Why do men love ’bitches’? Science answers

Heterosexual men tend to fixate on an unempathetic and sensitive profile of women.

There is a lot of talk about whether women like bad men and whether men like bad women, and there are some relationships that, despite not working out, start out hooking (and often end badly).

But, first of all... what is a bad man? Generally, this term is used for people who are selfish, who transgress social norms in the pursuit of personal benefits or who simply lead us to live a toxic relationship, one of those in which we perceive that we give more than we receive.

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In this article we will talk about this topic taking into account what scientific research suggests.

Bitchy women: why are they more attractive?

What does science have to say about it? Some scientific studies have focused on this line of research, and in many cases it seems that men like selfish women with a tendency to manipulate. According to a team of psychologists at the University of Queensland, Australia, the male subjects in their study preferred girls who were prone to girls who were prone to breaking social rules both in the way they set goals and dealt with others.

This study was published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. Moreover, it seems that in the case of women, exactly the same thing happens, as you can read in this article, "Why do women prefer tough guys?"

People with narcissistic and psychopathic traits are more attractive.

Although it may seem strange, people with narcissistic and psychopathic traits tend to generate more desire in others. This is the conclusion of a study published in the European Journal of Personalitywhich concludes that these traits positively influence speed dating, and these people are seen as more attractive. The scientists found a significant correlation between the score in psychopathy and narcissism and the chances of being chosen or chosen, at least for short relationships.

To conduct the study, the researchers had a sample of 90 people (44 men and 46 women) between the ages of 18 and 32. The subjects answered a questionnaire that measured their scores on both the Dark Triad traits and the Big Five personality traits (extraversion, responsibility, agreeableness, emotional stability, and openness to experience).

After answering the questionnaires, the subjects went on dates with each other and, after each of these dates, they again filled out a questionnaire in which they had to rate the other person taking into account different variables: their physical attractiveness, willingness to become friends, the possibility of having occasional intimate relationships with them, etc. Although the individuals indicated that they preferred people with narcissistic and psychopathic traits, they did not feel the same way about those with narcissistic and psychopathic traits, they did not feel the same way about those with Machiavellian traits..

• You can learn more about this study in this article: "People with narcissistic and psychopathic traits are more attractive, according to a study".

Does the same thing happen in long-term relationships?

These studies talk more about attraction and establishing short-term relationships, but when it comes to maintaining long-term relationships these characteristics can hinder the smooth functioning of the relationship, and do not seem to be the most valued for having a life partner..

This is the conclusion of research published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin which I have already mentioned. The key seems to lie in "sensitivity", which according to the researchers is: "a characteristic that long-term partners prefer, which is based on respect for their values and opinions. Sensitivity is the capacity to give support when the other needs it and the capacity to change in couple relationships, leaving aside individual interest".

This definition seeks to understand what people are looking for in their long-term relationshipsand seems indispensable for long-term relationships in both friendship and love. As Gurit Birnbaum, one of the authors of the research, explains, "this characteristic is not important for a first meeting or for short-term relationships," which is in line with previous explanations; but long-term relationships do need "sensitivity," because, as the researcher states, for men, sensitive women "are more feminine and attractive."

It seems, however, that in the case of the women participating in the study, sensitive men are not attractive at all, but quite the opposite, because. consider them to be dull.

Conclusion: Is rebelliousness seductive?

First of all, it is necessary to mention that the label "mean" does not necessarily refer to meanness. Mean girls are usually referred to when they are rather independent, don't make an effort to be nice, don't mind spending time alone, and so on. They are usually "all-rounder" women, who enjoy day-to-day life and don't want complications.

Most men may find them stimulating for short relationships, as some research has shown. However, scientific studies also conclude that they are not preferred for long-term relationships.