What to do when a man walks away from your life?

Several recommendations on what to do when an affective relationship is on hold.

Social relationships are always complicated, both for men and women.. Although we are alike in many ways, we are also very different in others.

In the particular case of relating to the opposite gender, men tend to be more direct. That is why it is common that during the initial stages of getting to know each other and initiating something similar to a dating relationship, men go a little faster than women.

But just as it is common for men to initiate romantic relationships in a relatively direct way, it is also common for them to break off the relationship in a characteristic, direct way. So let's see what to do when a man walks away from youLet's see then what to do when a man moves away, leaving behind a stagnant or directly broken relationship, blocked.

How to cope when a man walks away

Let's look at some coping tools to deal with this situation, to avoid that it affects much to the mood and make additional problems arise.

1. Evaluate the reasons: don't make unfounded assumptions.

When suddenly the subject has stopped being close, no longer writes, does not answer, does not call... the situation can lead to a series of assumptions that respond more to our emotionality than to anything else.

The best thing to do is to keep calm and not to fall into extreme hypothesis.. When in doubt, what we must do is to look for a clear answer from this person, approach him/her with the firm conviction of obtaining an accurate answer to the situation.

If this is not possible, then it is time to respect the apparent motives of the other person, without supposing, and to respect the distance. Remember that no one is indispensable for happiness.

2. Be firm in your decisions: opportunities have a limit.

In some cases, especially when there is a component of emotional attachment, it is common that you do not want to accept that the subject has moved away, and you are not constant in your decisions to move away as well.

For example, if you have decided that the healthiest thing for you is not to give more than you receive and not to pursue the permanence of this man in your life, you must carry it out.

The more constant you are and the more time passes without contact with this person, the closer you will be to overcoming it, which is the ideal.which is ideal. It is never good to leave our peace of mind in the hands of another person. If you depend too much on someone, it is an issue that you should work on.

3. Give yourself priority: your value as a person is non-negotiable.

After a forced separation, that is to say, when they have moved away from us without giving us any explanation to help us understand what has happened, it is quite frequent to tend to self-blame, to think that the reason is due to our defects.. These thoughts are a mistake.

Attributing the cause of the estrangement to a possible "defect" of ours indicates that we are not giving ourselves the proper value as persons.

It is not possible for us to justify distancing ourselves from someone on the grounds that we are not good enough for them. This is a harmful thought that we must recognize and change immediately.

4. Avoid forced replacements: One nail does not drive out another nail.

Trying to find someone else with whom you can forget the one who is gone will not do you any good. In fact, you will only you will only diminish your autonomy, which is counterproductive for you.. It is best to take time to be alone.

Find activities where you can distract yourself from forced social contact and focus more on you. Also, this way you can meet people who have interests in common with you, and establish a friendship that is not based on commitment, but on sharing the enjoyment of a common hobby.

5. Do not generalize: all men are not the same.

Emotions sometimes lead us to exaggerated or generalized thinking. When a man moves away without clarifying his motives, then unconscious defense mechanisms emerge and play tricks on us... For example, subjectively rationalizing that all men are the same, and that if one left you, they all will.

Gender does not imply the way of understanding relationships, those beliefs are only myths and myths.These beliefs are only myths and old paradigms that we must leave behind.

The more rational we are and accept that things will not always go our way, the more we will stop looking outside for answers and find them in ourselves.

6. Closing cycles: letting go is part of personal growth.

When a stage has completed its cycle, we must accept this situation and let go of what we once wanted. Letting go of that which accompanied us for a while in order to move on and meet new people, live new experiences. Clinging to a person is not healthy, and even less so when he or she is gone.It is not healthy to cling to a person, and even less so when he or she has voluntarily distanced himself or herself from us.

Closing a cycle implies understanding that there have been good times and bad times, and that now all this is part of our learning as a person, which allows us to mature emotionally. allows us to mature emotionally so that we can then live the new experiences from a new perspective.

Bibliographical references:

• Masman, K. (2010). The Uses of Sadness: Why Feeling Sad Is No Reason Not to Be Happy. Allen & Unwin.
• Sternberg, R. J., Weiss. K. (2013) A New Psychology of Love. Yale University Press.