development that I have created and in which I offer you all the knowledge and experiences that I have accumulated in these 10 years of processes and travels.

In the school you will find free processes to learn to understand your emotions, improve your self-esteem, increase your self-knowledge and give your life a purpose or improve the personal skills that make you a better professional.

You can also find specific trainings to achieve changes in your life with my company as a coach, which you can do from home and with freedom of schedules.

Your big change begins when you commit yourself to be that change. This is how your life and what happens to you will change forever and give a different contribution to the world. And that, above all, is the meaning of empowerment.