What is the treatment for delayed ejaculation?

Let's see how this sexual problem can be addressed through psychological therapy.

There is a false belief that taking too long to ejaculate improves sexual relations and increases pleasure, but the truth is that when orgasm is too long it can be very frustrating, both for the man and his partner.

Delayed ejaculation often causes conflicts in the relationship, generating a great dissatisfaction in sex life. If you suffer from this problem, it is likely that you feel alone and misunderstood or even embarrassed to seek help. So let's see what are the characteristics and treatment of delayed ejaculation..

What is delayed ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation is a male orgasmic disorder characterized by the disappearance or delay of orgasm after the normal arousal stage of sexual intercourse has occurred.

It is estimated that between 2 and 6% of men suffer from delayed ejaculation..

Types

Depending on the degree, you may find yourself in one of the following cases:

• You manage to ejaculate but you delay the moment too muchProbably because you are more concerned about ejaculating than enjoying the sexual intercourse.
• You fail to ejaculate during intercourse and postpone it to a later time. In fact, approximately 85% of men who suffer from delayed ejaculation only reach orgasm through orgasm. only reach orgasm through masturbation..
• You rarely or never ejaculate, in which case it is referred to as anejaculation.

Delayed ejaculation is also classified according to the time of its onset:

• Primary delayed ejaculation, when you have never been able to ejaculate during intercourse.
• Secondary delayed ejaculation, when you used to be able to ejaculate during intercourse but after a certain point in time you started having problems reaching orgasm..

Symptoms: how to know if you suffer from it

Some men with delayed ejaculation need 30 minutes or more of sexual stimulation to reach orgasm and ejaculate.

However, the key to diagnosing delayed ejaculation lies not in the time, but in the level of sexual distress, frustration or fatigue that causes you to lack control over ejaculation. Therefore, it is not simply that it takes you longer than usual to ejaculate, but that this delay causes your sex life and your sexual life to be causes you and your partner to have an unsatisfactory sex life..

Causes

The main causes of delayed ejaculation are the following.

Psychological

Delayed ejaculation usually has a large psychological component. Perhaps you have received an excessively puritanical, restrictive and/or sanctioning upbringing regarding sexuality based on the belief that sexual intercourse is "bad". It could also be because you demand too much of yourself in the relationship, so that you find it difficult to relax.So you find it difficult to relax and enjoy yourself because you are so focused on your performance or you are so concerned about satisfying your partner that you forget about your own pleasure.

In other cases, the problem may stem from fear of intimacy, fear of an unwanted pregnancy, relationship difficulties or an unresolved sexual identity conflict. However, inadequate masturbatory habits are often at the root of delayed ejaculation, especially if you exert a lot of pressure by making very fast movements, so that you will find it difficult, if not impossible, to obtain sufficient stimulation with penetration alone.

Organic and/or psychological diseases

Some neurological problems, such as those caused by stroke, stroke-related strokes, spinal cord injuries or neuropathies; diseases such as diabetes, spinal cord problems or neuropathiesdiseases such as diabetes, urinary tract problems and disorders such as depression can cause delayed ejaculation. Alcohol and/or drug use can also cause this problem.

Medications

The use of some medications, including antidepressants, anxiolytics and antihypertensives can delay ejaculatory response. Some Erectile Dysfunction drugs can also cause delayed ejaculation. can also cause delayed ejaculation.

Consequences

When sexual intercourse goes on too long, it can become uncomfortable. Both you and your partner are likely to experience pain and irritation in the genital area due to overstimulation. These problems can cause you to lose interest in sexual activity because, instead of pleasure, it causes frustration, anxiety and fatigue. frustration, anxiety and fatigue..

If the problem is prolonged over time and you do not talk about it, your partner may become deeply insecure because he/she will think that he/she is not attractive enough or that he/she is not able to stimulate you properly to satisfy your sexual needs, which will generate problems of self-esteem and self-confidence.

In cases, if you have difficulty ejaculating during sex, it is also likely that you have difficulty conceiving, which becomes a major source of tension. becomes a major source of tension when you both want to have a child..

In the long run, if delayed ejaculation is not treated, it usually generates conflicts that end up breaking the relationship. In fact, this type of problem often leads to an affective flattening in both partners, so that they end up distancing themselves emotionally.

Treatment

In El Prado Psicólogos we look for the causes of the problem to eliminate it from the root. Through techniques such as clinical hypnosis we can access the unconscious of the patient to discover the negative beliefs and attitudes about sexuality that probably drag from adolescence or even before and that are feeding the problem.

With techniques such as EMDR and EFT we can release the emotional information recorded in your brain linked to negative past experiences. linked to negative past experiences that currently continue to feed that vicious cycle of anxiety, tension and insecurity that prevents you from fully enjoying your sexuality.

We also use behavioral techniques and sex therapy exercises to help you rediscover intimacy. The goal of some of these exercises is to match thoughts with sensations, since one of the main problems with delayed ejaculation is that the frequency of negative thoughts about the need to ejaculate ends up neutralizing your erotic fantasies and stimulation.

That cycle is broken when you learn to be fully present and get rid of worries and performance anxiety. For this reason, we will also work with relaxation and mindfulness techniques..

If delayed ejaculation has its origin in a couple's problem, we will work with both of you to strengthen your relationship, solve latent conflicts and achieve a more satisfying sex life for both of you.

Since the approach of the psychological intervention should occur through different facets of the problem, in our center we have an area specialized in sexology and couple therapy with expert sexologists and couple therapists who help patients to improve their sexual life.

So... What does the treatment achieve?

• Learn to relax and feel less anxious during your sexual encounters.
• Ejaculate naturally and have better orgasms.
• Obtain more pleasure with your partner.
• Improve your self-confidence and self-control.